Why is there a greater stigma toward men who live with their parents than there is toward women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because usually the men aren't expected to do chores or cook their own food in their parents household like women are.

Both my brother and I lived at home for a while after college: I had to clean the house, cook some dinners, and do my own clothes as well as other laundry. He maybe mowed the grass some during the summer. Completely different expectations.

I see less and less of this male v female home tasks. Everyone tag teams and pitches in on the same things as available and as needed.

As for old gen parents well that’s their biases if they treat their adult sons differently than their adult daughters. Thats misogyny not being traditional. There’s no tradition to dump on females.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems sexist if you ask me.

It is but there is a simple explanation. Historically, in-laws haven't been fair to DILs and vice versa which lead to such stigma because men weren't able to keep balance or peace so it became a standard practice to paint all men who lived with their parents as weak, spoiled and bad.

As most women left parental homes after marriage or stayed home only if single so not didn't generate similar stigma.

Historically as in 4 generations and 100 years ago? Wake up PP. How long have you lived in America?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agreed, it does seem sexist. Probably related to how traditional gender roles expect a man to be able to provide for his family.

When I met my wife she was living with her parents and I had no problem with it.

+1 My DH was living with his parents when we met (he was 26). I didn't have a problem with it since he was gainfully employed and was saving money.

Well, 26 isn't 36...in many cases they will not have been out of school all that long. How would you have felt then, even if he was employed and "saving money"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems sexist if you ask me.

Are you a man living at home? If not this seems like a funny thing to be uoset about. Many people assume something is wrong wirh either male or female living at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because usually the men aren't expected to do chores or cook their own food in their parents household like women are.

Both my brother and I lived at home for a while after college: I had to clean the house, cook some dinners, and do my own clothes as well as other laundry. He maybe mowed the grass some during the summer. Completely different expectations.

I see less and less of this male v female home tasks. Everyone tag teams and pitches in on the same things as available and as needed.

As for old gen parents well that’s their biases if they treat their adult sons differently than their adult daughters. Thats misogyny not being traditional. There’s no tradition to dump on females.

Ummm every culture in the world traditionally dumps housework on women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because usually the men aren't expected to do chores or cook their own food in their parents household like women are.

Both my brother and I lived at home for a while after college: I had to clean the house, cook some dinners, and do my own clothes as well as other laundry. He maybe mowed the grass some during the summer. Completely different expectations.

I see less and less of this male v female home tasks. Everyone tag teams and pitches in on the same things as available and as needed.

As for old gen parents well that’s their biases if they treat their adult sons differently than their adult daughters. Thats misogyny not being traditional. There’s no tradition to dump on females.

Ummm every culture in the world traditionally dumps housework on women.

Similarly, most cultures don't make women go to war, build boats, plow fields, shovel snow, mow lawns, fix cars, earn income, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because usually the men aren't expected to do chores or cook their own food in their parents household like women are.

Both my brother and I lived at home for a while after college: I had to clean the house, cook some dinners, and do my own clothes as well as other laundry. He maybe mowed the grass some during the summer. Completely different expectations.

I see less and less of this male v female home tasks. Everyone tag teams and pitches in on the same things as available and as needed.

As for old gen parents well that’s their biases if they treat their adult sons differently than their adult daughters. Thats misogyny not being traditional. There’s no tradition to dump on females.

Ummm every culture in the world traditionally dumps housework on women.

You can try it here in 2023 and see what happens.

This is not some developing country withholding education, jobs and property rights from single women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because usually the men aren't expected to do chores or cook their own food in their parents household like women are.

Both my brother and I lived at home for a while after college: I had to clean the house, cook some dinners, and do my own clothes as well as other laundry. He maybe mowed the grass some during the summer. Completely different expectations.

I see less and less of this male v female home tasks. Everyone tag teams and pitches in on the same things as available and as needed.

As for old gen parents well that’s their biases if they treat their adult sons differently than their adult daughters. Thats misogyny not being traditional. There’s no tradition to dump on females.

Ummm every culture in the world traditionally dumps housework on women.

Similarly, most cultures don't make women go to war, build boats, plow fields, shovel snow, mow lawns, fix cars, earn income, etc.

lol.

Yeah. Much more civilized to wear a heavy black veils and dress and have back to back kids from age 16-36 whilst monitoring the other wives, home and brood

Or moving in with the parental in-laws to cook, clean, entertain them, raise kids in their house 24/7.

[Anonymous]

Men select for beauty and women select for resources. It’s just biology.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men select for beauty and women select for resources. It’s just biology.

Men select for childcare.

No one wants dumb kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men select for beauty and women select for resources. It’s just biology.

Men select for agreeability. They’d prefer someone pleasant to look at, certainly, but they will always choose “cute” over “beautiful”.

[Anonymous]

Because men are usually out and about as much as possible and as early as possible. They don't want to hear the rules of parents.
The brothers I know who took forever to get out of the house are all special needs. Two never got out, but since they are supporting their immigrant parents, nobody thinks something is wrong with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men select for beauty and women select for resources. It’s just biology.

No. Times have changed. Women have their own money and resources so they can use hired help or machines to get traditionally manly things done.

Men can hire housekeepers, nannies and surrogates to get traditionally womanly things done.

Both can look good with help from plastic surgeons, gym instructors, stylists etc.

Biology can be altered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men select for beauty and women select for resources. It’s just biology.

Men select for agreeability. They’d prefer someone pleasant to look at, certainly, but they will always choose “cute” over “beautiful”.

Cute women are often nice while beautiful ones are often narcissistic so in long term, cute is a better choice.

[Anonymous]

Its not that beautiful women are born narcissistic, people ruin them from special treatment since they are babies.