I’m going to need help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When are the twins due? Will your DH have a generous paternity leave?

Depending on your due date and time line, you might not need help until next spring/early summer when you can use half/whole day camps for the oldest.

Can you hire a mother's helper to play with 1 of the oldr 2 kids during the twins' nap time?

OP can afford two good nannies so why not hire them? She doesn’t need to cobble together care with camps and teenage help.

So, what's her question? Why bother posting?

[Anonymous]

I would get a FT Nanny for during the week. I would then find a part time sitter for evenings and Sat or Sun. I think you’ll have a hard time finding a process Nanny to work every weekend AND alongside you.

[Anonymous]

Above.. professional

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I have two children, ages 5 and 3, and am currently pregnant with twins. I’m a SAHM and my DH needs to travel for work frequently.

My older child will be in kindergarten until 2:30 and 3 yr old will be in preschool until noon. I really want to have time to individually spend with all of my kids. I have no intention of handing them over and want a nanny to work along side me.

How do I structure this? Will I need two nannies? We have a housekeeper so this is just about childcare. I feel overwhelmed!!

You have a housekeeper and, apparently, can afford to hire two nannies. Why are you overwhelmed?

My thoughts exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I have two children, ages 5 and 3, and am currently pregnant with twins. I’m a SAHM and my DH needs to travel for work frequently.

My older child will be in kindergarten until 2:30 and 3 yr old will be in preschool until noon. I really want to have time to individually spend with all of my kids. I have no intention of handing them over and want a nanny to work along side me.

How do I structure this? Will I need two nannies? We have a housekeeper so this is just about childcare. I feel overwhelmed!!

You have a housekeeper and, apparently, can afford to hire two nannies. Why are you overwhelmed?

Motherhood, if done right, is overwhelming. Twins and four children under age five is terrifyingly overwhelming for anyone.

I have three children but I did have enough sense not to have a child every year. I managed quite well but I am organized and not lazy.

NP Well, that was insulting!

My mom had three kids in three years and then another one six yeas later and I'm glad she did! I had two kids in five years and I'm glad I did! Each of us had our reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I have two children, ages 5 and 3, and am currently pregnant with twins. I’m a SAHM and my DH needs to travel for work frequently.

My older child will be in kindergarten until 2:30 and 3 yr old will be in preschool until noon. I really want to have time to individually spend with all of my kids. I have no intention of handing them over and want a nanny to work along side me.

How do I structure this? Will I need two nannies? We have a housekeeper so this is just about childcare. I feel overwhelmed!!

You have a housekeeper and, apparently, can afford to hire two nannies. Why are you overwhelmed?

Motherhood, if done right, is overwhelming. Twins and four children under age five is terrifyingly overwhelming for anyone.

I have three children but I did have enough sense not to have a child every year. I managed quite well but I am organized and not lazy.

I’ve never written this before, PP, but I honestly do feel sorry for your children. You’re an ugly and judgmental person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When are the twins due? Will your DH have a generous paternity leave?

Depending on your due date and time line, you might not need help until next spring/early summer when you can use half/whole day camps for the oldest.

Can you hire a mother's helper to play with 1 of the oldr 2 kids during the twins' nap time?

OP can afford two good nannies so why not hire them? She doesn’t need to cobble together care with camps and teenage help.

So, what's her question? Why bother posting?

How to structure the help. It’s actually in her post.

[Anonymous]

I knew jealousy rear it’s ugly head on this thread the instant I read that OP could afford two nannies and has a housekeeper (and I’d clearly fertile).

So typical DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew jealousy rear it’s ugly head on this thread the instant I read that OP could afford two nannies and has a housekeeper (and I’d clearly fertile).

So typical DCUM.

Y'know, when people post stuff here that seems to assume that everybody is struggling with whether to have one or two nannies as a SAHM it's not too surprising that they get some snarky replies. I'm not sure that's really jealousy, more like eye rolling wonderment at some people's tone deafness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I have two children, ages 5 and 3, and am currently pregnant with twins. I’m a SAHM and my DH needs to travel for work frequently.

My older child will be in kindergarten until 2:30 and 3 yr old will be in preschool until noon. I really want to have time to individually spend with all of my kids. I have no intention of handing them over and want a nanny to work along side me.

How do I structure this? Will I need two nannies? We have a housekeeper so this is just about childcare. I feel overwhelmed!!

You have a housekeeper and, apparently, can afford to hire two nannies. Why are you overwhelmed?

