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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Great dates. Regular sex. Life is good. [/quote]

Woman here 45 yo. Dating is fun but I miss regular marital sex. How do you get regular sex if most OLD relationships last 2-4 months, and then you need to look for someone new ? [/quote]

Same age. I’ve had an 18 months OLD relationship that I ended. I haven’t had no problem finding long-term sex arrangements with online dating as a 45-year-old woman. I’ve never had a relationship last 2 to 4 months unless I’m the one who cut it off. You’re doing something wrong. Finding a monogamous sex partner that is somewhat long-term online is not an issue. [/quote]

Did you look for a monogamous sex partner or a relationship? These are not the same. And did you disclose from the start what arrangement you were looking for? Are these men sharing any of your interests, e.g. going with you to concerts, travel together, introduce to family members and treat like a GF, or it's just meeting for physical needs once a week? [/quote]

I had a yearlong relationship with one that was a boyfriend. I had an 18-month one with someone who was not a boyfriend. Yes, it was monogamous. I was not looking for a relationship with the first but it happened anyway. Daily texts and sex is good enough for me.

If you are the 45 year old empty nester who is Eastern European who makes 400k but some of that is a business and you have a government job, I recognize you. I am also 45 but I don't have the time you have. I have two elementary kids. I don't have time to do a full blown relationship. You mentioned a monogamous sex partner that is long term. Yes, that is easily acheiveable. Being a girlfriend is an entirely different thing entirely. That is harder. You said it was hard to find a monogamous sex partner that is long-term...it is not. That is why I responded.

Personally, I don't have the capacity for that. No time or energy. And I don't need more than regular intimacy and frequent communication (texts and calls). An occasional outing is also fine. But I can't do travel, family stuff, and going on dates all the time. My youngest kid is 8 and my kids have activities every single day. EVERY day. I share custody but see them more than half the time and I work a lot.

But the short answer is, no, long-term monogamous sex and satisfying sex is not hard to find with online dating. You said it was. It's not. A long-term RELATIONSHIP that could be serious is hard to find and that is what you are describing...not a monogamous sexual partner.

Many people don't want a serious relationship or marriage at this age, especially if they still have kids at home. Most mid-40s people I know still have elementary kids like me. I don't know a single empty nester at the age of 45. We don't have time for full blown relationships. [/quote]

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