Who else is happily divorced and never wants to marry again?

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Anonymous wrote:My mom never showed interest in dating after leaving my father… she moved in with her single sister instead, who was a major upgrade in terms of income, household division of labor, and companionship. They both seem so much happier and less worn out than women who spent their 30s-60s with a man. I mean it- older married women are so much worse for wear.

I didn’t learn my lesson though and got married 😂

I don’t know that many married women over 60 but the one I do know is saddled with a big burden. The divorcees/widows seem happy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good.

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ?

I’m not sure where the 2-4 months figure comes from. After divorce and dating casually, I was in an OLD relationship for 12 months. We saw each other every weekend and occasionally during the week. I’ve been in another OLD relationship for 9 months now. Much better and more regular than during my 15 year marriage.

I’m unable to find a long playing arrangement which would be both exclusive and with a person I like to have sex with. I only liked 2 men after 100 dates or so. None of them lasted more than 4 months (they were both high profile high income maybe that’s the reason). People just continue dating and eventually find someone more appealing if it’s FWB. Of course many more are interested in having sex with me, but I’m not into sex with someone overweight, or not as educated. FWB would need to have a certain intelligence component for me to want him.

That’s the problem you’re having- a FWB should be for fun, it shouldn’t really matter about their intelligence or anything else aside from your physical attraction to them. I had the most fun with guys I would never have actually dated (or brought around any of my friends). I don’t need intelligence from a FWB.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good.

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ?

I’m not sure where the 2-4 months figure comes from. After divorce and dating casually, I was in an OLD relationship for 12 months. We saw each other every weekend and occasionally during the week. I’ve been in another OLD relationship for 9 months now. Much better and more regular than during my 15 year marriage.

I’m unable to find a long playing arrangement which would be both exclusive and with a person I like to have sex with. I only liked 2 men after 100 dates or so. None of them lasted more than 4 months (they were both high profile high income maybe that’s the reason). People just continue dating and eventually find someone more appealing if it’s FWB. Of course many more are interested in having sex with me, but I’m not into sex with someone overweight, or not as educated. FWB would need to have a certain intelligence component for me to want him.

That’s the problem you’re having- a FWB should be for fun, it shouldn’t really matter about their intelligence or anything else aside from your physical attraction to them. I had the most fun with guys I would never have actually dated (or brought around any of my friends). I don’t need intelligence from a FWB.

I’m submissive and to have sex with a man he must be superior by intelligence from myself. Otherwise I just won’t do it period. And my experience with less smart men is they fall into me so hard, if I allow sexual stuff that I can’t get rid of them (and I do want to get rid of them fast usually!)

[Anonymous]

I met my ExH at 23 and we spilt up just shy of 22 years together, so l’d never really been single as a post-college adult. That was a couple years ago and l have not been one bit tempted to “ get back out there”. My life is so much easier not having to tiptoe around. He was very sensitive and a bad communicator, so it’s taking me a while to come out of my shell and really be myself after years of walking on eggshells to protect myself.

Being alone is better than being with someone you can’t be yourself around.

Also my parents are not nice to each other. They bicker constantly. 49 years married. Not something I’m looking to emulate!

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Anonymous wrote:Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good.

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ?

I’m not sure where the 2-4 months figure comes from. After divorce and dating casually, I was in an OLD relationship for 12 months. We saw each other every weekend and occasionally during the week. I’ve been in another OLD relationship for 9 months now. Much better and more regular than during my 15 year marriage.

I’m unable to find a long playing arrangement which would be both exclusive and with a person I like to have sex with. I only liked 2 men after 100 dates or so. None of them lasted more than 4 months (they were both high profile high income maybe that’s the reason). People just continue dating and eventually find someone more appealing if it’s FWB. Of course many more are interested in having sex with me, but I’m not into sex with someone overweight, or not as educated. FWB would need to have a certain intelligence component for me to want him.

That’s the problem you’re having- a FWB should be for fun, it shouldn’t really matter about their intelligence or anything else aside from your physical attraction to them. I had the most fun with guys I would never have actually dated (or brought around any of my friends). I don’t need intelligence from a FWB.

I’m submissive and to have sex with a man he must be superior by intelligence from myself. Otherwise I just won’t do it period. And my experience with less smart men is they fall into me so hard, if I allow sexual stuff that I can’t get rid of them (and I do want to get rid of them fast usually!)

