BIL announces baby will be looking in closets/ all bedrooms

[Anonymous]

My sister and BIL are first time grandparents to their grand daughter. I hosted Christmas and the baby and her mom( my niece) and the grandparents ( sister and BIL) were here. Baby is almost 1.

BIL announces that baby is curious and when they carry the baby, she points to all doors and they have to open them to show her what is behind the door. BIL says baby will be looking into all rooms and closets. (Baby will point to door and they will open it). He said if I don't want the baby looking through bedrooms, then I can take her upstairs myself to show her. How would you respond?

My niece ended up being good with keeping the baby busy.and that never ended up happening. BUT I found that interaction weird. The baby doesn't get to go everywhere just because she wants to....its called setting limits.

Was BIL weird?

[Anonymous]

Yes. He doesn’t seem very bright.

[Anonymous]

"I wouldn't recommend that because those are places that are not even minimally babyproofed" and then drop it.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a father who is head over heels in love with his baby, who has picked up a common baby “trick.” The door opening thing is super normal, and one of the first ways a baby manages to communicate (pointing and successfully getting that gesture to result in the desired outcome of the adult opening the door). And also super common for parents to absolutely delight in it.

I agree it’s a bit weird but hardly the first time a first parent has been a bit weird about their baby.

[Anonymous]

I’d buy a blow up doll, dress it in leather, put it in a closet. Watch what happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a father who is head over heels in love with his baby, who has picked up a common baby “trick.” The door opening thing is super normal, and one of the first ways a baby manages to communicate (pointing and successfully getting that gesture to result in the desired outcome of the adult opening the door). And also super common for parents to absolutely delight in it.

I agree it’s a bit weird but hardly the first time a first parent has been a bit weird about their baby.

It was my BIL, so that was the baby's grandpa, not the baby's dad. He is 63.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a father who is head over heels in love with his baby, who has picked up a common baby “trick.” The door opening thing is super normal, and one of the first ways a baby manages to communicate (pointing and successfully getting that gesture to result in the desired outcome of the adult opening the door). And also super common for parents to absolutely delight in it.

I agree it’s a bit weird but hardly the first time a first parent has been a bit weird about their baby.

He can do that at home. I would never have allowed my baby to do that at anyone else's house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a father who is head over heels in love with his baby, who has picked up a common baby “trick.” The door opening thing is super normal, and one of the first ways a baby manages to communicate (pointing and successfully getting that gesture to result in the desired outcome of the adult opening the door). And also super common for parents to absolutely delight in it.

I agree it’s a bit weird but hardly the first time a first parent has been a bit weird about their baby.

Everything you said is true except that it’s the baby’s grandfather who made the announcement.

[Anonymous]

It's perfectly fine, but then I'm amused by nosy people who want to look through my stuff. What do they expect to find, I wonder.

[Anonymous]

It’s fine, OP. BIL is super excited about having a grandchild. You can set the limit, of course. I wouldn’t allow that and would have laughed at it but I wouldn’t still be thinking about it and posting about it on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a father who is head over heels in love with his baby, who has picked up a common baby “trick.” The door opening thing is super normal, and one of the first ways a baby manages to communicate (pointing and successfully getting that gesture to result in the desired outcome of the adult opening the door). And also super common for parents to absolutely delight in it.

I agree it’s a bit weird but hardly the first time a first parent has been a bit weird about their baby.

It was my BIL, so that was the baby's grandpa, not the baby's dad. He is 63.

Maybe worse then. My FIL was so gaga for my firstborn daughter people very seriously stopped accepting his dinner invitations because he became so insufferable with changing the conversation to her incredible baby brilliance.

[Anonymous]

“Please don’t go into our bedrooms and especially our closets.”

[Anonymous]

“That’s cute, Bob. But it’s a no-go here. Larla will have to be content with closed doors and learn how to be a polite guest. Capiche?” 😬

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a father who is head over heels in love with his baby, who has picked up a common baby “trick.” The door opening thing is super normal, and one of the first ways a baby manages to communicate (pointing and successfully getting that gesture to result in the desired outcome of the adult opening the door). And also super common for parents to absolutely delight in it.

I agree it’s a bit weird but hardly the first time a first parent has been a bit weird about their baby.

He can do that at home. I would never have allowed my baby to do that at anyone else's house.

+1

[Anonymous]

How would I respond? I would lock all the bedroom doors.