Git into a huge fight with brother's date at a wedding and ruined dinner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t know who all these posters are who think you did something wrong because it wasn’t “polite.” You were 100% in the right, OP. Shutting down racism is correct at any time, no matter how uncomfortable the place may be. This blew up because she blew up— not your problem. Hopefully she won’t ever be brought around again.

"If you study American history, you'll notice that white comfort has always been more important than Black lives"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mind your manners and your mouth. Time and place.

+1
OP owes the bride and groom an apology

+2 if it got to the point of causing a scene significant enough that the bride noticed, you owe them an apology.

I don’t understand why other people got up and left when the conversation continued but op couldn’t?

What should you have done? Said “we are going to have to agree to disagree on what you’ve said” and completely changed the topic, turned your gaze on someone else and said “Aunt Sue, how is your garden this year.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe people aren’t mad at your brother for bringing a racist to the wedding — especially when it sounds like she was the one insisting on talking incendiary politics!
Team OP. Brother should be apologizing. Unless you know your family is all MAGA in which case it’s on you OP—if that’s the situation you decline the invite or go knowing you’re going to swallow sh-t all night.

This! And he obviously knew she was racist, since he “warned” her about you and your darned progressive viewpoints. Is your brother racist as well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"well, that's one point of view. Let's leave the politics for the night. Isn't the happy couple beautiful?"

This is condoning racism. What a wish-washy, cowardly statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mind your manners and your mouth. Time and place.

+1
OP owes the bride and groom an apology

+2 if it got to the point of causing a scene significant enough that the bride noticed, you owe them an apology.

I don’t understand why other people got up and left when the conversation continued but op couldn’t?

What should you have done? Said “we are going to have to agree to disagree on what you’ve said” and completely changed the topic, turned your gaze on someone else and said “Aunt Sue, how is your garden this year.”

Why shouldn’t the girlfriend be the one who apologizes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mind your manners and your mouth. Time and place.

+1
OP owes the bride and groom an apology

+2 if it got to the point of causing a scene significant enough that the bride noticed, you owe them an apology.

I don’t understand why other people got up and left when the conversation continued but op couldn’t?

What should you have done? Said “we are going to have to agree to disagree on what you’ve said” and completely changed the topic, turned your gaze on someone else and said “Aunt Sue, how is your garden this year.”

Why shouldn’t the girlfriend be the one who apologizes?

I didn’t say she shouldn’t. But op contributed to the scene and should own up to it. Op can’t control what the gf does at this point.

[Anonymous]

Seeing how the Left's new tactic is to label everyone a racist if they don't follow lock step then I'd need to hear more about this supposed rant.

I know people that think it's 'racist' to expect illegal immigrants to pay taxes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seeing how the Left's new tactic is to label everyone a racist if they don't follow lock step then I'd need to hear more about this supposed rant.

I know people that think it's 'racist' to expect illegal immigrants to pay taxes.

And the girlfriend reports in!

Sweetie, your rant is your responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seeing how the Left's new tactic is to label everyone a racist if they don't follow lock step then I'd need to hear more about this supposed rant.

I know people that think it's 'racist' to expect illegal immigrants to pay taxes.

Many of them do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"well, that's one point of view. Let's leave the politics for the night. Isn't the happy couple beautiful?"

This is condoning racism. What a wish-washy, cowardly statement.

+2

Racism isn’t a valid political stance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many cowards posting. You don’t have to politely agree with a racist because of your location. SHE was wrong to start such an incendiary conversation and essentially hold the table hostage to her views.

Good for you for having a backbone, and shame on posters piling on you. This entrenched willingness to turn a blind eye to racism is why racism/white supremacy continue apace in the US.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP, you heart was in the right place, but you were trolled. I would have made a face and turned away immediately and ignored her completely for the rest of the night. I would have also very low key mentioned to my kids that she was completely off base, but we weren't going to feed the troll at a wedding. If no one had engaged her, that probably would have been the end of it. Your brother warned her, she did it anyway. That's what's known as a sh*t stirrer, and if she's sticking around, you're the number one target. Do not engage, every single time.

[Anonymous]

I was recently in a developing country, and found myself having to see a local doctor about a funny looking infection on my foot. Waiting ahead of me for the same doctor was a Canadian ex pat.

He asked me how long I have lived in the country; I said “I don’t live here I am just visiting,“ and he went on to explain that he had moved to the country two years earlier with his family to escape vaccine mandates, because “no one is going to take away my freedom by forcing me and my wife and my children to get jabbed with a fraudulent and dangerous vaccine.”

I simply looked at him and calmly responded “we are not going to have this conversation.” He stopped talking, and we then ignored each other.

In my opinion, this is how you deal with nutjobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was recently in a developing country, and found myself having to see a local doctor about a funny looking infection on my foot. Waiting ahead of me for the same doctor was a Canadian ex pat.

He asked me how long I have lived in the country; I said “I don’t live here I am just visiting,“ and he went on to explain that he had moved to the country two years earlier with his family to escape vaccine mandates, because “no one is going to take away my freedom by forcing me and my wife and my children to get jabbed with a fraudulent and dangerous vaccine.”

I simply looked at him and calmly responded “we are not going to have this conversation.” He stopped talking, and we then ignored each other.

In my opinion, this is how you deal with nutjobs.

This is the way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mind your manners and your mouth. Time and place.

+1
OP owes the bride and groom an apology

Oh no no no. There is never an appropriate time and place to be a racist twit, but a stranger's wedding where you are attending only as a +1 is a particularly poor choice.
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"Maddisyn, this isn't an appropriate setting for spouting political opinions. Can you change the subject, or do you need the rest of us to take over the conversation?"

Or OP could simply change the subject and "take over the conversation" without this dramatic declaration about it.