is it kind of rude to NOT say no presents at a bday?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s “rude” to ask for presents, but I do wonder why parents want more junk from Amazon.


This. You know the birthday kid already got several birthday gifts from parents and extended family and probably closest friend/s. Do you really think your kid needs 30 more gifts from a whole class party to make his birthday special enough?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It is not rude to not have a no gift birthday. That would be bizarre and anybody who judges or thinks it’s rude, it’s a little wacky in the head.


I don’t think it’s rude. But when I show up to whole class party and see a giant table saddled with gifts I feel like the parents probably intended to write no gifts, but that detail must have slipped their mind. Now they have all that stuff to deal with. A bunch of random stuff from kids they may not even be friends with.

For a small birthday with under a handful of friends, gifts are fun and very personal.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s “rude” but be prepared for some kids to not come who you may want to be there if they need to bring a gift. If you say no gifts then it’s much easier (and cheaper) for people and you will have a better response. Personally I’d only go to a gift party if it’s one of my kids very best friends. Otherwise just not worth the stress.


How old are your kids? Mine are in elementary and they love getting gifts at their party, and they love picking out gifts for their friends.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s “rude” but be prepared for some kids to not come who you may want to be there if they need to bring a gift. If you say no gifts then it’s much easier (and cheaper) for people and you will have a better response. Personally I’d only go to a gift party if it’s one of my kids very best friends. Otherwise just not worth the stress.


How old are your kids? Mine are in elementary and they love getting gifts at their party, and they love picking out gifts for their friends.


Non-wealthy parents can’t just let their kids loose on Amazon with their credit card.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s “rude” but be prepared for some kids to not come who you may want to be there if they need to bring a gift. If you say no gifts then it’s much easier (and cheaper) for people and you will have a better response. Personally I’d only go to a gift party if it’s one of my kids very best friends. Otherwise just not worth the stress.


How old are your kids? Mine are in elementary and they love getting gifts at their party, and they love picking out gifts for their friends.


NP, but mine are in elementary and they love having a big party with a lot of kids. They don’t want to receive 30 gifts, many of which they won’t use and are duplicates of things they already have. They would rather be taken to a basketball game or eat at benihanas. They also enjoy picking out gifts for their friends who have gift parties. Why is it so hard to grasp that kids are different? One of my kids prefers fish and shellfish over beef and chicken. The other prefers tofu to lobster. Not all kids want so many gifts.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Presents on birthdays are an important part of our culture. Don't give in to the people who are trying to break every single tradition we have. Next we'll be asked to forgo cake and ice cream.

Be strong, people! Give presents to children at birthday parties!!!


+1!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Presents on birthdays are an important part of our culture. Don't give in to the people who are trying to break every single tradition we have. Next we'll be asked to forgo cake and ice cream.

Be strong, people! Give presents to children at birthday parties!!!


+1!


Ok, but the kid already got 5-10+ gifts from parents, family, close friends. They need 25 more from their class?
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