Jealous of better looking babies, kids

[Anonymous]

From the perspective of a childfree woman:

1. All children are cute, but very few merit a second glance from a stranger.

2. Cute kids definitely don't always grow up into attractive adults. Two girls in my elementary school class were breathtakingly beautiful children, but as adults they have bad skin and weight problems. Meanwhile, some of the ugly ducklings blossomed into swans.

[Anonymous]

Nah....my son is the best looking kid, period.

[Anonymous]

I think very few babies are objectively cute or beautiful. Every now and then there are some though.

[Anonymous]

I have never had a problem with jealousy or envy. You need to do some serious soul-searching, OP. Stop comparing. Comparison is the thief of joy.

[Anonymous]

I think we are all biologically programmed to find our own kids stunning but by elementary school you will be able to tell if your kids are objectively good looking because they will be generally be the kids that other kids are drawn too. I have seen this play out time again with my kids and their friends (my kids are not the stunners) and as a teacher. Popular kids are almost always good looking. If you take a grade of 100 elementary kids, I think most of us can pick out the 1 or 2 who are head turners. The rest are all variations of "nice looking" but are fairly interchangeable. But there are are always 1/100 or so that are like "wow, she/he is stunning".

By middle school looks definitely correlate with social cred. 100%. People are drawn to attractive people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we are all biologically programmed to find our own kids stunning but by elementary school you will be able to tell if your kids are objectively good looking because they will be generally be the kids that other kids are drawn too. I have seen this play out time again with my kids and their friends (my kids are not the stunners) and as a teacher. Popular kids are almost always good looking. If you take a grade of 100 elementary kids, I think most of us can pick out the 1 or 2 who are head turners. The rest are all variations of "nice looking" but are fairly interchangeable. But there are are always 1/100 or so that are like "wow, she/he is stunning".

By middle school looks definitely correlate with social cred. 100%. People are drawn to attractive people.

UGHHHH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the perspective of a childfree woman:

1. All children are cute, but very few merit a second glance from a stranger.

2. Cute kids definitely don't always grow up into attractive adults. Two girls in my elementary school class were breathtakingly beautiful children, but as adults they have bad skin and weight problems. Meanwhile, some of the ugly ducklings blossomed into swans.

+1, same experience.

Also, I've found I'm way more likely to be taken by a cute kid because of their personality than their appearance. And some of the features that make a kid cute are not objectively attractive/beautiful, but are specifically adorable on kids.

Like my favorite kid I've ever met was a 4 yo girl who was was not stunning. She had pretty hair and a symmetrical face, but not a look that would make you say "omg that's a beautiful child." What she did have was an amazing personality. She had an actual sense of humor, like the ability to tell and understand actual jokes. She was also really bright and in tune with what was going on -- she asked insightful questions and genuinely listened to what others were saying. She was more with it and personable than like 99% of adults I encounter. But her looks were probably average at best? Still absolutely the cutest child I've ever encountered.

A really beautiful child who just kind of stands there and smiles is nice, I guess, but I'd rather hang out with the less attractive kid who can carry on a conversation and has interesting and funny things to say.

[Anonymous]

When my daughter was born, my partner commented that he would not have believed that she was ours if he wasn't there to witness the delivery. She is much more attractive than either of us, as people have pointed out. She is outgoing and has the confidence of someone who has always been treated well. She gets more attention from teachers and lots of smiles from strangers. I want her to be kind and hardworking, which is more important than looks. As others have pointed out, she could turn out to be an unattractive adult.

I hope your feelings do not translate into how you treat your child. All children deserve the same amount of love and attention. Having a smart, funny, athletic (fill in the blank) kid is wonderful too! Find the quality that makes your child special.

[Anonymous]

NO ONE is cuter than my kid!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my daughter was born, my partner commented that he would not have believed that she was ours if he wasn't there to witness the delivery. She is much more attractive than either of us, as people have pointed out. She is outgoing and has the confidence of someone who has always been treated well. She gets more attention from teachers and lots of smiles from strangers. I want her to be kind and hardworking, which is more important than looks. As others have pointed out, she could turn out to be an unattractive adult.

I hope your feelings do not translate into how you treat your child. All children deserve the same amount of love and attention. Having a smart, funny, athletic (fill in the blank) kid is wonderful too! Find the quality that makes your child special.

Your child will eventually look like you don’t worry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we are all biologically programmed to find our own kids stunning but by elementary school you will be able to tell if your kids are objectively good looking because they will be generally be the kids that other kids are drawn too. I have seen this play out time again with my kids and their friends (my kids are not the stunners) and as a teacher. Popular kids are almost always good looking. If you take a grade of 100 elementary kids, I think most of us can pick out the 1 or 2 who are head turners. The rest are all variations of "nice looking" but are fairly interchangeable. But there are are always 1/100 or so that are like "wow, she/he is stunning".

By middle school looks definitely correlate with social cred. 100%. People are drawn to attractive people.

And the middle school popular kids end up being balding and/or fat in their 20s

[Anonymous]

Nope. My kids are average looking and healthy. I don’t like anything that brings notice to them because I prefer them to be low key and not attract craziness. I like that they are stealth overachievers.

[Anonymous]

No because it's always been my experience that ugly babies turn into cute kids/teens/adults and vice versa.

My niece was the ugliest baby. She was even an ugly toddler and unfortunate looking little kid. She's now very pretty at age 24 and had a glow-up at around age 13.

My other niece was a beautiful baby and toddler. She was such a pretty little kid as well. Puberty hit and she had a glow-down (if that's a thing). Terrible acne that has left her face scarred, the puberty weight she gained was never shed, etc.

I've also seen these same scenarios play out with many of my friend's kids.

[Anonymous]

I genuinely cannot imagine caring about this. OP, if this is a real worry of yourself, you need to stop back and take a look at your priorities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No because it's always been my experience that ugly babies turn into cute kids/teens/adults and vice versa.

My niece was the ugliest baby. She was even an ugly toddler and unfortunate looking little kid. She's now very pretty at age 24 and had a glow-up at around age 13.

My other niece was a beautiful baby and toddler. She was such a pretty little kid as well. Puberty hit and she had a glow-down (if that's a thing). Terrible acne that has left her face scarred, the puberty weight she gained was never shed, etc.

I've also seen these same scenarios play out with many of my friend's kids.

I cannot imagine talking about children, much less children I was related to, in this way. Gross.