I’m going to need help!

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Anonymous wrote:Do twins runs in your family?

I can do faces too!

NP here. Why would you even ask that question? How does it possibly have any relevance?

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I am curious too and it is relevant otherwise op wouldn’t have mentioned it.

NP. Not relevant at all. Stick to the topic.

Her having twin is in the topic, very relevant. -dp

In what way? OP is talking about what kind of help she’ll need and how to structure that help for an existing twin pregnancy!! Are you looking to blame her?

Why do you think she deserves to be blamed? The thought crossed your mind otherwise, you wouldn’t brought it up.

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Anonymous wrote:Do twins runs in your family?

I can do faces too!

NP here. Why would you even ask that question? How does it possibly have any relevance?

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I am curious too and it is relevant otherwise op wouldn’t have mentioned it.

NP. Not relevant at all. Stick to the topic.

Her having twin is in the topic, very relevant. -dp

In what way? OP is talking about what kind of help she’ll need and how to structure that help for an existing twin pregnancy!! Are you looking to blame her?

Why do you think she deserves to be blamed? The thought crossed your mind otherwise, you wouldn’t brought it up.

People are trying to figure out why you asked the question about OP’s family history.

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Anonymous wrote:Do twins runs in your family?

I can do faces too!

NP here. Why would you even ask that question? How does it possibly have any relevance?

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I am curious too and it is relevant otherwise op wouldn’t have mentioned it.

NP. Not relevant at all. Stick to the topic.

Her having twin is in the topic, very relevant. -dp

In what way? OP is talking about what kind of help she’ll need and how to structure that help for an existing twin pregnancy!! Are you looking to blame her?

Why do you think she deserves to be blamed? The thought crossed your mind otherwise, you wouldn’t brought it up.

People are trying to figure out why you asked the question about OP’s family history.

Adding: no one is blaming OP for getting pregnant with twins!

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Anonymous wrote:I knew jealousy rear it’s ugly head on this thread the instant I read that OP could afford two nannies and has a housekeeper (and I’d clearly fertile).

So typical DCUM.

Y'know, when people post stuff here that seems to assume that everybody is struggling with whether to have one or two nannies as a SAHM it's not too surprising that they get some snarky replies. I'm not sure that's really jealousy, more like eye rolling wonderment at some people's tone deafness.

So should OP stop posting here because her financial situation is different than ours? What is the income that makes one eligible to post here?

+1. Of course I would love to have the money to afford two nannies and a housekeeper as a SAHM! I’m not ashamed to admit that I’m jealous. But I wouldn’t blame OP for her good fortune or try to make her feel bad. I would love to be in her position.

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OP- I run a local nanny agency and this would be my recommendation. Consider your immediate postpartum needs vs the long term. Also, if you genuinely want to spend time with each kid (props to you!) you will likely need more household help than a housekeeper who traditionally just handles cleaning. Even just to free up your time to focus on the kids.

I would recommend something like this if two full time candidates are within your budget:
-For the first 3 months post partum, I would recommend a night nanny or Newborn Care Specialist plus a full time nanny for the days.

-After you are settled post partum and babies are sleeping somewhat reliably, I would swap your night help for a full time nanny/household manager hybrid. If you have the nanny work M-F 7-3 or 8-4 and the household manager Tu-Sa 11:30am-7:30pm you'd be in great shape.

Nanny to come and do school drop off(s) and then return home to care for one or both babies as needed.

Household manager picks up the middle child on their way to your house, handles errands and management (school pick up, dry cleaning, grocery shopping, meal prep, pharmacy, scheduling appts, taking cars for oil changes, vet or groomers if you have pets, packing school lunches, laundry, organization, managing the school calendar etc) while nanny is still there. Once nanny leaves at 4pm, you and household manager tag team evening playtime, dinner and clean up, baths, and bedtime before they leave.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- I run a local nanny agency and this would be my recommendation. Consider your immediate postpartum needs vs the long term. Also, if you genuinely want to spend time with each kid (props to you!) you will likely need more household help than a housekeeper who traditionally just handles cleaning. Even just to free up your time to focus on the kids.

