Why would a 70-year-old man leave his wife of 45-plus years?

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Anonymous wrote:Affair.

It was this for my grandfather also.

Since men die earlier a healthy 70 year old man actually has good odds and options if he’s active in senior circles…

The odds are good but the gooods are odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does this happen? Out of the blue? Blindsided? Three kids, three grandchildren, no indication of anything?

What do you mean “leaves his wife?”

Could be anything or. Irving or her leaving him.

Guess you find out in less than a year, if you’re an insider.

[Anonymous]

Couples have trouble transitioning to being together in full-time retirement, so 70 isn't a shock. He realizes they just aren't a great match and doesn't have years to see if things change. Unfortunately it happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tired of the nagging

Exactly, he’s tired, his wife worked & raised the kids herself, and he wants to be a slob in his own little place and stick to himself, Netflix and take out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did 65 year old Bill Gates leave his wife of 30 years?

Because he preferred the children on Epstein's island?

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Anonymous wrote:I might be this man in a few years. But terrified of what it would do to retirement. Would I rather live separate lives or wind up in a beat up apartment wearing a tank top and watching TV? Reasons:

- tired of being treated like a doormat
- she will NEVER leave the area she grew up in, even with both parents gone
- non-existent sex life
- expects me to pay every expense
- the thought of waking up every morning and staying in the house with her 360 days/year is depressing

Or you can just take control over your wife and put your foot down on what you don’t like. She probably also isn’t thrilled about potential divorce, the material aspects of it.
It’s very often about whose personality is stronger, not who has the money

He needs to take control over his LIFE, not his WIFE. She is not a child.

Then why is she acting like one?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I might be this man in a few years. But terrified of what it would do to retirement. Would I rather live separate lives or wind up in a beat up apartment wearing a tank top and watching TV? Reasons:

- tired of being treated like a doormat
- she will NEVER leave the area she grew up in, even with both parents gone
- non-existent sex life
- expects me to pay every expense
- the thought of waking up every morning and staying in the house with her 360 days/year is depressing

Or you can just take control over your wife and put your foot down on what you don’t like. She probably also isn’t thrilled about potential divorce, the material aspects of it.
It’s very often about whose personality is stronger, not who has the money

Correct.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Didn't the Gores divorce after 40-something years?

It’s pretty well known why that happened.

Well, why did it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I might be this man in a few years. But terrified of what it would do to retirement. Would I rather live separate lives or wind up in a beat up apartment wearing a tank top and watching TV? Reasons:

- tired of being treated like a doormat
- she will NEVER leave the area she grew up in, even with both parents gone
- non-existent sex life
- expects me to pay every expense
- the thought of waking up every morning and staying in the house with her 360 days/year is depressing

The other 5 days/year won’t be depressing?

[Anonymous]

My uncle left my aunt and came out as gay at 72yo.

My DHs uncle left his aunt and transitioned to a woman at 68yo.

[Anonymous]

This happened to my grandparents. I don't think they were ever happy together...just took them years to realize.

I asked my mom who was going to get custody of her.

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Anonymous wrote:My uncle did this after he found out he had cancer and was given less than five years to live. He decided he didn't want to spend the last years of his life with his wife. He got a divorce, bought a convertible, got a girlfriend and traveled the world while he could. He also alienated his kids who wanted nothing to do with him after he made that decision. He did develop a close relationship with the rest of us though.

Smart to step in where there was an opportunity to extract some inheritance out of the estrangement with his kids. Nice 👍 .

This is exactly what I thought too. This person and this dad are a lot alike. I can see why they got closer as he aged. Gross

[Anonymous]

Finally had enough of her S

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Because life is too short!

[Anonymous]

I know 70 seems ancient to many of you but it's not for a whole lot of people. He could easily live another 20 years, sounds like he wants to relax and enjoy that life and she isn't part of the plan.