What’s it like being married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg this thread is so nasty and bitter. I am married without kids and it is awesome. Like a permanent sleepover with my best friend. No idea how it happened but we are super simpatico and going through life together is actually quite fun. The hard part is the random curveballs that life throws at you—but at least you guys are on the same team and battling them together.

I never lived with anyone (besides roommates) prior to marriage, and while there was a small adjustment period in the very beginning, it is way easier than I thought it was going to be. He is not a “big kid” and we have sex about 4 times a week.

It is not “nasty and bitter,” it is just reality for many married people. Just because you have a picture perfect marriage with your soulmate does not mean everyone does, so don’t be so smug. People are just trying to be honest with the OP. Marriage is not a fairy tale for most people.

Things that were 100% never said in PP by anyone but you: picture perfect, soulmate, marriage [is] a fairy tale.

Ponder that for a moment. Come on, you don’t think your response doesn’t come off even just a little bitter?

[Anonymous]

The hard part is accepting that aspects of your partner will change. If you accept that your sex drive will diminish, your partner will gain weight/lose hair, your spouse may change careers, etc., it's much easier. If you are constantly fighting for the wife or husband you had at 30, and you're now 45, you are in for a world of disappointment.

[Anonymous]

Once you have kids it’s like a hostage situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg this thread is so nasty and bitter. I am married without kids and it is awesome. Like a permanent sleepover with my best friend. No idea how it happened but we are super simpatico and going through life together is actually quite fun. The hard part is the random curveballs that life throws at you—but at least you guys are on the same team and battling them together.

I never lived with anyone (besides roommates) prior to marriage, and while there was a small adjustment period in the very beginning, it is way easier than I thought it was going to be. He is not a “big kid” and we have sex about 4 times a week.

It is not “nasty and bitter,” it is just reality for many married people. Just because you have a picture perfect marriage with your soulmate does not mean everyone does, so don’t be so smug. People are just trying to be honest with the OP. Marriage is not a fairy tale for most people.

Things that were 100% never said in PP by anyone but you: picture perfect, soulmate, marriage [is] a fairy tale.

Ponder that for a moment. Come on, you don’t think your response doesn’t come off even just a little bitter?

Well they may as well have been said. PP probably got married six months ago and is still in the honeymoon stage, so take it all with a grain of salt anyway. A “sleepover with your best friend” is not how most long term married couples describe marriage. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg this thread is so nasty and bitter. I am married without kids and it is awesome. Like a permanent sleepover with my best friend. No idea how it happened but we are super simpatico and going through life together is actually quite fun. The hard part is the random curveballs that life throws at you—but at least you guys are on the same team and battling them together.

I never lived with anyone (besides roommates) prior to marriage, and while there was a small adjustment period in the very beginning, it is way easier than I thought it was going to be. He is not a “big kid” and we have sex about 4 times a week.

It is not “nasty and bitter,” it is just reality for many married people. Just because you have a picture perfect marriage with your soulmate does not mean everyone does, so don’t be so smug. People are just trying to be honest with the OP. Marriage is not a fairy tale for most people.

I don’t have a picture perfect marriage. I don’t believe in soulmates. We have had real problems (cancer, other health issues). Married 15 years. I like it. Maybe I just got lucky but DH is nice, not crazy, and funny. We have a nice life. It am definitely happier married than I would be on my own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know how any marriage survives children. Mine didn’t. So taking that out of the equation should be smooth sailing.

What a ridiculous statement. Your kids didn’t have anything to do with your crap marriage. It’s really unfair to out that on kids.

Actually they did. They amped up the stress and took away each parents limited free time. So yeah not their fault exactly, but raising children is absolutely hard on a marriage and not the “ridiculous statement” you claim it to be. 🙄