Do you ever step in and physically help another child at the park?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d of course intervene on a safety issue.

I hate it when kids who aren’t mine ask me to swing them, watch them do something, help them on monkey bars, etc., when I can see their own parent/caregiver sitting around scrolling on the phone. I’ll politely pay attention to them for a minute and then explain I need to attend to my own kids.

+1 I hate it too. Those kids are so annoying and starved for attention!

+2. Same and I’m a nanny. I find it truly loathsome that negligent parents consider themselves “free range” and anti-helicopter parents when it’s strangers who are forced to watch and encourage their children.

No one wants you helicoptering around their children. Keep your eyes on your own paper.

LOL. Found the lazy parent!

NP who agrees with PP. Leave my kid alone. He is capable and independent mainly because I don't "help" aka do everything for him, unless necessary or he asks. He has plenty of hands on 1:1 interaction at home and at his expensive ass private montessori daycare. At the park he runs free and I stand back and let him. Don't do us any "favors", especially when you are judging the whole time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d of course intervene on a safety issue.

I hate it when kids who aren’t mine ask me to swing them, watch them do something, help them on monkey bars, etc., when I can see their own parent/caregiver sitting around scrolling on the phone. I’ll politely pay attention to them for a minute and then explain I need to attend to my own kids.

+1 I hate it too. Those kids are so annoying and starved for attention!

+2. Same and I’m a nanny. I find it truly loathsome that negligent parents consider themselves “free range” and anti-helicopter parents when it’s strangers who are forced to watch and encourage their children.

No one wants you helicoptering around their children. Keep your eyes on your own paper.

LOL. Found the lazy parent!

NP who agrees with PP. Leave my kid alone. He is capable and independent mainly because I don't "help" aka do everything for him, unless necessary or he asks. He has plenty of hands on 1:1 interaction at home and at his expensive ass private montessori daycare. At the park he runs free and I stand back and let him. Don't do us any "favors", especially when you are judging the whole time.

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There you go. These crappy parents go from delegation to dereliction of duty. They really dislike kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d of course intervene on a safety issue.

I hate it when kids who aren’t mine ask me to swing them, watch them do something, help them on monkey bars, etc., when I can see their own parent/caregiver sitting around scrolling on the phone. I’ll politely pay attention to them for a minute and then explain I need to attend to my own kids.

+1 I hate it too. Those kids are so annoying and starved for attention!

+2. Same and I’m a nanny. I find it truly loathsome that negligent parents consider themselves “free range” and anti-helicopter parents when it’s strangers who are forced to watch and encourage their children.

No one wants you helicoptering around their children. Keep your eyes on your own paper.

LOL. Found the lazy parent!

NP who agrees with PP. Leave my kid alone. He is capable and independent mainly because I don't "help" aka do everything for him, unless necessary or he asks. He has plenty of hands on 1:1 interaction at home and at his expensive ass private montessori daycare. At the park he runs free and I stand back and let him. Don't do us any "favors", especially when you are judging the whole time.

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There you go. These crappy parents go from delegation to dereliction of duty. They really dislike kids.

F off. I love my kid. I also have to work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d of course intervene on a safety issue.

I hate it when kids who aren’t mine ask me to swing them, watch them do something, help them on monkey bars, etc., when I can see their own parent/caregiver sitting around scrolling on the phone. I’ll politely pay attention to them for a minute and then explain I need to attend to my own kids.

+1 I hate it too. Those kids are so annoying and starved for attention!

+2. Same and I’m a nanny. I find it truly loathsome that negligent parents consider themselves “free range” and anti-helicopter parents when it’s strangers who are forced to watch and encourage their children.

No one wants you helicoptering around their children. Keep your eyes on your own paper.

LOL. Found the lazy parent!

NP who agrees with PP. Leave my kid alone. He is capable and independent mainly because I don't "help" aka do everything for him, unless necessary or he asks. He has plenty of hands on 1:1 interaction at home and at his expensive ass private montessori daycare. At the park he runs free and I stand back and let him. Don't do us any "favors", especially when you are judging the whole time.

I’m one of the PPs. This isn’t the situation I’m talking about. Hell no I’m not approaching your “capable and independent” child and offering my help! I want your kid to leave me alone. But your kid sees me engaged with my kid. Sees me making an effort. Playing hide and seek. Going down the slide. Pushing my kid on the swing. Whatever.

It’s your kid, getting no engagement from you, that seeks ME out because you can’t be bothered.

If you’re at a park and your kid wants to swing but doesn’t know how, that’s your job.
If you’re at a park and your kid wants to play hide and seek, get off your phone and play with your damn kid.

And if you don’t want to, fine - but tell your attention starved kid to leave the other parents/caregivers alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d of course intervene on a safety issue.

I hate it when kids who aren’t mine ask me to swing them, watch them do something, help them on monkey bars, etc., when I can see their own parent/caregiver sitting around scrolling on the phone. I’ll politely pay attention to them for a minute and then explain I need to attend to my own kids.

+1 I hate it too. Those kids are so annoying and starved for attention!

