10 Year Old Arrested for Hugging Counselor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So far, he has been suspended (not expelled) and also not charged. I don’t see an overreaction yet. If it was a “dare” type situation, as several people have suggested, that seems like the spot on correct reaction.

Having worked in schools, it’s very possible the counselor believed the school would not have suspended without her filing a police report.

All that said he should not be charged and I hope police don’t move forward with that.

He was arrested. That makes it an overreaction. She's also pressing charges. Her name hasn't been released, but it will come out and she'll get her 15 minutes of infamy

We know who she is though. The news release the school. Go on the website and you will see three counselors. Two are black and one is an old looking frumpy white lady.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like that counselor could use some training.

[Anonymous]

Having taught in a school, go with the counselor on this. He grabbed her breast on purpose, probably a dare.

As for involving the police, I think that’s warranted. I doubt the consequences amount to anything serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Fair point to the above. My oldest is 6 so I don’t really have first hand experience with what 10 year olds know/are capable of. I’m viewing this through the eyes of a mom with younger boys who absolutely still love body part/toilet humor and don’t yet understand bodies as having sexual parts.

Well, you should teach them…like yesterday.

Little kids need to understand private body parts, and people not being allowed to touch them there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Fair point to the above. My oldest is 6 so I don’t really have first hand experience with what 10 year olds know/are capable of. I’m viewing this through the eyes of a mom with younger boys who absolutely still love body part/toilet humor and don’t yet understand bodies as having sexual parts.

Well, you should teach them…like yesterday.

Little kids need to understand private body parts, and people not being allowed to touch them there!

Teach them what? That it’s not okay to touch others in their private parts? Of course they’ve been taught that. But they’re still at an age where private parts are related to going potty. I don’t have a 10 year old, so I acknowledged I don’t know what is age-appropriate for upper elementary.

Or do you mean teach them about sexual battery while they’re still in preschool/kindergarten?

Lady do you even have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Fair point to the above. My oldest is 6 so I don’t really have first hand experience with what 10 year olds know/are capable of. I’m viewing this through the eyes of a mom with younger boys who absolutely still love body part/toilet humor and don’t yet understand bodies as having sexual parts.

Well, you should teach them…like yesterday.

Little kids need to understand private body parts, and people not being allowed to touch them there!

Teach them what? That it’s not okay to touch others in their private parts? Of course they’ve been taught that. But they’re still at an age where private parts are related to going potty. I don’t have a 10 year old, so I acknowledged I don’t know what is age-appropriate for upper elementary.

Or do you mean teach them about sexual battery while they’re still in preschool/kindergarten?

Lady do you even have kids?

I think my son was very late 8/9 when he seemed to understand that not touching someone in their “bathing suit area” wasn’t just some random rule and maybe something more serious. Like you, I taught my kids this but they don’t really get the gravity of it till later. I can absolutely recall him accidentally brushing his hand up against my friend’s breast and apologizing and being mortified. It was like something had clicked and he had a more grown up reaction to this faux pas. Before that, he would have apologized but it wouldn’t have been a big deal to him.

[Anonymous]

Impulse control isn’t always great at 10. Kid clearly has impulse issues. I would wonder if he was molested too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/10-year-old-student-hugged-school-counselor-now-facing-charges-accused-rcna56355

This raises some interesting questions. Obviously, there could be more facts here like this is a repeated pattern of behavior that the school cannot speak to. So I’m trying to keep an open mind.

But … the kid is 10. It’s entirely possible he a) accidentally touched her breast during the hug or b) has absolutely no understanding of the gravity of doing so. I’m not saying the counselor should give up her right to bodily autonomy, but it seems like this is a risk of working around kids and perhaps getting the criminal justice system involved is overkill. The racial differences also aren’t good optics.

Let’s say the kid truly is pervy, I don’t think this behavior should be enabled, but maybe a stern lesson could be taught without cops involved?

What says DCUM about this?

I have a 10 yr old and I think this is a really absurd thing to say. 10 year olds are more than able to get not touching breasts. We aren’t talking about toddlers here. My kid’s class is writing novels and designing hypothetical museums out of dioramas. They are well past understanding not to violate bodily autonomy.

I don’t think the kid should be put on trial but your theory on this point is just out to lunch.

Not every kid is taught a boob is a sexual thing at 10. I doubt my kids at 10 thought boob is sexual.

Lol it’s FLA, they specifically have removed talk of anything sexual from curriculum.

Unless he was told once and he did it again it’s absurd.

Until 3rd grade. You're right, that is so extreme...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I read about this the other day and agree it seemed over the top given the information available. We don't know the full story, so I hope there's more to it to justify her going nuclear on a 10 yr old. If not, then she needs to find work that doesn't involve being around other humans, especially children.

This!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/10-year-old-student-hugged-school-counselor-now-facing-charges-accused-rcna56355

This raises some interesting questions. Obviously, there could be more facts here like this is a repeated pattern of behavior that the school cannot speak to. So I’m trying to keep an open mind.

But … the kid is 10. It’s entirely possible he a) accidentally touched her breast during the hug or b) has absolutely no understanding of the gravity of doing so. I’m not saying the counselor should give up her right to bodily autonomy, but it seems like this is a risk of working around kids and perhaps getting the criminal justice system involved is overkill. The racial differences also aren’t good optics.

Let’s say the kid truly is pervy, I don’t think this behavior should be enabled, but maybe a stern lesson could be taught without cops involved?

What says DCUM about this?

I have a 10 yr old and I think this is a really absurd thing to say. 10 year olds are more than able to get not touching breasts. We aren’t talking about toddlers here. My kid’s class is writing novels and designing hypothetical museums out of dioramas. They are well past understanding not to violate bodily autonomy.

I don’t think the kid should be put on trial but your theory on this point is just out to lunch.

Not every kid is taught a boob is a sexual thing at 10. I doubt my kids at 10 thought boob is sexual.

Lol it’s FLA, they specifically have removed talk of anything sexual from curriculum.

Unless he was told once and he did it again it’s absurd.

A boob isn’t a “sexual” thing. But it is something you don’t touch. I am willing to give the counselor the benefit of the doubt that the situation was not an accident or confusion.

Why give the counselor the benefit of the doubt and not the kid???

[Anonymous]

I was groped by a 10 year old. I am a mom. I was in a bounce house with my 3 year old and a big kid jumped on my back and grabbed my breast. I was at a friends party so I didn’t want to make a scene. My husband saw and laughed, I’m pretty sure the kid learned it from his dad.

We hadn’t seen the friends in a while and everyone else was a stranger. I wanted to speak up but it was so awkward. I just bucked the kid off and gave him a death stare, he didn’t come near me again. This was in Frederick, VA. Doubt most parents are teaching this kid consent.

Point is I believe a 10 year old can do what is alleged. Future pervert/ rapist.

[Anonymous]

Can someone provide any article to back up that he was arrested? If not, the title of this post needs to be changed.

[Anonymous]

A school counselor who reacts so inappropriately to a probably accidental touch from a ten-year-old needs to find another job. Children are not safe around her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The counselor totally overreacted by getting law enforcement involved and having him suspended for 10 days. The counselor has negatively impacted this kid’s life. This counselor should NOT be working in the school system and should be fired.

I really feel for this 10 yr old kid and his family.

I feel for the kid (because he’s 10) and the counselor. His parents own raising a kid with this kind of garbage behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Point is I believe a 10 year old can do what is alleged. Future pervert/ rapist.

What's perverted is assigning sexual motives to a pre-pubescent child.