Son and girlfriend committed to same school

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you're trying to control your son.
Sounds like the girlfriend is trying to control your son.

Looks like your son is controlling where his girlfriend goes to college.
Looks like your son is controlling where his parents send him to college.

[Anonymous]

When’s the Baby shower?

[Anonymous]

It is LO and behold, moron. Now “low.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My step-daughter did this. Difference is, we actually loved her BF though. He BF passed on some of his acceptances and was admitted to her first choice school to start in the Spring. They had a long distance relationship the first semester. He came on campus in the Spring and they dated for a while but then broke up.

Her story: Even though they had promised each other that they would "wait", he was tempted by other college girls who were willing to go farther than she would. My SD is finishing her Jr year now, She is single and still a virgin. She and her exBF are still friendly but have not rekindled their relationship.

You are way too involved in the life of your (likely) 21 year old SD

yeah that post is well creepy and likely fictional

The entire thread is fictional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Felicity, anyone? (Am I showing my age?)

Ha! I loved that show as a teen but now that I’m a parent, I would have hated Ben with a passion if my kid followed him to college.

On a recent rewatch, Felicity’s dad sounded a lot more reasonable than I remember 🤔

[Anonymous]

[b]

Anonymous wrote:It is LO and behold, moron. Now “low.”

I think you mean "not", dear. Not "now".

[Anonymous]

I started dating dh when I was 16, we went to the same college, even worked at some of the same jobs! We are still together 17 years later.

You haven't really described why you don't like her. What has she done? What rules does she not abide by? How does she control him? It sounds like YOU are trying to control him and don't like that you are losing your grip.

[Anonymous]

Plus sides: it sounds like she changed colleges for him, and no vice versa. Your son is where he wants to be.

Also, if they have been in a toxic long distance relationship, heading into another toxic long distance relationship doesn’t move seem to move the needle. Maybe being to get her day in day out changes his mind.

Your kid is more likely to find friends and integrate into his college if the GF is there vs long distance, because he isn’t using every opportunity to leave campus and visit her or entertain her.

You can’t change this. So don’t offer opinions unless specifically asked. Then, be diplomatic. You don’t want him to dig in and prolong this relationship just to prove you wrong.

There will be no pressure to get married as undergrads if they are in the same school. This has time to play out. They will hopefully both grow up and change in college.

And without more specifics of “toxic” and why you disapprove, who knows? Maybe it works, they get married, are happy, have grandkids. In which case, you don’t want to have completely alienated this girl and maybe your son. Which you will regret.

I think you are panicking prematurely. Say nothing. Do nothing. And see where things are in a couple years. Your interference and anxiety will only make this worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is LO and behold, moron. Now “low.”

You pulled an old thread to comment on grammar and then made a typo?

[Anonymous]

“She is also very inappropriate with him”

Heh I want to know what this means…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is LO and behold, moron. Now “low.”

You pulled an old thread to comment on grammar and then made a typo?

I think this op started a new thread, and Jeff redirected people here to this original thread from the op. Op’s new thread is a continuation of the same issue discussed here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is LO and behold, moron. Now “low.”

[b]I think you mean "not", dear. Not "now".

Not only that, but the PP reactivated a thread back to May to say that! And then called some other PP a "moron"

[Anonymous]

Just make sure they are using foolproof birth control!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is LO and behold, moron. Now “low.”

You pulled an old thread to comment on grammar and then made a typo?

I know! Imagine my disappointment when I saw it was this post that revived this thread. I had been hoping for some type of real update.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is LO and behold, moron. Now “low.”

You pulled an old thread to comment on grammar and then made a typo?

I know! Imagine my disappointment when I saw it was this post that revived this thread. I had been hoping for some type of real update.

I think this is the update.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/legacy/posts/list/1161891.page