Motherhood, if done right, is overwhelming. Twins and four children under age five is terrifyingly overwhelming for anyone.

I have three children but I did have enough sense not to have a child every year. I managed quite well but I am organized and not lazy.

+1. Maybe OP needs to stop breeding if it's too much for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I have two children, ages 5 and 3, and am currently pregnant with twins. I’m a SAHM and my DH needs to travel for work frequently.

My older child will be in kindergarten until 2:30 and 3 yr old will be in preschool until noon. I really want to have time to individually spend with all of my kids. I have no intention of handing them over and want a nanny to work along side me.

How do I structure this? Will I need two nannies? We have a housekeeper so this is just about childcare. I feel overwhelmed!!

You have a housekeeper and, apparently, can afford to hire two nannies. Why are you overwhelmed?

Motherhood, if done right, is overwhelming. Twins and four children under age five is terrifyingly overwhelming for anyone.

I have three children but I did have enough sense not to have a child every year. I managed quite well but I am organized and not lazy.

+1. Maybe OP needs to stop breeding if it's too much for her.

-1. OP didn’t have a baby every year. And no one can predict twins.

The jealousy of OP’s money is palatable!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I knew jealousy rear it’s ugly head on this thread the instant I read that OP could afford two nannies and has a housekeeper (and I’d clearly fertile).

So typical DCUM.

Y'know, when people post stuff here that seems to assume that everybody is struggling with whether to have one or two nannies as a SAHM it's not too surprising that they get some snarky replies. I'm not sure that's really jealousy, more like eye rolling wonderment at some people's tone deafness.

So should OP stop posting here because her financial situation is different than ours? What is the income that makes one eligible to post here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I have two children, ages 5 and 3, and am currently pregnant with twins. I’m a SAHM and my DH needs to travel for work frequently.

My older child will be in kindergarten until 2:30 and 3 yr old will be in preschool until noon. I really want to have time to individually spend with all of my kids. I have no intention of handing them over and want a nanny to work along side me.

How do I structure this? Will I need two nannies? We have a housekeeper so this is just about childcare. I feel overwhelmed!!

You have a housekeeper and, apparently, can afford to hire two nannies. Why are you overwhelmed?

Motherhood, if done right, is overwhelming. Twins and four children under age five is terrifyingly overwhelming for anyone.

I have three children but I did have enough sense not to have a child every year. I managed quite well but I am organized and not lazy.

+1. Maybe OP needs to stop breeding if it's too much for her.

-1. OP didn’t have a baby every year. And no one can predict twins.

The jealousy of OP’s money is palatable!

I am appalled at her ineptitude at having the money and too stupid to know how to use it to her benefit

[Anonymous]

In your shoes, I would definitely get two nannies to cover all seven days of the week. It could only be a benefit to you since you have no other help and a DH who travels. You need another pair of hands to keep both babies calm and secure. And then there’s the needs of your older little ones.

I have twins with no other children and had my mother, a nanny, and a very involved non-traveling DH and we were all always busy during the first six months. It may have been easier if I formula fed the babies but I breastfed. And twins are generally small so feedings were every two hours around the clock. An extra set of arms to comfort and burp one baby while I continued to feed my slower eater was vital. Plus having someone to make meals for me and let me sleep a bit.

One more piece of advice, OP: only take advise from mothers of twins. No one else has a fricking clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I have two children, ages 5 and 3, and am currently pregnant with twins. I’m a SAHM and my DH needs to travel for work frequently.

My older child will be in kindergarten until 2:30 and 3 yr old will be in preschool until noon. I really want to have time to individually spend with all of my kids. I have no intention of handing them over and want a nanny to work along side me.

How do I structure this? Will I need two nannies? We have a housekeeper so this is just about childcare. I feel overwhelmed!!

You have a housekeeper and, apparently, can afford to hire two nannies. Why are you overwhelmed?

Motherhood, if done right, is overwhelming. Twins and four children under age five is terrifyingly overwhelming for anyone.

I have three children but I did have enough sense not to have a child every year. I managed quite well but I am organized and not lazy.

+1. Maybe OP needs to stop breeding if it's too much for her.

-1. OP didn’t have a baby every year. And no one can predict twins.

The jealousy of OP’s money is palatable!

I am appalled at her ineptitude at having the money and too stupid to know how to use it to her benefit

Yeah, you’re still jealous of her money. NP here and mother of twins.