Why are boys so immature now?

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Anonymous wrote:Low expectations = low results

This is a question that has been considered by many people and the best answer was from a long time experienced male teacher. He said that people expect boys to be unsuccessful, immature and at the bottom of the class. So they are.

+1000. When boys were expected to be engineers and doctors, they were. When they’re expected to go to college for liberal arts with no career path in mind and then come running back home at 22, they do that too.

When were boys expected to be doctors or engineers? How many boys are qualified to go to medical school? Not many. And what do those boys do when they just aren’t qualified for those few jobs that a certain type of parent pushes on their son?

There are plenty of boys who belong in liberal arts or the arts. There are also plenty of boys who are successful in working with their hands who train as apprentices or go to a technical school.

If more parents accepted their sons for who they are and what their limitations are then more boys will be successful.

For most of post-industrial history, boys of upper class but not extravagantly wealthy families were expected to go into one of the professions. Medicine or law, f clergy, banking, military, aspects of government later engineering and computer sciences became prestigious (corresponding with WWII and space race). The expectations were that they would learn in significantly more restrictive environments than they do now and for longer hours and behave.

That was a loooong time ago. Now wealthy or struggling single mother, a child should be raised to first be a decent person and second, pursue a career that match his skills and hopefully something they love.

There are boys who grow up in “upper class” families that are not carbon copies of their fathers and should not have been expected to anything beyond their ability. Parents who care more about their status than what’s in their child’s best interest can create problems.

Not trying to argue with you, but not really. This was the case for some Boomers, and they raised their millennial sons in the same way— the difference is, they expected that their daughters too, that didn’t mean the expectations for their sons dissolved into video games and excuses.