Gurl, that’s a “You Problem.”

You need to unclench.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mom never showed interest in dating after leaving my father… she moved in with her single sister instead, who was a major upgrade in terms of income, household division of labor, and companionship. They both seem so much happier and less worn out than women who spent their 30s-60s with a man. I mean it- older married women are so much worse for wear.

I didn’t learn my lesson though and got married 😂

I don’t know that many married women over 60 but the one I do know is saddled with a big burden. The divorcees/widows seem happy.

How do you not know many married women over 60? They're all divorced or widowed?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good.

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ?

Same age. I’ve had an 18 months OLD relationship that I ended. I haven’t had no problem finding long-term sex arrangements with online dating as a 45-year-old woman. I’ve never had a relationship last 2 to 4 months unless I’m the one who cut it off. You’re doing something wrong. Finding a monogamous sex partner that is somewhat long-term online is not an issue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good.

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ?

I’m not sure where the 2-4 months figure comes from. After divorce and dating casually, I was in an OLD relationship for 12 months. We saw each other every weekend and occasionally during the week. I’ve been in another OLD relationship for 9 months now. Much better and more regular than during my 15 year marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good.

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ?

Same age. I’ve had an 18 months OLD relationship that I ended. I haven’t had no problem finding long-term sex arrangements with online dating as a 45-year-old woman. I’ve never had a relationship last 2 to 4 months unless I’m the one who cut it off. You’re doing something wrong. Finding a monogamous sex partner that is somewhat long-term online is not an issue.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good.

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ?

I’m not sure where the 2-4 months figure comes from. After divorce and dating casually, I was in an OLD relationship for 12 months. We saw each other every weekend and occasionally during the week. I’ve been in another OLD relationship for 9 months now. Much better and more regular than during my 15 year marriage.

I’m unable to find a long playing arrangement which would be both exclusive and with a person I like to have sex with. I only liked 2 men after 100 dates or so. None of them lasted more than 4 months (they were both high profile high income maybe that’s the reason). People just continue dating and eventually find someone more appealing if it’s FWB. Of course many more are interested in having sex with me, but I’m not into sex with someone overweight, or not as educated. FWB would need to have a certain intelligence component for me to want him.

That’s the problem you’re having- a FWB should be for fun, it shouldn’t really matter about their intelligence or anything else aside from your physical attraction to them. I had the most fun with guys I would never have actually dated (or brought around any of my friends). I don’t need intelligence from a FWB.

I’m submissive and to have sex with a man he must be superior by intelligence from myself. Otherwise I just won’t do it period. And my experience with less smart men is they fall into me so hard, if I allow sexual stuff that I can’t get rid of them (and I do want to get rid of them fast usually!)

Judging by the writing here I’m surprised you’re having difficulty finding a man more intelligent than you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good.

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ?

Same age. I’ve had an 18 months OLD relationship that I ended. I haven’t had no problem finding long-term sex arrangements with online dating as a 45-year-old woman. I’ve never had a relationship last 2 to 4 months unless I’m the one who cut it off. You’re doing something wrong. Finding a monogamous sex partner that is somewhat long-term online is not an issue.

Did you look for a monogamous sex partner or a relationship? These are not the same. And did you disclose from the start what arrangement you were looking for? Are these men sharing any of your interests, e.g. going with you to concerts, travel together, introduce to family members and treat like a GF, or it's just meeting for physical needs once a week?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good.

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ?

Same age. I’ve had an 18 months OLD relationship that I ended. I haven’t had no problem finding long-term sex arrangements with online dating as a 45-year-old woman. I’ve never had a relationship last 2 to 4 months unless I’m the one who cut it off. You’re doing something wrong. Finding a monogamous sex partner that is somewhat long-term online is not an issue.

Did you look for a monogamous sex partner or a relationship? These are not the same. And did you disclose from the start what arrangement you were looking for? Are these men sharing any of your interests, e.g. going with you to concerts, travel together, introduce to family members and treat like a GF, or it's just meeting for physical needs once a week?

I had a yearlong relationship with one that was a boyfriend. I had an 18-month one with someone who was not a boyfriend. Yes, it was monogamous. I was not looking for a relationship with the first but it happened anyway. Daily texts and sex is good enough for me.

