Why are boys so immature now?
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Anonymous
| What can you do to ensure you are raising a mature, well adjusted kid and eventual young adult? I’m seeing too many cases of failure to launch with boys and it makes me anxious. |
Anonymous
| Who are you hanging out with? Virtually all of the teen and young adult boys I know are working hard and doing well. |
Anonymous
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Low expectations = low results
This is a question that has been considered by many people and the best answer was from a long time experienced male teacher. He said that people expect boys to be unsuccessful, immature and at the bottom of the class. So they are. |
Anonymous
| Does it have something to do with father figures or lack thereof? |
Anonymous
+1000. When boys were expected to be engineers and doctors, they were. When they’re expected to go to college for liberal arts with no career path in mind and then come running back home at 22, they do that too. |
Anonymous
Provide them with a good role model. |
Anonymous
| Give them chores, and insist on them getting done. My 3.5 yr old is so proud to help. So was his older brother. Now at age 11, the older one took care of me and the house for 4-5 hours yesterday when I was incapacitated by a migraine. |
Anonymous
+1 I would add— stop making excuses for them and you won’t have to make excuses for them. None of the parents of the high-achieving boys in our life ever had the “oh boys will be boys”/#BoyMom attitude toward their children, they had high expectations and expected them to be met. |
Anonymous
| Helicopter mommies are to blame |
Anonymous
| Start by not assuming the anecdata from your bubble applies to those outside of it. The boys and young men I know are more varied than the ones you know. Maybe expand your view. |
Anonymous
My son doesn’t have a father in his life. I sent him to a private school with a lot of male teachers and I think that has helped. He is doing what all of his friends are doing- going to college. I have high expectations of him. |
Anonymous
| Boys have always been slower to mature than girls. It’s not new. |
Anonymous
Why would this make you anxious? Do you have young boys or something? |
Anonymous
Very true. I have boy/girl twins about to head off to college. My DD is much more on top of the many things that need to be done to prepare. My son needs more guidance. They both chose good schools for them though. |
Anonymous
DP. Presumably. Why are you attacking OP? Do you have nothing better to do with your morning? |