Social media bragging

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it annoying if someone posts an end of season photo and says something expressing pride in kid having a great season and breaking personal records (no comparison to other kids or anything, just a recognition of hard work and a cute photo)?

Frankly I question anyone who posts really anything on social media these days LOL. I have totally stopped.

+1000!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a swim parent, today I am blown away after SC champs at the level of intense, shameless bragging by some other swim parents about their kid's performance. I'm talking multiple pictures, video, time standards reports, MeetMobile screen shots, and in one case, even a specific mention of who their kid beat! Then all the comments and likes that further encourage this behavior - it's mind blowing. I have to admit, I am feeling very differently about a few people who have shocked me with their tacky, tasteless bragging and carrying on. I know, I know - just stay off social media, don't look if you don't like it, etc. But I have seen it now and I just really have to wonder about the psychology of these parents. Is is living vicariously or some deep insecurity? I have to wonder what it does to the kids. These are young children, who knows what the future holds for them athletically or otherwise. It's just so interesting that people feel the need to brag so outwardly. I would be so embarrassed. Anyway, just had to share my shock.

Did they share their updated IMX score?

😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, all the posters who do this pop up here and get defensive, saying they love to read posts like this. Lol! You mean you love to POST things like this. No one reads that crap and when you do it frequently people really start to roll their eyes about you.

This. I enjoy hearing BRIEFLY about other kids: is Sally still swimming? did she make Varsity? How is her work going? But typically in a back and forth conversation. There is absolutely zero need to post numerous updates about accomplishments. You want to? Send it to the grandparents - text and brag away. The same can be said for posts about the food you’re eating- I don’t need to see pics of drinks, meals, etc. please -

[Anonymous]

I’m happy to see other kids doing well - post away! For the many swimmers it’s a good year (top of the age group) and then a hard year (lower). Celebrate the wins and be happy for others. I cheered to see the posts of the kids that made zones or futures times. I think it says more about OP being bothered by it than whoever posted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just unfollow those people if their posts annoy me.

This. It is incredibly tacky. I unfollow. As an aside, I usually find that these people are not those that I enjoy spending time with IRL so it really is a nothing burger.
It comes from a place of deep insecurity, OP. Don't worry too much about it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a swim parent, today I am blown away after SC champs at the level of intense, shameless bragging by some other swim parents about their kid's performance. I'm talking multiple pictures, video, time standards reports, MeetMobile screen shots, and in one case, even a specific mention of who their kid beat! Then all the comments and likes that further encourage this behavior - it's mind blowing. I have to admit, I am feeling very differently about a few people who have shocked me with their tacky, tasteless bragging and carrying on. I know, I know - just stay off social media, don't look if you don't like it, etc. But I have seen it now and I just really have to wonder about the psychology of these parents. Is is living vicariously or some deep insecurity? I have to wonder what it does to the kids. These are young children, who knows what the future holds for them athletically or otherwise. It's just so interesting that people feel the need to brag so outwardly. I would be so embarrassed. Anyway, just had to share my shock.

Worry about yourself and being such a judgmental jacka$$. There's plenty to work with there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a swim parent, today I am blown away after SC champs at the level of intense, shameless bragging by some other swim parents about their kid's performance. I'm talking multiple pictures, video, time standards reports, MeetMobile screen shots, and in one case, even a specific mention of who their kid beat! Then all the comments and likes that further encourage this behavior - it's mind blowing. I have to admit, I am feeling very differently about a few people who have shocked me with their tacky, tasteless bragging and carrying on. I know, I know - just stay off social media, don't look if you don't like it, etc. But I have seen it now and I just really have to wonder about the psychology of these parents. Is is living vicariously or some deep insecurity? I have to wonder what it does to the kids. These are young children, who knows what the future holds for them athletically or otherwise. It's just so interesting that people feel the need to brag so outwardly. I would be so embarrassed. Anyway, just had to share my shock.

Worry about yourself and being such a judgmental jacka$$. There's plenty to work with there.

But a nerve, have we? How many posts have you done in 2023? Give or take…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is the kind of post that bothers you, why are you on social media at all?

This. Get off Sm or just scroll on by, OP. I don't mind the occasional post about a kid's success. I do it sometimes too. But I don't need to know every score, success, etc. The ones that get too much, I just scroll by those. It's not that hard, really.

Are you always this fragile in life, OP?

[Anonymous]

It’s so funny to see the vicious attacks on OP or implying that finding bragging distasteful is somehow wrong. It’s just so obvious you guys are defensive of your bragging posting and don’t like someone pointing out that it makes you look bad.

Weren’t you ever taught as a young kid that bragging is trashy and makes others dislike you? Why would you think it’s any different doing on social media vs in person?

[Anonymous]

I posted something about a best time, but my swimmer had had a hard year and overcome a lot, so this was a proud parent post for working so hard and pushing through obstacles, continuing to try and try again when the going gets tough and finally having it work out. If others find it obnoxious unfriend me.

I find these kids so inspiring. They work so hard and are so driven.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted something about a best time, but my swimmer had had a hard year and overcome a lot, so this was a proud parent post for working so hard and pushing through obstacles, continuing to try and try again when the going gets tough and finally having it work out. If others find it obnoxious unfriend me.

I find these kids so inspiring. They work so hard and are so driven.

so, honest question, who is the post for? Is it for yourself? I have a FB friend who always posts her kids times (track/swimming), baseball wins, soccer tourneys, etc. For all of her kids. Each post is accompanied by an inspirational quote of sorts about hardship and how they overcome and triumph. It seems tiring and I'm not sure who the audience is supposed to be. Who is the post for? If my kids have a great moment, I usually just celebrate with them. They don't ask to be blasted on SM so it seems odd to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is that the parents of the very best swimmers say absolutely nothing on social media. They don’t need to. Their kid’s performance speaks for itself, and anyone who cares about how the kid did already knows.

It’s only the strivers/insecure ones who post all that stuff.

+1 this is the truth
and as the years pass and only the most talented are left it becomes even quieter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted something about a best time, but my swimmer had had a hard year and overcome a lot, so this was a proud parent post for working so hard and pushing through obstacles, continuing to try and try again when the going gets tough and finally having it work out. If others find it obnoxious unfriend me.

I find these kids so inspiring. They work so hard and are so driven.

I don’t get it. I mean, I get being proud of your child but would you send an email to all your contacts with the same information? Bc that’s what it’s like when an adult does this. I get doing a post on daughter’s day or her bday saying generally how proud of her you are..but a public post for close and not so close Friends to say she got a best time? Why not send a text to family? They care, it’s appropriate and also expressing your pride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How'd your kid do?

Aww, you’re so predictable. How precious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is that the parents of the very best swimmers say absolutely nothing on social media. They don’t need to. Their kid’s performance speaks for itself, and anyone who cares about how the kid did already knows.

It’s only the strivers/insecure ones who post all that stuff.

Exactly.