If you suspected your child was Bi or Gay

[Anonymous]

My husband made me watch the Matt Walsh trans movie last night. Still shaking. Walsh is a hateful man.

[Anonymous]

People *came out* because there was a serious stigma, and AIDS made that even worse.

I really long for the day when we can not constantly go on and on about how brave these middle class suburban kids are for dying their hair green just like half of their friends and *daring* to be ace, or aro, or pan, or bi.

Our child told us she was gay when she was ten. We were unsurprised, but also remembered being ten ourselves. Had it been less socially stigmatized, I, too would have been gay at ten. I think it's quite common in the human psyche to decide on these things along, as they say, a spectrum. Or perhaps two spectrums.

One spectrum is sexuality. The other is time.

And, btw, sexuality is a huge part of it. The narrative that detaches that aspect is potentially quite regressive and damaging.

[Anonymous]

When I was in my 20s my best friend came out to me as gay. It was a BIG deal as we were working in law enforcement. I knew he was gay but I let him tell me himself, in his own time.

I think it's a bit easier now as more people are open to it, but for those coming out - I do think there is still the fear of rejection.

To the OP: just continue to be open and let your child come to you time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband made me watch the Matt Walsh trans movie last night. Still shaking. Walsh is a hateful man.

Go on...

[Anonymous]

I would wait a few more years as your kid is figuring things out. My younger brother was gay but didn’t come out to his family (he was out at school but we didn’t know) until senior year when my mom gently asked him one day while they were on a walk together. He simply said yes and then he slowly told his siblings.