If you are the 45 year old empty nester who is Eastern European who makes 400k but some of that is a business and you have a government job, I recognize you. I am also 45 but I don't have the time you have. I have two elementary kids. I don't have time to do a full blown relationship. You mentioned a monogamous sex partner that is long term. Yes, that is easily acheiveable. Being a girlfriend is an entirely different thing entirely. That is harder. You said it was hard to find a monogamous sex partner that is long-term...it is not. That is why I responded.

Personally, I don't have the capacity for that. No time or energy. And I don't need more than regular intimacy and frequent communication (texts and calls). An occasional outing is also fine. But I can't do travel, family stuff, and going on dates all the time. My youngest kid is 8 and my kids have activities every single day. EVERY day. I share custody but see them more than half the time and I work a lot.

But the short answer is, no, long-term monogamous sex and satisfying sex is not hard to find with online dating. You said it was. It's not. A long-term RELATIONSHIP that could be serious is hard to find and that is what you are describing...not a monogamous sexual partner.

Many people don't want a serious relationship or marriage at this age, especially if they still have kids at home. Most mid-40s people I know still have elementary kids like me. I don't know a single empty nester at the age of 45. We don't have time for full blown relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced DCUM women coping that they will never get remarried because they don’t need no man and totally not because no man wants an aging single mom, lmao.

Then we should both be happy, correct?

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Anonymous wrote:My mom never showed interest in dating after leaving my father… she moved in with her single sister instead, who was a major upgrade in terms of income, household division of labor, and companionship. They both seem so much happier and less worn out than women who spent their 30s-60s with a man. I mean it- older married women are so much worse for wear.

I didn’t learn my lesson though and got married 😂

I don’t know that many married women over 60 but the one I do know is saddled with a big burden. The divorcees/widows seem happy.

How do you not know many married women over 60? They're all divorced or widowed?

the ones I’m close to, yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good.

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ?

Same age. I’ve had an 18 months OLD relationship that I ended. I haven’t had no problem finding long-term sex arrangements with online dating as a 45-year-old woman. I’ve never had a relationship last 2 to 4 months unless I’m the one who cut it off. You’re doing something wrong. Finding a monogamous sex partner that is somewhat long-term online is not an issue.

Did you look for a monogamous sex partner or a relationship? These are not the same. And did you disclose from the start what arrangement you were looking for? Are these men sharing any of your interests, e.g. going with you to concerts, travel together, introduce to family members and treat like a GF, or it's just meeting for physical needs once a week?

I had a yearlong relationship with one that was a boyfriend. I had an 18-month one with someone who was not a boyfriend. Yes, it was monogamous. I was not looking for a relationship with the first but it happened anyway. Daily texts and sex is good enough for me.

If you are the 45 year old empty nester who is Eastern European who makes 400k but some of that is a business and you have a government job, I recognize you. I am also 45 but I don't have the time you have. I have two elementary kids. I don't have time to do a full blown relationship. You mentioned a monogamous sex partner that is long term. Yes, that is easily acheiveable. Being a girlfriend is an entirely different thing entirely. That is harder. You said it was hard to find a monogamous sex partner that is long-term...it is not. That is why I responded.

Personally, I don't have the capacity for that. No time or energy. And I don't need more than regular intimacy and frequent communication (texts and calls). An occasional outing is also fine. But I can't do travel, family stuff, and going on dates all the time. My youngest kid is 8 and my kids have activities every single day. EVERY day. I share custody but see them more than half the time and I work a lot.

But the short answer is, no, long-term monogamous sex and satisfying sex is not hard to find with online dating. You said it was. It's not. A long-term RELATIONSHIP that could be serious is hard to find and that is what you are describing...not a monogamous sexual partner.

Many people don't want a serious relationship or marriage at this age, especially if they still have kids at home. Most mid-40s people I know still have elementary kids like me. I don't know a single empty nester at the age of 45. We don't have time for full blown relationships.

You recognized me right. I’m not looking for exclusive sexual relationship. I only date those who are a match for me long term for a relationship as a package. I have electronic devices for my sexual needs - don’t need a man outside a relationship. It’s a waste of time for me since the goal is long term partnership and also health risks. A person without affection who is not committed to me is highly likely to get sex in several places. I actually do stay friends with a man with whom relationship didn’t work out , we go out to KC from time to time as friends. Not FWB