Is this rude of MIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The thing I think is most off is the timing of her trip if DH would be gone for a month.

The calling thing wouldn’t even cross my mind. My parents got along well with my in laws but they never communicated independently.

This! Totally unacceptable. Well, for me, a 2 month visit would be totally unacceptable at any time, but I know some people feel differently.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback. I will take it whole heartedly. I think I’m annoyed because my husband invited his mom and has not been here for a month. All the work is falling on me. It’s not fair. She worships the ground he walks upon so even though he is missing he can do know wrong in her mind and has a valid reason.

My own mother did not say anything on the other side of country. she did mention that she was visiting my Dad’s older sister who mentioned that my mother-in-law calls all the time. The backstory is is that my maternal aunt’s grandson is married to my my mother-in-law’s grand daughter as in my husband’s niece. So my mother-in-law calls my maternal aunt who is her grand daughter’s, father-in-law’s mom and she cannot even pick up the phone and call my Dad or Mom? Anyways, I’m being petty. Thanks for calling me out on this. I should redirect my annoyance at my husband or just he less annoyed in life.

Dad's older sister = paternal aunt, not maternal aunt.

Basically your cousin's kid got married to your husband's brother/sister's kid. Your MIL is calling your aunt (Dad's sister), but not your mom or Dad and that irks you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback. I will take it whole heartedly. I think I’m annoyed because my husband invited his mom and has not been here for a month. All the work is falling on me. It’s not fair. She worships the ground he walks upon so even though he is missing he can do know wrong in her mind and has a valid reason.

My own mother did not say anything on the other side of country. she did mention that she was visiting my Dad’s older sister who mentioned that my mother-in-law calls all the time. The backstory is is that my maternal aunt’s grandson is married to my my mother-in-law’s grand daughter as in my husband’s niece. So my mother-in-law calls my maternal aunt who is her grand daughter’s, father-in-law’s mom and she cannot even pick up the phone and call my Dad or Mom? Anyways, I’m being petty. Thanks for calling me out on this. I should redirect my annoyance at my husband or just he less annoyed in life.

Dad's older sister = paternal aunt, not maternal aunt.

Basically your cousin's kid got married to your husband's brother/sister's kid. Your MIL is calling your aunt (Dad's sister), but not your mom or Dad and that irks you?

You revived this thread for THAT?!

[Anonymous]

Why is she visiting when your husband is traveling half the time??!!??

You’re insane for agreeing to this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback. I will take it whole heartedly. I think I’m annoyed because my husband invited his mom and has not been here for a month. All the work is falling on me. It’s not fair. She worships the ground he walks upon so even though he is missing he can do know wrong in her mind and has a valid reason.

My own mother did not say anything on the other side of country. she did mention that she was visiting my Dad’s older sister who mentioned that my mother-in-law calls all the time. The backstory is is that my maternal aunt’s grandson is married to my my mother-in-law’s grand daughter as in my husband’s niece. So my mother-in-law calls my maternal aunt who is her grand daughter’s, father-in-law’s mom and she cannot even pick up the phone and call my Dad or Mom? Anyways, I’m being petty. Thanks for calling me out on this. I should redirect my annoyance at my husband or just he less annoyed in life.

Dad's older sister = paternal aunt, not maternal aunt.

Basically your cousin's kid got married to your husband's brother/sister's kid. Your MIL is calling your aunt (Dad's sister), but not your mom or Dad and that irks you?

You revived this thread for THAT?!

Crap. This thread came up when I searched for something and I didn't realize it was an older thread. Oops.

[Anonymous]

What does your MIL need to call your parents for?
Why do you care if your MIL calls your mother/parents?

Stay out of their relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Why is she visiting when your husband is traveling half the time??!!??

You’re insane for agreeing to this.

+1
Her husband is keeping her busy while he's away ..

[Anonymous]

A 2-month visit is way too long under any circumstances. Moreover, for DH to be gone for 1 of the 2 months is absurd. There is no way DH would do this, nor would I to him. Also, why are you cooking and catering to your mother-in-law? You need to drop the rope 100% to avoid this situation from happening again. She is your DH's responsibility when she visits, period. If he's not home, she can't stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 80 yr old MIL is halfway through a 2 month visit. The first week she became terribly ill. My mom called, she did not take the call. I’m not sure if she even remembers.

After his mom got better my DH left for a month long business trip. My mother in law is pretty easy going but all she does is call friends and family on the phone, knit and Netflix all day. She does not cook and has a lot of dietary restrictions. The cooking falls on me.

She has not called my parents once this trip. Am I in the wrong to be annoyed that she has not called them when I am the primary caretaker and not her son or her daughters?

She's 80 when you wrote this. What do you expect?!. I hope she's either in a realy nice assisted living facility or dead at this point. RIP.

[Anonymous]

WHY ON EARTH WOULD SHE CALL YOUR PARENTS?

My parents wouldn't dream of calling my MIL, or vice-versa. They only know each other through our wedding. They respect each other and are courteous the (very rare) times they meet, but they're not friends and have nothing in common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback. I will take it whole heartedly. I think I’m annoyed because my husband invited his mom and has not been here for a month. All the work is falling on me. It’s not fair. She worships the ground he walks upon so even though he is missing he can do know wrong in her mind and has a valid reason.

My own mother did not say anything on the other side of country. she did mention that she was visiting my Dad’s older sister who mentioned that my mother-in-law calls all the time. The backstory is is that my maternal aunt’s grandson is married to my my mother-in-law’s grand daughter as in my husband’s niece. So my mother-in-law calls my maternal aunt who is her grand daughter’s, father-in-law’s mom and she cannot even pick up the phone and call my Dad or Mom? Anyways, I’m being petty. Thanks for calling me out on this. I should redirect my annoyance at my husband or just he less annoyed in life.

I can't believe I just read this.

If you actually understood it, maybe you can translate. WTF.