BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms

[Anonymous]

He sounds psycho.

[Anonymous]

That is pretty funny.

My parents got really offended and rolled their eyes and said no when I asked if I could put their wine rack (located at toddler-eye level) away while visiting with my 2yo and I still haven't gotten over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God DCUM is so annoying sometimes.

Everyone STOP posting scripts. The visit is over. OP and baby apparently handled it fine. The only question was if BIL was “weird” not “please help craft the perfect script after you’ve located a time machine.”

Well I never. Are you suggesting that anyone should pass up the opportunity to recite their inane "that doesn't work for us" type speech?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister and BIL are first time grandparents to their grand daughter. I hosted Christmas and the baby and her mom( my niece) and the grandparents ( sister and BIL) were here. Baby is almost 1.

BIL announces that baby is curious and when they carry the baby, she points to all doors and they have to open them to show her what is behind the door. BIL says baby will be looking into all rooms and closets. (Baby will point to door and they will open it). He said if I don't want the baby looking through bedrooms, then I can take her upstairs myself to show her. How would you respond?

My niece ended up being good with keeping the baby busy.and that never ended up happening. BUT I found that interaction weird. The baby doesn't get to go everywhere just because she wants to....its called setting limits.

Was BIL weird?

I wouldn’t host Christmas if I’m required to open every door in my house upon command. Just tell him that doesn’t work for you and he can host Christmas instead.

If they open closet door then they have to clean/sort/fold what is behind door

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God DCUM is so annoying sometimes.

Everyone STOP posting scripts. The visit is over. OP and baby apparently handled it fine. The only question was if BIL was “weird” not “please help craft the perfect script after you’ve located a time machine.”

Well I never. Are you suggesting that anyone should pass up the opportunity to recite their inane "that doesn't work for us" type speech?

Well, the OP asked, "How would you respond?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister and BIL are first time grandparents to their grand daughter. I hosted Christmas and the baby and her mom( my niece) and the grandparents ( sister and BIL) were here. Baby is almost 1.

BIL announces that baby is curious and when they carry the baby, she points to all doors and they have to open them to show her what is behind the door. BIL says baby will be looking into all rooms and closets. ...

I would have said no. The baby nor your other relatives do not have free access to all your rooms, closets, etc. This baby [and any more] will eventually walk so it progresses to what? Desk and dresser drawers? Jewelry playtime? Remotes? Thermostats?

Guests whether kids, adults, or pets do not get free roam of your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a father who is head over heels in love with his baby, who has picked up a common baby “trick.” The door opening thing is super normal, and one of the first ways a baby manages to communicate (pointing and successfully getting that gesture to result in the desired outcome of the adult opening the door). And also super common for parents to absolutely delight in it.

I agree it’s a bit weird but hardly the first time a first parent has been a bit weird about their baby.

It was my BIL, so that was the baby's grandpa, not the baby's dad. He is 63.

Maybe worse then. My FIL was so gaga for my firstborn daughter people very seriously stopped accepting his dinner invitations because he became so insufferable with changing the conversation to her incredible baby brilliance.

+1 Sounds like the niece/mother was aware of appropriate boundaries and kept the baby downstairs. I think grandpa/BIL is just in the midst of “baby is the best baby ever” and I would do my best to ignore him since the baby’s actual caregiver is not encroaching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine, OP. BIL is super excited about having a grandchild. You can set the limit, of course. I wouldn’t allow that and would have laughed at it but I wouldn’t still be thinking about it and posting about it on DCUM.

This. He’s besotted by his grandkid (first one?) and probably thinks you are, too. I would just laugh and say, “Yeah….that’s not gonna happen.”

[Anonymous]

Insufferable

[Anonymous]

He sound nuts

[Anonymous]

The people that think this is an actual issue or something that needs to be “dealt with” in any way are the weird ones, or at best socially awkward. As much as the BIL may have been out of line for saying what he did, it would have been way out of line to respond with anything about respecting your privacy. Chill out. Not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people that think this is an actual issue or something that needs to be “dealt with” in any way are the weird ones, or at best socially awkward. As much as the BIL may have been out of line for saying what he did, it would have been way out of line to respond with anything about respecting your privacy[i][b]. Chill out. Not a big deal.

Nope. Totally ok to say something.

[Anonymous]

In my house, I’d say, “If I were you, I’d avoid opening my office door. I am prepping a trial for a major crime of violence and the pictures are really grim and quite traumatizing. Perhaps stay on the main floor so as to avoid astronomical therapy bills.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a father who is head over heels in love with his baby, who has picked up a common baby “trick.” The door opening thing is super normal, and one of the first ways a baby manages to communicate (pointing and successfully getting that gesture to result in the desired outcome of the adult opening the door). And also super common for parents to absolutely delight in it.

I agree it’s a bit weird but hardly the first time a first parent has been a bit weird about their baby.

It was my BIL, so that was the baby's grandpa, not the baby's dad. He is 63.

Maybe worse then. My FIL was so gaga for my firstborn daughter people very seriously stopped accepting his dinner invitations because he became so insufferable with changing the conversation to her incredible baby brilliance.

+1 Sounds like the niece/mother was aware of appropriate boundaries and kept the baby downstairs. I think grandpa/BIL is just in the midst of “baby is the best baby ever” and I would do my best to ignore him since the baby’s actual caregiver is not encroaching.

This. The mom is doing fine and knows grandpa's gone a bit loopy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d buy a blow up doll, dress it in leather, put it in a closet. Watch what happens.

Baby would not care.