What time does your DH or DW get home from work?

[Anonymous]

OP here. My DH is in the military not an exorbitant amount of pay just good benefits and feel good job that he is helping the country with my support of course. That's what keeps me going. I hope when he retires he doesn't get another one of those long hour jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are expecting and DH gets home at 10:30 - 11:30 at night 6 nights a week with about a 30-40 minute commute. We are seriosuly discussing other options closer to home with less hours, even though it would be less money.

I think it would be worth it if you are expecting.

[Anonymous]

Dh leaves at 7:15 and I pick him up at 5:15 to get our dd together. We all get home at approx. 5:45! it's wonderful!

[Anonymous]

My husband gets home at 4:30 to relieve the nanny. Then he brings the little one to pick me up around 6. After dinner and bedtime (around 8:30) he often goes back to work for a couple hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband gets home at 4:30 to relieve the nanny. Then he brings the little one to pick me up around 6. After dinner and bedtime (around 8:30) he often goes back to work for a couple hours.

That's a nice balance. I wish DH could do that, but can't b/c he works in a DOD classified facility and cannot bring any work out. He says he could do his job from home, but it prohibited.

[Anonymous]

It's the opposite at my house. I'm a teacher (with an intern this year ) and work late most nights. DH is in outside sales and sets his own schedule. He picks up the kids almost every day from school, "cooks" dinner most nights , and is the t-ball coach for our son's team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My DH is in the military not an exorbitant amount of pay just good benefits and feel good job that he is helping the country with my support of course. That's what keeps me going. I hope when he retires he doesn't get another one of those long hour jobs.

Apologies for hijacking, but I am wondering how this works for your family. Do your kid(s) miss your dh a lot? Does he call or e-mail often. My household is now looking at a possible 2 yr period when my dh would live apart from myself and our dd, with visits every 4 months or so. Not the military, just a good job for him and I am in a good job and environment for our dd. Accordingly, a lot of the stress related to deployment would not be there. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My DH is in the military not an exorbitant amount of pay just good benefits and feel good job that he is helping the country with my support of course. That's what keeps me going. I hope when he retires he doesn't get another one of those long hour jobs.

Apologies for hijacking, but I am wondering how this works for your family. Do your kid(s) miss your dh a lot? Does he call or e-mail often. My household is now looking at a possible 2 yr period when my dh would live apart from myself and our dd, with visits every 4 months or so. Not the military, just a good job for him and I am in a good job and environment for our dd. Accordingly, a lot of the stress related to deployment would not be there. Thanks.

They see him mostly on the weekends and that one hour when he is at home during the week. He travels at least a week out of the month. Now I schedule an exercise class once a week just so he gets home earlier so that's seems to help. I work pt so that helps too although I still feel guilty. They are used to seeing him not very much during the week. He was gone traveling over 2/3 rd of the year for they were just babies for a few years. I wish my youngest daughter would be closer to him and she always wants me. My oldest son is however very close to him, it was just easier in the beginning to have him take care of the easier one. Now, I have to force time with dd. If I don't schedule it it basically doesn't happen. He does not call very much unless he needs something, I can never reach him over the phone and I know his email is overfilled so I don't really write much to him. When he does travel he does call me at least every other day, I think I talk to him more when he is away!

[Anonymous]

I work in a law firm and almost every man with small children seems to deliberately hang around later than he needs to -- especially with blackberrys and remote e-mail access. Part of it seems to be macho posturing (wanting to be seen working long hours) and part of it seems to be avoiding the dinner/bath hour, frankly. All of them make lots of money and have stay at home wives, but their lives seem very out of balance.

[Anonymous]

DH gets home between 5.15-5.30. I get home between 6-6.30pm. He takes DD & the dog on a walk once he gets home & before I get home, then we all spend from 6,30-7.30 together b/f DD goes to bed.

[Anonymous]

I work in a law firm and almost every man with small children seems to deliberately hang around later than he needs to -- especially with blackberrys and remote e-mail access. Part of it seems to be macho posturing (wanting to be seen working long hours) and part of it seems to be avoiding the dinner/bath hour, frankly. All of them make lots of money and have stay at home wives, but their lives seem very out of balance.

you'll probably get flamed for this being anti-man or something, but what you said totally reflects our household. Mid-career general counsel DH, me a SAHM wondering what the &%^$ is really so, so important at that requires presence at the office at 7:51 pm. (answer: nothing.) it's posturing. the same work could also be done at after kids go to bed. but leaving at 5:45 would make you be somehow Not Serious, with Questionable Commitment.

(* yes I know this because I used to be there myself. but like other PPs, I felt that the kids should have at least one parent lay eyes on them during the week, so I'm outta the market now).

[Anonymous]

DH usually gets home @ 8pm. Lately, a lot later, like past 10. I'm lucky when I see him at 7.

[Anonymous]

Yikes. I am graduating school and I will have a job where I will be working long hours. I wonder how this will impact my DH and my DD...I hope my DH will be able to cope with it....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a law firm and almost every man with small children seems to deliberately hang around later than he needs to -- especially with blackberrys and remote e-mail access. Part of it seems to be macho posturing (wanting to be seen working long hours) and part of it seems to be avoiding the dinner/bath hour, frankly. All of them make lots of money and have stay at home wives, but their lives seem very out of balance.

I noticed this too at my old law firm.

[Anonymous]

My husband is in grad school at night, and he gets home around 6:30/7PM on work nights (he often leaves the office at 6:30 to avoid traffic and I hate that but he doesn't get home much earlier if he leaves work earlier). Nights he has class he gets home at either 8:30 or 10! I hate the 10PM nights. Also, I work M/W/F and if his class is on a T/Th and I'm alone with her all day, it is a lot harder. I love spending the day with her, but I am so tired by the time he gets home. We both work for the government, so there is really very rarely a need to stay longer than we normally need to stay.