Can we go a little easier on one another?

[Anonymous]

1) I suspect that high schoolers are attracted to this forum and they make up some of the trolls specific to this forum.

2) Agree with PPs who say, don't respond to trolls. Hit "report" instead.

3) This forum has helped me a lot over the years. Thank you to those of you who have tried to be helpful and share information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t focus on “tone” of the message. Focus on the message itself. So many women can’t get over the tone and never get the message.

Women??

LOL. Exhibit A

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was ready to agree with you, but I've seen people ask questions like "I called my DC's professor to demand an extension on an assignment because it conflicts with a long-planned family reunion. The professor has not replied yet. WWYD? Call dean or drive to school to request in-person meeting?"

Like in general I think we should be easier on each other, and I always think there is a calm way to disagree. However, some people are asking bad questions because they have poor boundaries, are unable to view their child as an adult or near-adult, and have serious control issues. I think it's okay to call that out.

Also, sometimes it's not a question of helicopter parenting. Like the recent thread on the DD who was left to fill out her applications and then didn't and the OP was livid and very angry with the DD. I didn't think that was great parenting either, sorry. I am okay with being respectful when I post, but I don't think it's my job to tell people who come here asking for feedback "you're doing great!" unless I really think that. One thing I like about DCUM is that people have more freedom to give unvarnished opinions, which can be hard to come by in person.

But yes, some people on these boards have no tact, use unnecessarily salty language, or are working out their own extensive issues on other posters. It's an unfortunate aspect of the site.

NP. I have been reading here for ten years and never seen anything like the bolded. I think you are making it up so you can continue to be mean.

Another NP. I’ve never seen anything like it either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) I suspect that high schoolers are attracted to this forum and they make up some of the trolls specific to this forum.

2) Agree with PPs who say, don't respond to trolls. Hit "report" instead.

3) This forum has helped me a lot over the years. Thank you to those of you who have tried to be helpful and share information.

There are more adults that act like children (not even teen age), than there are teens posting here. I think the former wants readers to believe it is the latter.

This forum is helpful when the posts are legitimate, not when the same (adult) posters are trolling about the same schools each week. Too bad they can't take a hint.