SO Wasting time

[Anonymous]

Why is the program taking so long? What did he do these past 3 years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:JFC. Get help for your self. This is none of your business at all. This is how you end up with AC who have to cut you out of their lives to get a moment of peace.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it sounds perfectly fine? She may enjoy living in the college town. They can travel between semesters or quarters.

Yes but uprooting herself and limiting her social and professional lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is the program taking so long? What did he do these past 3 years?

He worked and got an MBA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:His parents are great but influenced by their east European patriarchal culture of men being primary breadwinners.

Well I think this can matter

Do his parents expect he will marry within their community? Is there somewhat of an arranged marriage culture? If either of these things would be true and given that he is willing to hold off on marriage for so long, I think your DD needs to consider that she might be ok for right now and dating but her BF may never seriously consider marrying her.

Idk, his family seems to think very highly of her but who really knows people's private agendas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is the program taking so long? What did he do these past 3 years?

He worked and got an MBA.

He has an MBA AND is pursuing a MS-PHD separately? Is he a perpetual student? Does he want to be? Is this massive career shift indicative of his personality, ie is he aimless or indecisive?

[Anonymous]

Bad vibes. If he really wanted to marry her, he'd put a ring on it.

[Anonymous]

The only productive thing you could do in this situation is set her up with a ready-to-go husband who wants kids now. If you don't have a replacement for her time-wasting BF, she is going to stick with time-wasting BF.

My friend was in the same situation as your DD, but her mom and dad took action and introduced her to someone who was ready for marriage yesterday. This is a situation where if you don't have a solution, then butt out. Sorry, I know it hurts to see daughters wasting time with perpetual students who can't grow up.

[Anonymous]

She has other interested individuals but its a matter of hearts and to be fair, they are two peas in a pod.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I think this is none of your business.

Plus plenty of phD students get married. Many are working as TAs and not bringing home much $ but some. Combined with her income I’m sure they’d be fine.

My husband has outearned me in some yearsC and I him in other years. Nothing wrong with that - it balances out and has worked for our family unit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think this is none of your business.

Plus plenty of phD students get married. Many are working as TAs and not bringing home much $ but some. Combined with her income I’m sure they’d be fine.

My husband has outearned me in some yearsC and I him in other years. Nothing wrong with that - it balances out and has worked for our family unit.

I agree, once married, its our money, not mine or yours. Its us vs the world, not me vs you.