Hide birthday party guest list or not?

[Anonymous]

It’s a kindergarten birthday party, who cares whether someone comes because of another invitee. You don’t have to have “pure motives” to attend. Also, they will talk about it, even when admonished not to; they are too young for all of them to remember that. It’s up to you whether to hide the list; but I don’t think these are great reasons to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t hide the list. Make it’s very awkward for those of us to dance around the subject of “is this other person I know invited or not”. I hate it and prefer to just know if can or can’t mention the party

Yep, this. When parents hide the list, I always assume they are being exclusionary and don’t want people to know. It also makes it more likely that I will decline if I would need a carpool because I don’t want to upset someone if it turns out their kid wasn’t invited.

Agreed. We are only inviting around half the class, or maybe slightly less, to our 1st grader's party, plus a few friends from other classes. I already know of at least one parent who is trying to arrange a carpool for her DC because she will be out of town, and she said something along the lines of, "working to see if Larla's mom can bring!" Those two kids aren't in the same class, she probably would not have assumed that Larla was invited.

I do also ask my DS not to talk about the party at school so that others don't feel left out, which he seems to understand.

[Anonymous]

It's sort of funny to see people react this way about list-hiders. If you get a paper invite, you don't know who's going.

I prefer to hide the list for privacy reasons. If a family needs to carpool, I would hope they would feel that they could reach out to me for an assist (either myself or connecting two people).

[Anonymous]

Don’t hide

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's sort of funny to see people react this way about list-hiders. If you get a paper invite, you don't know who's going.

I prefer to hide the list for privacy reasons. If a family needs to carpool, I would hope they would feel that they could reach out to me for an assist (either myself or connecting two people).

IME, paper invites tend to only get used when the entire class is invited.

The hiding invites for "privacy" reasons is what's a bit funny to, I didn't realize there were so many privacy concerns over a party invite! You learn something new every day.

[Anonymous]

Please don’t hide the list so we can work out carpools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's sort of funny to see people react this way about list-hiders. If you get a paper invite, you don't know who's going.

I prefer to hide the list for privacy reasons. If a family needs to carpool, I would hope they would feel that they could reach out to me for an assist (either myself or connecting two people).

IME, paper invites tend to only get used when the entire class is invited.

The hiding invites for "privacy" reasons is what's a bit funny to, I didn't realize there were so many privacy concerns over a party invite! You learn something new every day.

Excluding people starts young in this crowd!

[Anonymous]

What is your reason for hiding the list?

If it’s because you don’t want people to know that you only invited half the class, won’t they find that out anyway when they go to the party and only half the class is there (or when they ask other non invited kids’ parents to carpool and find out the other kids aren’t invited that way?)

If it’s because you don’t want people to rsvp no because their kid’s bff isn’t invited, I don’t think that should be a big concern for a 6 year olds party. I mean I do that as an adult because I don’t want to go to an event where I won’t have anyone to talk to/where I only know the host but for a kid’s bday party when these kids are in class together I dont think majority of parents are thinking this way (unless they rely on their kid’s bff’s parents for carpool)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's sort of funny to see people react this way about list-hiders. If you get a paper invite, you don't know who's going.

I prefer to hide the list for privacy reasons. If a family needs to carpool, I would hope they would feel that they could reach out to me for an assist (either myself or connecting two people).

IME, paper invites tend to only get used when the entire class is invited.

The hiding invites for "privacy" reasons is what's a bit funny to, I didn't realize there were so many privacy concerns over a party invite! You learn something new every day.

Excluding people starts young in this crowd!

So the privacy issues is keeping it mum that Larla was not invited? Even though Lilly is going to ask her if she is going at school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's sort of funny to see people react this way about list-hiders. If you get a paper invite, you don't know who's going.

I prefer to hide the list for privacy reasons. If a family needs to carpool, I would hope they would feel that they could reach out to me for an assist (either myself or connecting two people).

What kind of privacy reasons? Will all the party guests be blindfolded so they can’t see who else is there?

[Anonymous]

Privacy posters: privacy from what or whom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve always hidden the list, but I’m big on privacy.

This!

Privacy is huge for me and these are children, so. . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Privacy posters: privacy from what or whom?

You know "those" type of parents who check the list to see if so and so will be there. FYI I invite the entire entire class plus friends on the side, but that doesn't need to be explicitly known either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Privacy posters: privacy from what or whom?

You know "those" type of parents who check the list to see if so and so will be there. FYI I invite the entire entire class plus friends on the side, but that doesn't need to be explicitly known either.

"Those" types of parents....who are looking for carpool? To see if their kids' friends are there? For what? Who cares? It's a 6 yr old bday party, not your dinner party.

[Anonymous]

How does hiding the list provide privacy?

I don’t hide the list so people can carpool.