Hide birthday party guest list or not?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please don’t hide - we always try to coordinate carpooling. I really do not care if you didn’t invite the entire class or not. I don’t tell my kid who is or isn’t going or who is or isn’t invited (though I’m confident they talk about it at school). My DC either wants to go or doesn’t, it’s not dependent on the list. I need the list to juggle my ability to get DC there.

Just contact the host if you're too stretched. Geez! It's clear not everyone wants to share that kind of info and that's okay. You're private campaign to change other folks behavior won't work. Just adapt!

Your way doesn't even work. You look foolish for no reason.

To "look" foolish on an anonymous forum? Hmmm

Your reading comprehensions is as poor as your social skills.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve always hidden the list, but I’m big on privacy.

This!

Privacy is huge for me and these are children, so. . .

What privacy are you talking about? This is an invite list that would only be visible to other attendees. It's not being posted publicly or to Facebook...

[Anonymous]

I find hiding invite lists to be completely juvenile behavior. There’s no good reason for doing so - including “privacy.” The people invited would see each other there anyway, moreover, you’re not disclosing information that people already don’t know. You’re not posting their PII along with the invite, FFS.

[Anonymous]

I only hide the guest list when I have to go to B list. So invite your 10 and let them rsvp. If you get nos and want to invite more, then huge the list so they don’t know they are b list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only hide the guest list when I have to go to B list. So invite your 10 and let them rsvp. If you get nos and want to invite more, then huge the list so they don’t know they are b list.

Do you remove the "no" from the original list? I had that happen to me. I declined an invitation due to a conflict, but then plans changed and I wanted to change my RSVP but found I had been taken off the list because I could no longer access the invite. I thought that was odd. It wasn't like nothing better came along, it was along the lines of the sports game got rained out or something to that effect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve always hidden the list, but I’m big on privacy.

This!

Privacy is huge for me and these are children, so. . .

What privacy are you talking about? This is an invite list that would only be visible to other attendees. It's not being posted publicly or to Facebook...

+1. I do not understand the “privacy” concern at all. If I’m viewing a guest list on evite, all I can see is the name of the person attending. Their personal info (photo, address, phone number, email address, birthdate, job info, etc) is not available. All I’m seeing is a name of a kid and/or parent and whether they are attending a party or not. Whose privacy are you protecting by hiding the list when attendees can see for themselves who is there when they go to the party??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I only hide the guest list when I have to go to B list. So invite your 10 and let them rsvp. If you get nos and want to invite more, then huge the list so they don’t know they are b list.

Do you remove the "no" from the original list? I had that happen to me. I declined an invitation due to a conflict, but then plans changed and I wanted to change my RSVP but found I had been taken off the list because I could no longer access the invite. I thought that was odd. It wasn't like nothing better came along, it was along the lines of the sports game got rained out or something to that effect.

No, I’ve never removed anyone, but I have once had to tell someone who rsvp no for a sibling that I could not accommodate the siblings because of space when they wanted to change the sibling to a yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I only hide the guest list when I have to go to B list. So invite your 10 and let them rsvp. If you get nos and want to invite more, then huge the list so they don’t know they are b list.

Do you remove the "no" from the original list? I had that happen to me. I declined an invitation due to a conflict, but then plans changed and I wanted to change my RSVP but found I had been taken off the list because I could no longer access the invite. I thought that was odd. It wasn't like nothing better came along, it was along the lines of the sports game got rained out or something to that effect.

NP. I’m guessing people do this because they don’t want last minute rsvps after they’ve gotten goodie bags, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I only hide the guest list when I have to go to B list. So invite your 10 and let them rsvp. If you get nos and want to invite more, then huge the list so they don’t know they are b list.

Do you remove the "no" from the original list? I had that happen to me. I declined an invitation due to a conflict, but then plans changed and I wanted to change my RSVP but found I had been taken off the list because I could no longer access the invite. I thought that was odd. It wasn't like nothing better came along, it was along the lines of the sports game got rained out or something to that effect.

NP. I’m guessing people do this because they don’t want last minute rsvps after they’ve gotten goodie bags, etc.

Also if space is limited and they’ve moved onto a B list, there may not be room for those who originally responded “no.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t hide - we always try to coordinate carpooling. I really do not care if you didn’t invite the entire class or not. I don’t tell my kid who is or isn’t going or who is or isn’t invited (though I’m confident they talk about it at school). My DC either wants to go or doesn’t, it’s not dependent on the list. I need the list to juggle my ability to get DC there.

Just contact the host if you're too stretched. Geez! It's clear not everyone wants to share that kind of info and that's okay. You're private campaign to change other folks behavior won't work. Just adapt!

Your way doesn't even work. You look foolish for no reason.

To "look" foolish on an anonymous forum? Hmmm

NP. What? PP means you will look foolish to the host for reaching out to accommodate your kid…it makes absolutely no sense to ask the host to help you find a carpool arrangement for the party.