I would recommend something like this if two full time candidates are within your budget:
-For the first 3 months post partum, I would recommend a night nanny or Newborn Care Specialist plus a full time nanny for the days.

-After you are settled post partum and babies are sleeping somewhat reliably, I would swap your night help for a full time nanny/household manager hybrid. If you have the nanny work M-F 7-3 or 8-4 and the household manager Tu-Sa 11:30am-7:30pm you'd be in great shape.

Nanny to come and do school drop off(s) and then return home to care for one or both babies as needed.

Household manager picks up the middle child on their way to your house, handles errands and management (school pick up, dry cleaning, grocery shopping, meal prep, pharmacy, scheduling appts, taking cars for oil changes, vet or groomers if you have pets, packing school lunches, laundry, organization, managing the school calendar etc) while nanny is still there. Once nanny leaves at 4pm, you and household manager tag team evening playtime, dinner and clean up, baths, and bedtime before they leave.

PP here and I actually also have twin siblings 3 years younger than me and VIVIDLY remember my mom constantly scrambling. She tried to piece together way too much help (a PT nannies, a 2x a month cleaning lady, a rotation of college babysitters, a very PT evening nanny that brought her own son, and we did have a night nanny for a few months as my dad worked nights sometimes) instead of seeking solid full time candidates which just resulted in chaos all the time. The PT nannies would call off, the one with their own child would have car trouble, the college sitters left the house messier than they found it. Maybe that subconscious experience set me up for my career on a mission to place reliable candidates

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Anonymous wrote:OP- I run a local nanny agency and this would be my recommendation. Consider your immediate postpartum needs vs the long term. Also, if you genuinely want to spend time with each kid (props to you!) you will likely need more household help than a housekeeper who traditionally just handles cleaning. Even just to free up your time to focus on the kids.

I would recommend something like this if two full time candidates are within your budget:
-For the first 3 months post partum, I would recommend a night nanny or Newborn Care Specialist plus a full time nanny for the days.

-After you are settled post partum and babies are sleeping somewhat reliably, I would swap your night help for a full time nanny/household manager hybrid. If you have the nanny work M-F 7-3 or 8-4 and the household manager Tu-Sa 11:30am-7:30pm you'd be in great shape.

Nanny to come and do school drop off(s) and then return home to care for one or both babies as needed.

Household manager picks up the middle child on their way to your house, handles errands and management (school pick up, dry cleaning, grocery shopping, meal prep, pharmacy, scheduling appts, taking cars for oil changes, vet or groomers if you have pets, packing school lunches, laundry, organization, managing the school calendar etc) while nanny is still there. Once nanny leaves at 4pm, you and household manager tag team evening playtime, dinner and clean up, baths, and bedtime before they leave.

I have twins with an older child and this advice is spot on. I don’t think two Nannies will get you where you need to be especially since you are at home so presumably your schedule will be decently predictable. I would def do what this poster suggests and prioritize one whose job description from the start is less nanny focused.

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Anonymous wrote: I have two children, ages 5 and 3, and am currently pregnant with twins. I’m a SAHM and my DH needs to travel for work frequently.

My older child will be in kindergarten until 2:30 and 3 yr old will be in preschool until noon. I really want to have time to individually spend with all of my kids. I have no intention of handing them over and want a nanny to work along side me.

How do I structure this? Will I need two nannies? We have a housekeeper so this is just about childcare. I feel overwhelmed!!

You have a housekeeper and, apparently, can afford to hire two nannies. Why are you overwhelmed?

Motherhood, if done right, is overwhelming. Twins and four children under age five is terrifyingly overwhelming for anyone.

I have three children but I did have enough sense not to have a child every year. I managed quite well but I am organized and not lazy.

+1. Maybe OP needs to stop breeding if it's too much for her.

-1. OP didn’t have a baby every year. And no one can predict twins.

The jealousy of OP’s money is palatable!

I am appalled at her ineptitude at having the money and too stupid to know how to use it to her benefit

OP is just bragging if, indeed, her post is actually true

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I can’t answer the question of 1 or 2 daytime nannies, but since you can afford it definitely prioritize getting a night nanny for every night in the week.