Do you call your MIL for Mothers Day

[Anonymous]

No, she's not my mom. But, DH doesn't call her, either. I call my parents everyday.

[Anonymous]

No, but I remind DH to call her. She’s his mom. We have never been close and I don’t remind him on any other holiday except this one. She usually sends me a card, which is nice. I will pop on the call for a second to say thanks and happy Mother’s Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but I remind DH to call her. She’s his mom. We have never been close and I don’t remind him on any other holiday except this one. She usually sends me a card, which is nice. I will pop on the call for a second to say thanks and happy Mother’s Day.

What does “she’s his mom” have to do with anything? He has a calendar and a phone, yes? My husband calls his mom on important days, and as I am not his secretary, I don’t need to prompt him to do anything.

[Anonymous]

Yes but this situation is weird. Your in laws sound toxic and judgey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, and I don’t remind DH either. A few times his dad called to remind him and I erased the voicemail.

The best

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is one of the best women I know, and I feel very lucky to have her in my life. I hope my future DIL feels the same way about me one day.

+ 1

I am very lucky that I have wonderful women in my life. MIL, Mom, SILs are all very close to me.

[Anonymous]

Just remember your kids watch everything you do so if you don't treat her with respect, your kids may follow your lead. My mom is not nice to my husband nor is she to me, my MIL was lovely to me. I'll email.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just remember your kids watch everything you do so if you don't treat her with respect, your kids may follow your lead. My mom is not nice to my husband nor is she to me, my MIL was lovely to me. I'll email.

It is not “disrespectful” to leave this task to her own son. I call my mom, and my siblings and I send my mom a gift. DH calls his mom, and DH and his sibling send their mother a gift. What my kids see is that holidays, birthdays and other events are celebrated, with each actual son or daughter taking the lead for his or her own parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would if I liked her. In practice, not a chance in hell.

This.

My MIL is a horrible person and even a worse mother.

[Anonymous]

Every year since I’ve been married, MIL has insisted that we celebrate her (we all are nearby) w/ brunch and or a gathering at her house. COViD disrupted this.

Now I won’t even call her. As others said, she’s not my mom and it’s my turn.

[Anonymous]

I text her. We don’t get along, but it’s an easy nice gesture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every year since I’ve been married, MIL has insisted that we celebrate her (we all are nearby) w/ brunch and or a gathering at her house. COViD disrupted this.

Now I won’t even call her. As others said, she’s not my mom and it’s my turn.

You were equally responsible for going along with her “insistence,” so don’t act like she was so awful. Glad you finally grew a pair. How sad that it took a global pandemic for you to get a spine and a clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Better question is "Does she call you?!"

Don't these moms realize how LUCKY they are to get grandchildren? They should be passing the baton on mothers day just because they basically hit the jackpot. So many mothers never get grandchildren.

Please. You are not the center of the universe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like MILs who have sons are more demanding than the daughter's moms. I can't imagine my mom caring at all whether DH talks to her. And I don't think the thought crosses DH's mind either, unless he sees my mom in person and then of course he'd wish her a happy mothers day.

And never once in 15 years has dh bought a present for my mom, but I'm sure all MILs think their DILs should buy presents.

I’ve never made this connection but I think you are spot-on.

Mother of sons here. Mothers' Day has never been a big deal to me. Can't imagine wanting a gift from DIL. Her job that day is to enjoy whatever her husband and kids do for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Why would I? That is not my mother.

I never really understand this sentiment

I wish Mother’s Day to a lot of people who are not my mother - my sister, my girlfriends. mothers of my kids, the greeter at the restaurant … Why wouldn’t I take 2 min to call the woman who birthed the man of my dreams,whom without I wouldn’t have my previous kids, who make me a mother. I am in the minority but I am most grateful for my MIL. She wishes me a Mother’s Day as well. And.. I’m not her mother

So weird. I simply cannot stand it when people who are not my current children tell me happy mother's day. Especially strangers who sit in my restaurant. Like, how do they even know I'm a mother? And I'm sure I'm not theirs.