Jealous of better looking babies, kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NO ONE is cuter than my kid!

Sorry to break it to you, but I’m sure my kid is cuter!!! 😉

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No because it's always been my experience that ugly babies turn into cute kids/teens/adults and vice versa.

My niece was the ugliest baby. She was even an ugly toddler and unfortunate looking little kid. She's now very pretty at age 24 and had a glow-up at around age 13.

My other niece was a beautiful baby and toddler. She was such a pretty little kid as well. Puberty hit and she had a glow-down (if that's a thing). Terrible acne that has left her face scarred, the puberty weight she gained was never shed, etc.

I've also seen these same scenarios play out with many of my friend's kids.

I cannot imagine talking about children, much less children I was related to, in this way. Gross.

Oh, please. Kids are just people, not little breathing saints. We can talk realistically about them as long as we don't say hurtful things to their face.

[Anonymous]

"I think we are all biologically programmed to find our own kids stunning but by elementary school you will be able to tell if your kids are objectively good looking because they will be generally be the kids that other kids are drawn too. I have seen this play out time again with my kids and their friends (my kids are not the stunners) and as a teacher. Popular kids are almost always good looking. If you take a grade of 100 elementary kids, I think most of us can pick out the 1 or 2 who are head turners. The rest are all variations of "nice looking" but are fairly interchangeable. But there are are always 1/100 or so that are like "wow, she/he is stunning".

By middle school looks definitely correlate with social cred. 100%. People are drawn to attractive people."

It's painful to acknowledge this, but it's so true. And to make it even worse, people assume that the good looking people are smarter and more talented than they actually are. I'm convinced my kid got into better colleges than he otherwise would have because of the Zoom interviews he did.

It's not just the objective looks, it's all the confidence that comes from a lifetime of having people respond positively to you because you're cute or pretty or handsome or beautiful.

[Anonymous]

My son is very attractive and everyone comments on his looks. My husband and I are pretty average looking I think. So, I wonder if this will even out for him at some point (he's only 7 now), but it is interesting to see life through the eyes of a person everyone likes to look at! I am happy for him to have an advantageous in life, but if he's still attractive in his teens, we'll need to figure out how to keep his ego in check and make sure he relies on skills besides looks!

[Anonymous]

Not jealous of beautiful kids. Most of them (especially girls) will end up overweight in this country.

[Anonymous]

lol no never. My 3rd was a pretty funny looking infant. Who cares, they will grow and look different in a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not jealous of beautiful kids. Most of them (especially girls) will end up overweight in this country.

Truth with awful skin

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not jealous of beautiful kids. Most of them (especially girls) will end up overweight in this country.

Not the rich ones.

[Anonymous]

This weekend I saw a picture of my (kindergarten) daughter's friend and thought "wow, she is going to be a knock out gorgeous teenager/adult". At least by my standards. Her parents are both very good looking, too. But, no, I'm not jealous per se. My kids are adorable and will probably end up on the beauty spectrum that my husband and I are on, and we're happy, healthy adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I think we are all biologically programmed to find our own kids stunning but by elementary school you will be able to tell if your kids are objectively good looking because they will be generally be the kids that other kids are drawn too. I have seen this play out time again with my kids and their friends (my kids are not the stunners) and as a teacher. Popular kids are almost always good looking. If you take a grade of 100 elementary kids, I think most of us can pick out the 1 or 2 who are head turners. The rest are all variations of "nice looking" but are fairly interchangeable. But there are are always 1/100 or so that are like "wow, she/he is stunning".

By middle school looks definitely correlate with social cred. 100%. People are drawn to attractive people."

It's painful to acknowledge this, but it's so true. And to make it even worse, people assume that the good looking people are smarter and more talented than they actually are. I'm convinced my kid got into better colleges than he otherwise would have because of the Zoom interviews he did.

It's not just the objective looks, it's all the confidence that comes from a lifetime of having people respond positively to you because you're cute or pretty or handsome or beautiful.

Wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I think we are all biologically programmed to find our own kids stunning but by elementary school you will be able to tell if your kids are objectively good looking because they will be generally be the kids that other kids are drawn too. I have seen this play out time again with my kids and their friends (my kids are not the stunners) and as a teacher. Popular kids are almost always good looking. If you take a grade of 100 elementary kids, I think most of us can pick out the 1 or 2 who are head turners. The rest are all variations of "nice looking" but are fairly interchangeable. But there are are always 1/100 or so that are like "wow, she/he is stunning".

By middle school looks definitely correlate with social cred. 100%. People are drawn to attractive people."

It's painful to acknowledge this, but it's so true. And to make it even worse, people assume that the good looking people are smarter and more talented than they actually are. I'm convinced my kid got into better colleges than he otherwise would have because of the Zoom interviews he did.

It's not just the objective looks, it's all the confidence that comes from a lifetime of having people respond positively to you because you're cute or pretty or handsome or beautiful.

Eh. My DH and I were *just* talking about how foggy-brained middle schoolers and high schoolers are about beauty. If you are an objectively stunning 14 year old, but nerdy, you simply won’t have the reputation of being “hot” like the sunny-dispositioned cheerleader type . Self perception influences others perception.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No because it's always been my experience that ugly babies turn into cute kids/teens/adults and vice versa.

My niece was the ugliest baby. She was even an ugly toddler and unfortunate looking little kid. She's now very pretty at age 24 and had a glow-up at around age 13.

My other niece was a beautiful baby and toddler. She was such a pretty little kid as well. Puberty hit and she had a glow-down (if that's a thing). Terrible acne that has left her face scarred, the puberty weight she gained was never shed, etc.

I've also seen these same scenarios play out with many of my friend's kids.

I cannot imagine talking about children, much less children I was related to, in this way. Gross.

Believe it. I am childfree and have a cousin whose child was... not cute. Not even a little. It looked just like its other parent, who isn't bad-looking but all those adult features were crammed into a tiny lopsided face. Thankfully time has been kind.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not jealous of beautiful kids. Most of them (especially girls) will end up overweight in this country.

Not the rich ones.

Sometimes even some of the rich ones. There is a body type that can be very cute/beautiful when younger (big boobs, on the short side, round face, big eyes) but ages poorly. When you are short, it's really hard to keep weight off in middle age, especially if you are predisposed to be curvy -- you'd basically have to starve yourself and exercise for hours a day and while being rich makes that easier, it's still really, really hard.

I know multiple wealthy women who are in this situation in their late 40s. Maybe one or two will figure it out with extreme discipline around food and exercise, and some expensive procedures to help you along. But most won't.

Guess what -- it's coming for Kim K too. Middle age is not friendly to short curvy women, and it doesn't care how much money you have.

[Anonymous]

I don't know anyone who thinks like that, OP. Every baby is beautiful in their mother's eyes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I think we are all biologically programmed to find our own kids stunning but by elementary school you will be able to tell if your kids are objectively good looking because they will be generally be the kids that other kids are drawn too. I have seen this play out time again with my kids and their friends (my kids are not the stunners) and as a teacher. Popular kids are almost always good looking. If you take a grade of 100 elementary kids, I think most of us can pick out the 1 or 2 who are head turners. The rest are all variations of "nice looking" but are fairly interchangeable. But there are are always 1/100 or so that are like "wow, she/he is stunning".

By middle school looks definitely correlate with social cred. 100%. People are drawn to attractive people."

It's painful to acknowledge this, but it's so true. And to make it even worse, people assume that the good looking people are smarter and more talented than they actually are. I'm convinced my kid got into better colleges than he otherwise would have because of the Zoom interviews he did.

It's not just the objective looks, it's all the confidence that comes from a lifetime of having people respond positively to you because you're cute or pretty or handsome or beautiful.

Eh. My DH and I were *just* talking about how foggy-brained middle schoolers and high schoolers are about beauty. If you are an objectively stunning 14 year old, but nerdy, you simply won’t have the reputation of being “hot” like the sunny-dispositioned cheerleader type . Self perception influences others perception.

+1 exactly