BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people that think this is an actual issue or something that needs to be “dealt with” in any way are the weird ones, or at best socially awkward. As much as the BIL may have been out of line for saying what he did, it would have been way out of line to respond with anything about respecting your privacy. Chill out. Not a big deal.

It is never out of line to establish boundaries in your home. Guests can either accept the boundaries or leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“That’s cute, Bob. But it’s a no-go here. Larla will have to be content with closed doors and learn how to be a polite guest. Capiche?” 😬

If you are going to say (post) something like that, in a way that's pretty rude, you should at least learn how to spell it. Capisce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people that think this is an actual issue or something that needs to be “dealt with” in any way are the weird ones, or at best socially awkward. As much as the BIL may have been out of line for saying what he did, it would have been way out of line to respond with anything about respecting your privacy. Chill out. Not a big deal.

It is never out of line to establish boundaries in your home. Guests can either accept the boundaries or leave.

Obviously, but if you think a boundary needs to be set with a besotted grandfather who said his one year old grandchild likes looking opening doors, you’re dramatic. If that’s a boundary that you truly feels needs to be set, I’m sure lots of people would prefer not being invited and having to deal with your boundary setting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people that think this is an actual issue or something that needs to be “dealt with” in any way are the weird ones, or at best socially awkward. As much as the BIL may have been out of line for saying what he did, it would have been way out of line to respond with anything about respecting your privacy. Chill out. Not a big deal.

It is never out of line to establish boundaries in your home. Guests can either accept the boundaries or leave.

Obviously, but if you think a boundary needs to be set with a besotted grandfather who said his one year old grandchild likes looking opening doors, you’re dramatic. If that’s a boundary that you truly feels needs to be set, I’m sure lots of people would prefer not being invited and having to deal with your boundary setting.

He didn’t just say baby likes opening doors, he announced that he would be opening doors. It’s totally unacceptable behavior from a guest and any host is allowed to speak up about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people that think this is an actual issue or something that needs to be “dealt with” in any way are the weird ones, or at best socially awkward. As much as the BIL may have been out of line for saying what he did, it would have been way out of line to respond with anything about respecting your privacy. Chill out. Not a big deal.

It is never out of line to establish boundaries in your home. Guests can either accept the boundaries or leave.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister and BIL are first time grandparents to their grand daughter. I hosted Christmas and the baby and her mom( my niece) and the grandparents ( sister and BIL) were here. Baby is almost 1.

BIL announces that baby is curious and when they carry the baby, she points to all doors and they have to open them to show her what is behind the door. BIL says baby will be looking into all rooms and closets. (Baby will point to door and they will open it). He said if I don't want the baby looking through bedrooms, then I can take her upstairs myself to show her. How would you respond?

My niece ended up being good with keeping the baby busy.and that never ended up happening. BUT I found that interaction weird. The baby doesn't get to go everywhere just because she wants to....its called setting limits.

Was BIL weird?

Bil is an azz and I would have corrected him immediately. No, you don't open closed doors to rooms or closets. I'd make it clear he needs to find other ways to amuse his child. What entitled asses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a father who is head over heels in love with his baby, who has picked up a common baby “trick.” The door opening thing is super normal, and one of the first ways a baby manages to communicate (pointing and successfully getting that gesture to result in the desired outcome of the adult opening the door). And also super common for parents to absolutely delight in it.

I agree it’s a bit weird but hardly the first time a first parent has been a bit weird about their baby.

SUPER!

His demand for access to all of a person's house is rude and entitled. I'd set him straight immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every room and closet is open in my house. We have cats that own us so bringing a baby into the mix would not bother me at all but I don't babysit so someone else has to do that. Our house is a help yourself house and if you see something you like tell me. I may just give it to you.
I have nothing I'm ashamed of and I'm not attached to things.

Ugh. You are weird. You want a cookie don't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people that think this is an actual issue or something that needs to be “dealt with” in any way are the weird ones, or at best socially awkward. As much as the BIL may have been out of line for saying what he did, it would have been way out of line to respond with anything about respecting your privacy. Chill out. Not a big deal.

It is never out of line to establish boundaries in your home. Guests can either accept the boundaries or leave.

Obviously, but if you think a boundary needs to be set with a besotted grandfather who said his one year old grandchild likes looking opening doors, you’re dramatic. If that’s a boundary that you truly feels needs to be set, I’m sure lots of people would prefer not being invited and having to deal with your boundary setting.

A besotted grandfather? What a load of bs. Gramps can find some way that isn't rude to amuse his grandchild. You're a rude, entitled person too aren't you?

[Anonymous]

Tell him in that case then for privacy you insist guests stay on the first floor and to he should use caution because you cannot be responsible should something fall from a closet shelf and hurt the baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people that think this is an actual issue or something that needs to be “dealt with” in any way are the weird ones, or at best socially awkward. As much as the BIL may have been out of line for saying what he did, it would have been way out of line to respond with anything about respecting your privacy. Chill out. Not a big deal.

It is never out of line to establish boundaries in your home. Guests can either accept the boundaries or leave.

Obviously, but if you think a boundary needs to be set with a besotted grandfather who said his one year old grandchild likes looking opening doors, you’re dramatic. If that’s a boundary that you truly feels needs to be set, I’m sure lots of people would prefer not being invited and having to deal with your boundary setting.

This! I wonder why people On DCUM are overly obsessed with boundaries. It sounds like BIL was joking. If I were in that situation I would make a joke in return but not allude to privacy or boundaries any such thing, because that is a total overreaction.

[Anonymous]

"Okay. Let me know if she finds my Glock, I've been looking for it everywhere."

[Anonymous]

I would have laughed and said “good one”.

[Anonymous]

I just don't think I could work up too much outrage over an old man and a baby entertaining themselves. Sure, I'd probably say don't open the bedroom closets or whatever, but this mostly seems pretty harmless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would tell them which doors are off limits and find a few for them that she can open. Be very clear.

"Thank you for letting me know Larla is fascinated by doors." Doors a,b,c are off limits. Please do not go into those rooms. You can open doors x,y,z. However our house is not baby proofed so please watch her at all times."

Either this or just roll with it. Honestly it wouldn’t bother me, but I’m not a private person. But if you aren’t comfortable, that’s fine and this is a great script.

This. Christ almighty, are you guys hiding bodies in closets that you can't handle a baby opening/closing it briefly? So weird.