Reflections on the application process after six weeks of K

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a real mindf&$ck: when all of this is over your child is going to inhabit the same colleges and jobs and communities as kids who just sidled up to the local public kindergarten.

It’s nice that you will have a bespoke experience, but it’s more about you than about your child.

No it’s not. If it’s about me and not my kids, I would not be paying nearly $100k a year for 2 privates. And I know full well that my kids will be “sidled up” as you say next to public school kids when they are off to college. I also know that my kids would be miserable (as I was in public schools) to be warehoused in an overcrowded school with overstretched teachers who barely know you, getting haphazard education and floating through grades like a ghost without any real mindful learning. But if you think that private education is a real mindf*ck, you go with that if that makes you feel better about your choices.

wow. you really believe this? My kids were in DCPS and are now doing extremely well at STA and NCS. They're great writers, they're in the top math classes, they think critically. All of this learned in (gasp) public school. While in public they were always in classes of under 20.
It's baffling to me that you think that kids are not learning anything in public school. I'm here to say that my kids learned just as much as they would have at Beauvoir. In fact, they have leapt right over many if not most of the Beauvoir kids. I get that paying $100K is hard (I pay it too)
but it's really not the only way to learn--especially in the early years.

And yet, you put your kids in STA and NCS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a real mindf&$ck: when all of this is over your child is going to inhabit the same colleges and jobs and communities as kids who just sidled up to the local public kindergarten.

It’s nice that you will have a bespoke experience, but it’s more about you than about your child.

No it’s not. If it’s about me and not my kids, I would not be paying nearly $100k a year for 2 privates. And I know full well that my kids will be “sidled up” as you say next to public school kids when they are off to college. I also know that my kids would be miserable (as I was in public schools) to be warehoused in an overcrowded school with overstretched teachers who barely know you, getting haphazard education and floating through grades like a ghost without any real mindful learning. But if you think that private education is a real mindf*ck, you go with that if that makes you feel better about your choices.

wow. you really believe this? My kids were in DCPS and are now doing extremely well at STA and NCS. They're great writers, they're in the top math classes, they think critically. All of this learned in (gasp) public school. While in public they were always in classes of under 20.
It's baffling to me that you think that kids are not learning anything in public school. I'm here to say that my kids learned just as much as they would have at Beauvoir. In fact, they have leapt right over many if not most of the Beauvoir kids. I get that paying $100K is hard (I pay it too)
but it's really not the only way to learn--especially in the early years.

doubt it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a real mindf&$ck: when all of this is over your child is going to inhabit the same colleges and jobs and communities as kids who just sidled up to the local public kindergarten.

It’s nice that you will have a bespoke experience, but it’s more about you than about your child.

No it’s not. If it’s about me and not my kids, I would not be paying nearly $100k a year for 2 privates. And I know full well that my kids will be “sidled up” as you say next to public school kids when they are off to college. I also know that my kids would be miserable (as I was in public schools) to be warehoused in an overcrowded school with overstretched teachers who barely know you, getting haphazard education and floating through grades like a ghost without any real mindful learning. But if you think that private education is a real mindf*ck, you go with that if that makes you feel better about your choices.

wow. you really believe this? My kids were in DCPS and are now doing extremely well at STA and NCS. They're great writers, they're in the top math classes, they think critically. All of this learned in (gasp) public school. While in public they were always in classes of under 20.
It's baffling to me that you think that kids are not learning anything in public school. I'm here to say that my kids learned just as much as they would have at Beauvoir. In fact, they have leapt right over many if not most of the Beauvoir kids. I get that paying $100K is hard (I pay it too)
but it's really not the only way to learn--especially in the early years.

doubt it.

So, you started private in fourth? What are you rambling about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s a real mindf&$ck: when all of this is over your child is going to inhabit the same colleges and jobs and communities as kids who just sidled up to the local public kindergarten.

It’s nice that you will have a bespoke experience, but it’s more about you than about your child.

No it’s not. If it’s about me and not my kids, I would not be paying nearly $100k a year for 2 privates. And I know full well that my kids will be “sidled up” as you say next to public school kids when they are off to college. I also know that my kids would be miserable (as I was in public schools) to be warehoused in an overcrowded school with overstretched teachers who barely know you, getting haphazard education and floating through grades like a ghost without any real mindful learning. But if you think that private education is a real mindf*ck, you go with that if that makes you feel better about your choices.

wow. you really believe this? My kids were in DCPS and are now doing extremely well at STA and NCS. They're great writers, they're in the top math classes, they think critically. All of this learned in (gasp) public school. While in public they were always in classes of under 20.
It's baffling to me that you think that kids are not learning anything in public school. I'm here to say that my kids learned just as much as they would have at Beauvoir. In fact, they have leapt right over many if not most of the Beauvoir kids. I get that paying $100K is hard (I pay it too)
but it's really not the only way to learn--especially in the early years.

Your experience doesn’t line up with the local Montgomery county school we are zoned for (seriously, what DMV public now days has class size less than 20?!). Our elementary school was packed to the hilt and the principal told us that overcrowding was only going to get worse.

Look, public education, even with class size 30+ can be great. I was educated overseas where class size was closer to 50. I learned a lot. It was a great education. But public education that I experienced here in the States? No way.

And, for the record, I didn’t say you don’t learn anything in public schools. Let’s not be hyperbolic. But compare to the more thoughtful education I pay for my kids to experience? Nope. Of course YMMV.

Your children are probably naturally bright kids. There are excellent teachers in this region in both public and private schools, however, it is very rare that public school ES students come out with excellent writing skills with no outside tutoring and support. There just isn't the time and capacity for more in depth writing coaching in most public school environments. If your children are as bright as you say and are top students at NCS/STA, you've done significant supplemental investments in their development outside of public school OR your children are gifted. If the answer is that you have been doing lots of tutoring and supplemental work, then you can't stand on your claim that public school is just as good.