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What time does your DH or DW get home from work?
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Anonymous
| Oh yeah, and we're also looking to perhaps move to remedy the time he spends on the road. |
Anonymous
| I would like to know what these jobs are where your DHs get home at 5:00-6:00. My DH INSISTS that everyone he knows works long hours. He works for a law firm and I know that is true there, as well as some other jobs on the Hill, but I still seem to see a lot of men getting home earlier than that. Do they work for the govt? |
Anonymous
DH gets home at 4:30...AM. We work opposite schedules. Everyone loves to tell me how great it is, but believe me , it has it's downsides!! Especially when DD is teething and likes to wake up on the hour, UNTIL 4 am when she sleeps through and my DH thinks I'm making it all up 
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Anonymous
| Home 3 nights a week (approx) around 7ish. The other two not until late (10) and once or twice a month gone most of the week for business travel. It is hard. But there are many women out there with more difficult situations. I do wonder though if he realizes the effect on the children, particularly as they are getting older (are more aware of dad gone). Sigh. |
Anonymous
Maybe everyone he *knows* works long hours, but that does not mean *everyone* does. My husband and I are both in arts-related fields and generally work a 40-hour week. BUT...I guarantee we make a lot less $$$ than your DH. So, there ya go--tradeoffs. My DH does have to work overtime for a week or two every third month or something, so I can imagine how difficult it would be to do this on a regular basis. |
Anonymous
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I'm a SAHM, and mine gets home at 7:30 every night. He's a government lawyer with an annoyingly strong worth ethic. I think he could easily get home by 7 -- and he was for a while -- but since I am doing bed/bathtime from 7-7:30, it used to infuriate me to have him come home and flop on the couch while I was still working. So now I think he makes an effort not to arrive until right when I finish - ha. I am so jealous of all my mom friends -- nearly all of their husbands get home significantly early, like between 5-6:30. A few of them are also govt lawyers (one for the same agency, even!); one is a psychiatrist; one works in IT for a private firm...
On the upside, DH is around most mornings to get DD up, get her changed/dressed, sometimes do breakfast... He leaves around 8:30 or 9. I am not really happy with this, but we've reached a tolerable status quo now, I suppose. There will be significant renegotiation of this plan, though, before we have a second child... |
Anonymous
| I am a SAHM and my DH leaves the house every day at 6:30 am - he's a physician. He is never home before 7:30 or 8pm and has at least 1 late night per week plus one weekend call. It's a bummer - but I hope it pays off in the long run. I just hate keeping the kids up late so they can see him, at the same time - it is hard to put them to bed and have him come home 10 minutes later - so they go to bed late...... |
Anonymous
| Yeah, I know my DH could get home earlier some nights, but because it disrupts the routine of getting the kids ready for bed so he sometimes puts it off until my older DH is in bed. It is annoying sometimes, but I will admit that though I am tired, it is sometimes easier for me just to put the kids to bed. I know the routine, my older son is used to it, and it just goes more smoothly. When my DH comes home right as our almost 3 year old is about ready for sleep, it gets him all excited and we are in for at least another 1/2 hour before he goes to sleep. He is around more in the mornings than I am though - I teach and leave early. He is able to go in some morning around 9:30. |
Anonymous
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dh gest home after midnight 6 day/week except sunday. he would come home for dinner for some special occasions (holliday, birthday)
we only have one child and actually it works out find for me when ds is younger. I can have a lot of things done during this dinner time especially when the weather is warm. ds and I have simple dinner, play, bath and read and go to bed. but as ds gets older, he wants daddy more and more and whines a lot on this subject. I am thinking about moving closer to dh's office so he can come home for dinner and go back to his office after ds goes to sleep.but the area where his office locates is not a good neighborhood. even ds goes to private schools, where we live is so close to so many good private schools, i don't want ds to spend too much on commuting. |
Anonymous
Same here, none of them ever leave until after 8 and you see a lot of ESPN and WWTDD on the computers. The guy I'm closest to always volunteers (with no prompting) that his wife doesn't mind at all (they have 3 kids). Yeah, right. |
Anonymous
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I'm a PP with a lawyer DH who rolls in right in the middle of bed routine. Or just after.
I agree with PPs that it IS actually a little easier on me and DC if Dad waits 11 minutes until the kid is actually tucked in and "asleep." In terms of smoothness and staying in a groove. However I personally think it's really depressing and screwed up that here we have a child who DOES NOT SEE HIS DAD DURING THE WEEK (in any meaningful way -- 6 minutes while brushing teeth doesn't count). I think here, in career-is-life D.C., this seems OK and somewhat normal because you've got company. Surprisingly, in almost all other parts of the country, this situation is foreign. The other part that irks me is the ESPN, face time equals value thing. On a basic level, DH is actively making a *choice* not to see his children, save for Sunday. It would be one thing if DH had no options, was working 2 jobs to cobble together a livable wage. But he's not. |
Anonymous
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I guess I am lucky - DH leaves at 8 am with us, and comes home by 6 pm. we have breakfast and evening time+dinner together. he works for the fed gvmt, has a good but not huge salary but he told me it is a concious choice as he enjoys family more than work and making big $$. we have enough for things we like (vacations etc) and live modestly....
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Anonymous
My husband is a college professor. He has very flexible hours, except for his classtime, which is 100% set in stone. We used to joke that if I went into labor during class, I should just squeeze my knees together for an hour, because he wouldn't leave a class in session for ANYTHING! Anyway, compared to people from the "how much do you make" thread from a few weeks ago, we're practically destitute. I think we live pretty well, but we could definitely be making more money if we weren't both working in non-profit organizations. I'm happy with the time-money tradeoff. |
Anonymous
| My husband gets home around 8ish and works leaves by 7am at the latest in the mornings. He works in investment banking...also travels quite a bit. We also do a later bed time so DS and DH can spend some time together....on the plus side he pretty much can take days off whenever and work from home if he needs too. I do all dinners/bathtimes and bedtimes with DS. DH will play with him but is way too tired to do much else. |
Anonymous
| We rarely see my husband before 8 o'clock. A lot of nights are 9-10 pm plus he teaches one weeknight. I gave up years ago trying to get him home early. Even when he worked for the gov't he was there until 7 or 8. A very strong work ethic indeed but it has paid off for him in terms of his career. |