waitlisted everywhere

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. That stinks. I know it is a bit different, but we were waitlisted at all the schools we applied to last year for kindergarten. It’s crushing. I know our HOS went to bat for us and tried to get us in places…but I don’t think you can rely on the admin at your school entirely. My spouse and I went absolutely balls to the wall for 10 days working every angle we could think of. Ultimately we got 2 great offers, but it was a very stressful time. I’m fairly certain it was us and the outreach we did that got us in at the end, not our HOS. Tonight, I’d write personal emails to all 5 admissions directors and tell them they are your first choice and you would definitely attend if you were extended an offer. Take time on making the emails personal—point out what you admire at the school and why you think your kid would be a good fit there. Good luck…it’s hard!!

You want them to lie and tell all five that they are the first choice? Sage advice.

Yes! Sorry they are in a bad situation and no way are they going to get off 5 wait lists. They need to do whatever they can to get their kid into a school. Sorry but it’s reality. I’m guessing you’ve never been in that position.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, how do you KNOW your kid has “top” stats OP and others? Unless we’re talking about parochial schools, which I know nothing about, the usual suspect K-8s dont rank the kids or publish GPAs.

The other possibility here is that the kid im question did indeed throw a near-perfect SSAT and get all As. If so, and as a result you felt cocky and you applied only to GDS, Sidwell, NCS-STA, Potomac and Maret …. then it’s a little on you if you went 0/5. That was a risky move.

They may prefer public over unless one of the schools listed above admits the child.

Ok, then they should do public then.

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Two cycles ago kid was waitlisted at 3 of 5 schools and hated both schools he got into after visiting.

He did a very sincere follow up to two of the waitlisted schools and we asked two teachers who had not written recommendations to write letters.

He got an offer of admission to one of the schools and enrolled. It’s the best possible fit for him and I’m so glad it worked out. Especially since the offer came before we put a deposit down elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Another perspective for OP is that they just won the lottery! $220K, after tax, paid out over the next 4 years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. That stinks. I know it is a bit different, but we were waitlisted at all the schools we applied to last year for kindergarten. It’s crushing. I know our HOS went to bat for us and tried to get us in places…but I don’t think you can rely on the admin at your school entirely. My spouse and I went absolutely balls to the wall for 10 days working every angle we could think of. Ultimately we got 2 great offers, but it was a very stressful time. I’m fairly certain it was us and the outreach we did that got us in at the end, not our HOS. Tonight, I’d write personal emails to all 5 admissions directors and tell them they are your first choice and you would definitely attend if you were extended an offer. Take time on making the emails personal—point out what you admire at the school and why you think your kid would be a good fit there. Good luck…it’s hard!!

You want them to lie and tell all five that they are the first choice? Sage advice.

Yes! Sorry they are in a bad situation and no way are they going to get off 5 wait lists. They need to do whatever they can to get their kid into a school. Sorry but it’s reality. I’m guessing you’ve never been in that position.

Definitely would go about it in a different way. There is no scenario that I tell more than one school that I would definitely go there if we got in. It’s extraordinary to me that you are so focused on “the game” that you teaching your kids that lying is okay for things like school admission.

I’ve been in plenty of difficult situations - some with my kids, some about my kids and some having nothing to do with my kids. I’m pleased to say that I’ve never even thought about lying like that - and certainly not for something along the lines as private school admissions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another perspective for OP is that they just won the lottery! $220K, after tax, paid out over the next 4 years.

I like the way you think!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, how do you KNOW your kid has “top” stats OP and others? Unless we’re talking about parochial schools, which I know nothing about, the usual suspect K-8s dont rank the kids or publish GPAs.

The other possibility here is that the kid im question did indeed throw a near-perfect SSAT and get all As. If so, and as a result you felt cocky and you applied only to GDS, Sidwell, NCS-STA, Potomac and Maret …. then it’s a little on you if you went 0/5. That was a risky move.

They may prefer public over unless one of the schools listed above admits the child.

If that’s the case they should not start sad shut out threads on DCUM. Just go to that preferred public with open arms

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Anonymous wrote:We applied to 5 Schools. Waitlisted at all. Our K-8 admin team insists they can help and waitlists move. Love any words of encouragement. Also never ever go to a K-8 school. The worst outcome.

I’m sorry, OP. Your HOS will definitely help place your child for next year. This happened in my DCs class to someone and they ended up at Madeira (applied after decisions came out), but had to board. HOS will work hard to find you a spot.

Sorry, but that’s also a nutty outcome. To end up boarding when you didn’t want to?

Well, I assume they had to PAY for boarding...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another perspective for OP is that they just won the lottery! $220K, after tax, paid out over the next 4 years.

Or suddenly they have to uproot their family, sell their house, and move to another neighborhood, paying way more than $220k and higher interest rates for the privilege.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another perspective for OP is that they just won the lottery! $220K, after tax, paid out over the next 4 years.

Or suddenly they have to uproot their family, sell their house, and move to another neighborhood, paying way more than $220k and higher interest rates for the privilege.

I know very few private school parents who live in areas with crappy public schools. I myself prioritized K-8. We may apply to the two nearby Upper Schools for 9th but if we don’t get in I will def look at it as winning the lottery and simply add it to the inheritances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We applied to 5 Schools. Waitlisted at all. Our K-8 admin team insists they can help and waitlists move. Love any words of encouragement. Also never ever go to a K-8 school. The worst outcome.

Sorry, OP! I hope your admin team is right and something opens for your DC. What K-8 do they attend?

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You couldn’t pay me to choose a school like maret or field over public.

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I'm so sorry, OP. Waitlists do move - especially if your current admin at a respected K-8 goes to bat for a child. Some advice - make sure your admin knows which school is your first choice. Let them know you'll take any of the 5, but ABC is your first choice. That does make a difference to the schools to which your DC applied. Also, don't bug your admin, but do periodically check in and ask for updates of what they've heard, what they think you/your DC should be doing to help, etc. Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:so all the Langley kids got waitlisted this year after the fruitful past cycle?

Our Langley niece got into 4/5.

We're a Langley family that was 5/5 this year. Hearing good things from other families too, so there will be some tough decisions. We are very happy with admin's efforts on admissions; middle school leadership has been great and very well organized.

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Anonymous wrote:You couldn’t pay me to choose a school like maret or field over public.

Why is that?