So my daughter was suspended for surfing skin care websites at school

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all are nuts. She was looking at inappropriate websites (per school policy) using school devices. They learn this is a "no no" in elementary school.

+1 I see no problem with the result - at all.

She was allowed to search the web. She isn’t allowed to search for “weapons.” She wasn’t searching for weapons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are nuts. She was looking at inappropriate websites (per school policy) using school devices. They learn this is a "no no" in elementary school.

+1 I see no problem with the result - at all.

She was allowed to search the web. She isn’t allowed to search for “weapons.” She wasn’t searching for weapons.

That’s not what her teacher thought. It’s not what her counselor thought. And they were actually there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are nuts. She was looking at inappropriate websites (per school policy) using school devices. They learn this is a "no no" in elementary school.

+1 I see no problem with the result - at all.

She was allowed to search the web. She isn’t allowed to search for “weapons.” She wasn’t searching for weapons.

That’s not what her teacher thought. It’s not what her counselor thought. And they were actually there.

And the fact that the 17-year-old doesn't want to try to appeal. This tells me that she knows she was doing something wrong to begin with. The only person in denial here seems to be the mom.

[Anonymous]

Let me guess school shouldn't have rules and teachers and counselor should stay in their lanes right?.
Oh until this actually was a cry for help and they do nothing and then we can bash them for not doing their jobs once again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is this even in the special needs forum? I don't think anxiety and ADD were responsible for the surfing mistake.

And the anxious reaction sounds typical of a teen who made a boneheaded mistake and just got suspended.

Do what you think you need to do but don't relate it to your DD's disability.

It's hard to tell as a stranger only hearing some details whether the incident was a manifestation of her disability or not. Kids with ADHD tend to do more impulsive and hence sometimes stupid things than other kids due to to lack of restraint. In my child's elementary the kids who are getting in trouble for computer use are often kids with ADHD. I realize OP's child is 17 but it could still apply. I don't think any of us know enough to judge.

PP. I stand by my comment. My father and brother both have raging cases of ADHD. Consequences from impulsive decisions was what led them to finally pursue more appropriate treatment. Maybe this a wakeup call that current treatment is not working. If I had a dollar for every time my brother got let off the hook with "oh, it's just the ADHD" from my mom, I would be rich. He had a really hard time as a young adult because employers, landlords, credit card companies, IRS, etc. don't care that you have ADHD. He eventually got it together and is thriving. He only wishes he'd been able to do that earlier.

[Anonymous]

Schools can’t win. It sounds terrible from your version that she was suspended for searching about scalpels. But let’s say the school knew she was looking at potential weapons, did nothing and days later someone was stabbed or seriously cut. Then everyone would be clamoring for the counselor’s head.