Why is there a greater stigma toward men who live with their parents than there is toward women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems sexist if you ask me.

Big difference between a Failure to Launch loser mooching off his parents food, house and cleaning versus a working woman living at home to oversee elderly care and housekeeping.

That is all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agreed, it does seem sexist. Probably related to how traditional gender roles expect a man to be able to provide for his family.

When I met my wife she was living with her parents and I had no problem with it.

Big difference living at home for cultural reasons while finishing college or grad school than neither of those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because it raises red flags on three of the most common indicators that a man is not suitable for marriage:

1. Can’t afford his own living expenses/did something irresponsible financially and so now is back with mom and dad.

2. Can’t do household tasks and so will expect a partner to cook and clean for them.

3. Has an unhealthy degree of enmeshment and there will be in-law problems.


None of this says every man living with his parents has all of these issues, but in a world where everyone is assessed online, many women are not going to waste time making sure they won’t be expected to live with their in laws or iron their potential spouses shirts.

Bingo

The dependency and codependency are real. Real pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What anyone thinks about a situation says more about them than it says about the other person.If somebody doesn't have the heart to find out why something is the way it is and then decide it means they are so rigid in their thinking and acting that you might as well date a robot.

The why comes out pretty quickly.

Notice Op makes no mention of it to conjur up more “discussion.”

[Anonymous]

Because for women living alone can be dangerous. Isn’t the case for men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because for women living alone can be dangerous. Isn’t the case for men

Living alone is dangerous for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems sexist if you ask me.

It’s absolutely rooted in gendered expectation that a man is a provider. First for himself, then for his family.
And if he can’t demonstrate he can first support himself, then he is unlikely to attract a partner.

This trait may also be unattractive in women to some men, but not to all.

This. A lot of men would also judge this. Just seems like someone isn't a real independent adult. I think the assumptions above are equally applicable to both genders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because when men live at home there is a greater likelihood that their parents are caring for them by doing things like laundry, cleaning, etc. Plus women are more concerned about men being financially viable as partners and living at home can be a sign of not having enough money.

When I lived with my parents as a woman for brief periods of time, I was doing my laundry and theirs, grocery shopping, letting the plumber in. Later when they got sicker I was caring for them and the house.

A man living at home can be a sign that he doesn’t know how to care for himself either financially or logistically.

My 16 and 18 year old sons have been doing their own laundry for years. My husband taught them in middle school.

[Anonymous]

Because women are gold diggers. They want to live with mommy and daddy until a new daddy comes along. If he’s at home, they see that as bad. They’d sooner date a married man than a good man saving money living at home.

[Anonymous]

Because there is generally a greater expectation that daughters contribute to the household in a number of ways - cooking, cleaning, picking up after themselves, elder care, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because when men live at home there is a greater likelihood that their parents are caring for them by doing things like laundry, cleaning, etc. Plus women are more concerned about men being financially viable as partners and living at home can be a sign of not having enough money.

When I lived with my parents as a woman for brief periods of time, I was doing my laundry and theirs, grocery shopping, letting the plumber in. Later when they got sicker I was caring for them and the house.

A man living at home can be a sign that he doesn’t know how to care for himself either financially or logistically.

My 16 and 18 year old sons have been doing their own laundry for years. My husband taught them in middle school.

What does this have to do with males in their 30-50s living with Ma and Pa?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems sexist if you ask me.

It’s absolutely rooted in gendered expectation that a man is a provider. First for himself, then for his family.
And if he can’t demonstrate he can first support himself, then he is unlikely to attract a partner.

This trait may also be unattractive in women to some men, but not to all.

The above is outdated and sexist.

The old school misogynist definition of “men” being a “provider” only due to a paycheck and not picking up after himself, actively parenting kids, and maintaining a house & property well is long gone.

No more one trick pony “men”. They have to pull their own weight and not have wifey do everything in the homefront any longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems sexist if you ask me.

No, sexist is not the word here.

Most think adults who year after year live with their able bodied parents likely have mental disorders or special needs. They are not marriage material, whether male or female.

[Anonymous]

I think the provider part for men is true. There is also a traditional values side to women 'still' living at home, a perception that they aren't going to be out with random men at all hours or partying if they live with their parents. I'm not saying I agree with it, but many conservative cultures value women living at home until marriage for this reason and I think there's a bit of carryover into perceptions in less conservative cultures.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they assume the woman is providing care?

Both represent a failure to launch, unless the were recently a student or divorced.