Would you want to know if your adult daughter was in an affair with a married man?

[Anonymous]

Look OP, immediate divorce is the only path ahead where you don’t come off as a loser. You need to focus on that.

Your husband is a creep who sneaks into people’s homes to sleep with emotionally damaged women. There really don’t a way for him to come back from this and if you stay you are the creepy enabler wife.

If you go tell her parents you cross over into being complete trash.

Rise above and don’t roll around in the mud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s 29. An adult. You don’t tell her mommy on her. C’mon man be serious.

As for the posters who say they’d “want to know” - what if she were 40? 50? Do you tell her parents then? Of course not. Then you don’t tell them at 29 either.

If any person is sneaking into *my* house while I am sleeping, I want to know. This is the price of living with your parents. If you want to bring someone over, you do it with their awareness.

Same. I would likely kick her out if I found out she was sneaking married men my age from the neighborhood into my house at night.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure this woman has these issues? Or is this just what your DH told you before (you think) the relationship turned sexual to throw you off?

Whatever the answer is, no, you don’t inform her parents. She’s nearly 30 years old. Before clicking the link, I thought this was going to be about a college student.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think affairs are inherently wrong, so no.

NP. Why?

[Anonymous]

I would definitely want to know if my adult child with emotional problems was sneaking in an old grandpa into my house to do nasty time with. F'ing gross and predatory!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look OP, immediate divorce is the only path ahead where you don’t come off as a loser. You need to focus on that.

Your husband is a creep who sneaks into people’s homes to sleep with emotionally damaged women. There really don’t a way for him to come back from this and if you stay you are the creepy enabler wife.

If you go tell her parents you cross over into being complete trash.

Rise above and don’t roll around in the mud.

Completely disagree and you must not have daughters. You cannot imagine how repulsive it is to have your baby girl being used by some nasty old man. What if the girl got pregnant??? Nasty old men aren't using protection and women with emotional problems probably aren't exercising enough self-care to be on bc. If my spouse and I found out, we would lie in wait for him and beat the hell out of him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d focus on divorcing your creep of a husband.

You are washing his dishes and feeding his kids while he is acting like a horny college freshman.

Stop being a doormat. Leave you selfish, lowlife husband.

[Anonymous]

They have to parent their child.

You have to manage your own family, which seems to be in a fragile, unhealthy state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s 29. An adult. You don’t tell her mommy on her. C’mon man be serious.

As for the posters who say they’d “want to know” - what if she were 40? 50? Do you tell her parents then? Of course not. Then you don’t tell them at 29 either.

If any person is sneaking into *my* house while I am sleeping, I want to know. This is the price of living with your parents. If you want to bring someone over, you do it with their awareness.

This!

[Anonymous]

Only if she told me herself.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Tell. Maybe the father of AD will shoot your DH by mistake otherwise thinking he' intruder.

[Anonymous]

You want to tattle on a 30 year old because your husband is a creep? You and your husband deserve each other.

[Anonymous]

Tell. Tell anonymously. Hire PI and document all of this. Take pictures of them and spread it all over the neighborhood. Make sure that they cannot show their sorry faces in polite society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be more ashamed to be DH's parents. They raised him with awful integrity.

OP I know you're mad at the 29 year old, but "telling on her" helps no one. DH's transgressions are far, far worse.

I actually believe OP that she is NOT made at the AP. She is coming at this from a motherly perspective. She sees some of her own daughter in this AP and thinks she herself would want to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look OP, immediate divorce is the only path ahead where you don’t come off as a loser. You need to focus on that.

Your husband is a creep who sneaks into people’s homes to sleep with emotionally damaged women. There really don’t a way for him to come back from this and if you stay you are the creepy enabler wife.

If you go tell her parents you cross over into being complete trash.

Rise above and don’t roll around in the mud.

Completely disagree and you must not have daughters. You cannot imagine how repulsive it is to have your baby girl being used by some nasty old man. What if the girl got pregnant??? Nasty old men aren't using protection and women with emotional problems probably aren't exercising enough self-care to be on bc. If my spouse and I found out, we would lie in wait for him and beat the hell out of him.

Lol land the helicopter a decade back. The baby is 30yo grown woman and likely has mommy and daddy issues due to parenting like PPs..