Masturbation/normal sexual exploration among toddlers/preschoolers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 2 1/2 year old daughter has started "rocking" on top of her mom. I see that it is normal for a toddler to do this type of thing, but she tells my wife "don't look at me" and "turn your head." She only does this with her mom. When questioned, she says it tickles and that her daycare provider tickles her that way. I know the rocking is normal, but the other stuff really seems like something an adult would have to say to her in a similar situation.

It sounds to me like you have some suspicions here, with your "something an adult would have to say to her" comment. I would investigate further and seek help with this situation.

I don't think if she was just doing this naturally she would have the consciousness to say "don't look at me." She wouldn't have the realization to have any "shame" in this scenario if she was driving the behavior herself. Good luck poster.

[Anonymous]

"her daycare provider tickles her that way"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 2 1/2 year old daughter has started "rocking" on top of her mom. I see that it is normal for a toddler to do this type of thing, but she tells my wife "don't look at me" and "turn your head." She only does this with her mom. When questioned, she says it tickles and that her daycare provider tickles her that way. I know the rocking is normal, but the other stuff really seems like something an adult would have to say to her in a similar situation.

I think you need to investigate this. In my experience, 3 DD and lots of nieces that I have cared for, I do not think this is normal. My sense is that toddlers do not normally use someone else to help them 'tickle' themselves. Please talk first to your PED who will know more about this than anyone on this site and follow his/her advice.