This. If you can’t get your kid to the party on your own, just decline please. Party planning is enough on its own, I don’t have time to coordinate parents too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t hide - we always try to coordinate carpooling. I really do not care if you didn’t invite the entire class or not. I don’t tell my kid who is or isn’t going or who is or isn’t invited (though I’m confident they talk about it at school). My DC either wants to go or doesn’t, it’s not dependent on the list. I need the list to juggle my ability to get DC there.

Just contact the host if you're too stretched. Geez! It's clear not everyone wants to share that kind of info and that's okay. You're private campaign to change other folks behavior won't work. Just adapt!

Your way doesn't even work. You look foolish for no reason.

To "look" foolish on an anonymous forum? Hmmm

NP. What? PP means you will look foolish to the host for reaching out to accommodate your kid…it makes absolutely no sense to ask the host to help you find a carpool arrangement for the party.

This. If you can’t get your kid to the party on your own, just decline please. Party planning is enough on its own, I don’t have time to coordinate parents too!

Nobody is talking about contacting the host for carpool info. Rather they'd like to know if their neighbor's kid was invited too so they can arrange it amongst themselves. Pretending its top secret who is going to Jimmy's party at Chuck e Cheese is ridiculous. You'll see who was invited when you get there anyway.

[Anonymous]

Hide the list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t hide - we always try to coordinate carpooling. I really do not care if you didn’t invite the entire class or not. I don’t tell my kid who is or isn’t going or who is or isn’t invited (though I’m confident they talk about it at school). My DC either wants to go or doesn’t, it’s not dependent on the list. I need the list to juggle my ability to get DC there.

Just contact the host if you're too stretched. Geez! It's clear not everyone wants to share that kind of info and that's okay. You're private campaign to change other folks behavior won't work. Just adapt!

Your way doesn't even work. You look foolish for no reason.

To "look" foolish on an anonymous forum? Hmmm

NP. What? PP means you will look foolish to the host for reaching out to accommodate your kid…it makes absolutely no sense to ask the host to help you find a carpool arrangement for the party.

This. If you can’t get your kid to the party on your own, just decline please. Party planning is enough on its own, I don’t have time to coordinate parents too!

Nobody is talking about contacting the host for carpool info. Rather they'd like to know if their neighbor's kid was invited too so they can arrange it amongst themselves. Pretending its top secret who is going to Jimmy's party at Chuck e Cheese is ridiculous. You'll see who was invited when you get there anyway.

You'll find out when you're there, I'm not divulging that information due to privacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t hide - we always try to coordinate carpooling. I really do not care if you didn’t invite the entire class or not. I don’t tell my kid who is or isn’t going or who is or isn’t invited (though I’m confident they talk about it at school). My DC either wants to go or doesn’t, it’s not dependent on the list. I need the list to juggle my ability to get DC there.

Just contact the host if you're too stretched. Geez! It's clear not everyone wants to share that kind of info and that's okay. You're private campaign to change other folks behavior won't work. Just adapt!

Your way doesn't even work. You look foolish for no reason.

To "look" foolish on an anonymous forum? Hmmm

NP. What? PP means you will look foolish to the host for reaching out to accommodate your kid…it makes absolutely no sense to ask the host to help you find a carpool arrangement for the party.

This. If you can’t get your kid to the party on your own, just decline please. Party planning is enough on its own, I don’t have time to coordinate parents too!

Nobody is talking about contacting the host for carpool info. Rather they'd like to know if their neighbor's kid was invited too so they can arrange it amongst themselves. Pretending its top secret who is going to Jimmy's party at Chuck e Cheese is ridiculous. You'll see who was invited when you get there anyway.

You'll find out when you're there, I'm not divulging that information due to privacy.

Whose privacy? Yours or theirs? Are you just trying to hide the shame of having people RSVP no? The kids are already talking about it at school, you know.

[Anonymous]

I was previously firmly in the show-the-guestlist-camp but I kind of get why you might choose to hide now due to an awkward situation. DC's party invite list was a mix of kids from his class (less than half) and kids in other classes who were either in his class last year or from preschool that he's still friends with. Then I randomly met a parent of a classmate who was not on the guestlist. They were saying how much their DC likes mine and asked for my contact info for their birthday invite. Ack! Of course when I bring this kid up to DC he's like oh yeah they're my friend, can we invite them to the party? And when I asked why he hadn't brought them up before he said he forgot. It was still 3 weeks out and I was happy to include this friend so I sent this mom the evite but obviously it's weird because she can see a bunch of parents responded already. I sent her a follow up text to the tune of, "Just sent you an evite, Larlo would love it if Larla could come!" They haven't responded to my text or the evite so I'm worried she's offended or thinks it's a pity invite but it was really more of an oversight.