PSA - If your child knows they aren’t going to a school please have them decline now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. We received an email from Denison asking DC to withdraw their application now if they knew they would not attend to maybe "give another deserving student an opportunity for consideration."

DC is leaning toward a different school but I assumed that the request was more about their stats than anything else.

You owe them nothing until you are 100% certain. If your kid is 100% certain, then yes decline to be nice. But if there's any chance that could change, then do not do it

[Anonymous]

I see your point but it is important at least in our DC's case to wait until all the verdicts are in.

[Anonymous]

Schools know a large percentage will decline and they’ve already factored this in. My child is still unsure and we’ll likely wait until May because declining isn’t going to magically open a spot for someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These schools are on my last nerve!! They ask you to decline now if you’re not going to accept (I am looking at you Denison). They created the deadline date and a student has every right to use it. May 1 is the decision date. The End. Rant over.

They are not demanding that you decline! Simply asking if you have made a definite decisions to let them know. No harm to you either way. So if you are not 100% on another school, don't do anything and wait for May 1.

However, once my kid's had made a 100% decision, they did decline as it's the nice/right thing to do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t work like that OP.

How does it work?

By this point decisions have been made. Maybe your kid is on the waitlist and that slot will open up because an EA student drops but it won’t matter at this stage before the decisions are released in a few weeks.

So the same principle applies. Maybe it will open a spot to someone on the waitlist.
Don't be a selfish dick and hold a spot you have no intention of taking. Just b/c you can, doesn't mean you should. And a decent person would relinquish it.

(And before the snarky "sorry you're kid didn't get accepted" comments, my kid is not graduating and headed to college this year).

I agree--once you have made a decision (ie 100% No for a school), then let them know. If you are only at 99.999% then wait until May 1. 5 years ago my kid had made a decision by early Feb. They knew which school they wanted and we could afford that school. So they started declining their other choices after accepting where they would attend. No clue if that opened a spot for others at any of those schools, but there was no reason for us to wait. In return their 2nd choice school happily refunded the housing deposit we had put down (it's a smaller school but they assigned housing based on when you deposited housing, so we had paid the $500 just in case knowing we could get it back).

So Feb 1 is well before RD for majority of schools. So our action may have allowed another kid to get an acceptance in RD. Maybe not, but it didn't hurt us and could only help the school and other students, so why not

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get that schools are stressed about yield. But it’s stressful for my kid, too. Rejected at ED choice, in at both “likelies,” deferred at all other EA schools. We are trying to stay enthusiastic about both likelies as there is a very good chance those are the only options, but it would feel really crappy to make her choose between those now when she already has fewer options at this point than she hoped. So nope, we are not declining any yet.

She chose those schools already by applying to them. I hope you don't communicate the message that having to go to one of them is a "crappy" option. You are not helping her be positive.

People, the most likely schools that your kids will get into are their "likelies." That is literally what (most) likely means.

Wrap your head around it the whole time, not at the end in shock and dismay.

And that is exactly why your "likelies" should be places your kid actually would be excited to attend. If not, it's not a real "likely" And yes, your 1600, 4.0UW kid CAN find a "likely" they will like that has 50%+ acceptance rates. You just have to search and have an open mind and realize that your snowflake will still excel if they are surrounded by kids with only a 1350-1500 SAT (gasp!!!!).

My own kid kept their top safety/likely in their final 3 list for over a month because it was such a great school. Only removed it because of a very valid reason (it has a 4 quarter system, with 7 weeks of 3 courses and my procrastinator kiddo smartly decided that might not be the best environment for them but otherwise seriously considered turning down schools ranked in the 30s for this because it is an awesome school). That's what you want---a likely that your kid still wants to consider even if getting into targets and reaches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do all schools require acceptance of offer by May 1? Does that mean that the WL status doesn't change after that date? How does that work? Let's say a kid wants to go to the WL school and gets the offer mid-May, do they just withdraw the acceptance at whatever school they said yes to originally? Are there fees associated with that?

Depends upon the school, but yes, you will likely loose your deposit at your original Choice. WL typically clear in May and/or early June. Sometimes kids get in later in the summer. But most clear by end of May/early June.

Best plan is to have your kid get really excited about where they put a deposit, and assume WL will not move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Schools know a large percentage will decline and they’ve already factored this in. My child is still unsure and we’ll likely wait until May because declining isn’t going to magically open a spot for someone else.

This makes it sound like waitlist is actually a rejection.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Schools know a large percentage will decline and they’ve already factored this in. My child is still unsure and we’ll likely wait until May because declining isn’t going to magically open a spot for someone else.

This makes it sound like waitlist is actually a rejection.

Well, it can be if the student never gets off it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi - as many RD decisions are approaching, if your DC knows they won’t be attending a school at which they’ve been accepted, please have them decline. It may open up an opportunity for someone who has it as their dream school.

Your kid didn't get in and your getting desperate? They have till May 1.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Schools know a large percentage will decline and they’ve already factored this in. My child is still unsure and we’ll likely wait until May because declining isn’t going to magically open a spot for someone else.

This makes it sound like waitlist is actually a rejection.

Most waitlists are a soft rejection. Don’t count on them moving.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing. Kids aren't certain at this point that they are saying no. At this stage of the game, mine only had 2 likely acceptances. Even after getting several T15 and top LAC admits in RD, she wasn't sure she wanted to say No to the 2 likelies because she had sought to find what was great about them. And, she thought they were fantastic. So, she needed to see everything. Once she went to admitted students' events, she was certain of a few she could cut. But, it took a while to whittle it down. Don't push a kid to say No too early. They need to be sure. And, as another PP said, I doubt it will make a big difference for ids waiting. They have algorithms for these things. Hang in there. The waiting is hard! All good things to those waiting!

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[Anonymous]

Mine has declined all but her top 3 options because she's simply not going to attend more than one university. And the marketing machine to accept from all these schools was driving me insane.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing. Kids aren't certain at this point that they are saying no. At this stage of the game, mine only had 2 likely acceptances. Even after getting several T15 and top LAC admits in RD, she wasn't sure she wanted to say No to the 2 likelies because she had sought to find what was great about them. And, she thought they were fantastic. So, she needed to see everything. Once she went to admitted students' events, she was certain of a few she could cut. But, it took a while to whittle it down. Don't push a kid to say No too early. They need to be sure. And, as another PP said, I doubt it will make a big difference for ids waiting. They have algorithms for these things. Hang in there. The waiting is hard! All good things to those waiting!

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