+2. Same and I’m a nanny. I find it truly loathsome that negligent parents consider themselves “free range” and anti-helicopter parents when it’s strangers who are forced to watch and encourage their children.

No one wants you helicoptering around their children. Keep your eyes on your own paper.

LOL. Found the lazy parent!

NP who agrees with PP. Leave my kid alone. He is capable and independent mainly because I don't "help" aka do everything for him, unless necessary or he asks. He has plenty of hands on 1:1 interaction at home and at his expensive ass private montessori daycare. At the park he runs free and I stand back and let him. Don't do us any "favors", especially when you are judging the whole time.

I’m one of the PPs. This isn’t the situation I’m talking about. Hell no I’m not approaching your “capable and independent” child and offering my help! I want your kid to leave me alone. But your kid sees me engaged with my kid. Sees me making an effort. Playing hide and seek. Going down the slide. Pushing my kid on the swing. Whatever.

It’s your kid, getting no engagement from you, that seeks ME out because you can’t be bothered.

If you’re at a park and your kid wants to swing but doesn’t know how, that’s your job.
If you’re at a park and your kid wants to play hide and seek, get off your phone and play with your damn kid.

And if you don’t want to, fine - but tell your attention starved kid to leave the other parents/caregivers alone.

NP here. I totally agree with your post. I feel for these kids - their neglectful parents are lazy and completely uninterested in their own kids, maybe checking some sort of narcissistic "box" by spawning them- while their kid/s are approaching any complete stranger to engage with them on the playgrounds, parks, and open spaces. Those kids are craving adult attention, preferably from their own parents - but they know, from a tender age, that will never happen - so, any stranger will do.

Will they ever be worthy of their parents time and attention, or will they have to wait until college, when that same parent is hopelessly waiting for a call back from their kid's professor, over junior (now age 18)'s grades? Will they ever be good enough?

[Anonymous]

I would not want another parent lifting my child up and pushing on a swing.

I am present and watch my child though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grabbed a toddler at the airport once. She had taken off and her maaaaybe five year brother was chasing her while the mom was four gates back on crutches shouting at her to stop.

Mom reamed me out for touching her kid. I'll never help a child again.

Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d of course intervene on a safety issue.

I hate it when kids who aren’t mine ask me to swing them, watch them do something, help them on monkey bars, etc., when I can see their own parent/caregiver sitting around scrolling on the phone. I’ll politely pay attention to them for a minute and then explain I need to attend to my own kids.

+1 I hate it too. Those kids are so annoying and starved for attention!

+2. Same and I’m a nanny. I find it truly loathsome that negligent parents consider themselves “free range” and anti-helicopter parents when it’s strangers who are forced to watch and encourage their children.

No one wants you helicoptering around their children. Keep your eyes on your own paper.

LOL. Found the lazy parent!

NP who agrees with PP. Leave my kid alone. He is capable and independent mainly because I don't "help" aka do everything for him, unless necessary or he asks. He has plenty of hands on 1:1 interaction at home and at his expensive ass private montessori daycare. At the park he runs free and I stand back and let him. Don't do us any "favors", especially when you are judging the whole time.

I’m one of the PPs. This isn’t the situation I’m talking about. Hell no I’m not approaching your “capable and independent” child and offering my help! I want your kid to leave me alone. But your kid sees me engaged with my kid. Sees me making an effort. Playing hide and seek. Going down the slide. Pushing my kid on the swing. Whatever.

It’s your kid, getting no engagement from you, that seeks ME out because you can’t be bothered.

If you’re at a park and your kid wants to swing but doesn’t know how, that’s your job.
If you’re at a park and your kid wants to play hide and seek, get off your phone and play with your damn kid.

And if you don’t want to, fine - but tell your attention starved kid to leave the other parents/caregivers alone.

Kids are at a park to play with kids, not parents. Redirect to your child and get out of the way for hide-and-seek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d of course intervene on a safety issue.

I hate it when kids who aren’t mine ask me to swing them, watch them do something, help them on monkey bars, etc., when I can see their own parent/caregiver sitting around scrolling on the phone. I’ll politely pay attention to them for a minute and then explain I need to attend to my own kids.

+1 I hate it too. Those kids are so annoying and starved for attention!

+2. Same and I’m a nanny. I find it truly loathsome that negligent parents consider themselves “free range” and anti-helicopter parents when it’s strangers who are forced to watch and encourage their children.

No one wants you helicoptering around their children. Keep your eyes on your own paper.

LOL. Found the lazy parent!

NP who agrees with PP. Leave my kid alone. He is capable and independent mainly because I don't "help" aka do everything for him, unless necessary or he asks. He has plenty of hands on 1:1 interaction at home and at his expensive ass private montessori daycare. At the park he runs free and I stand back and let him. Don't do us any "favors", especially when you are judging the whole time.

I’m one of the PPs. This isn’t the situation I’m talking about. Hell no I’m not approaching your “capable and independent” child and offering my help! I want your kid to leave me alone. But your kid sees me engaged with my kid. Sees me making an effort. Playing hide and seek. Going down the slide. Pushing my kid on the swing. Whatever.

It’s your kid, getting no engagement from you, that seeks ME out because you can’t be bothered.

If you’re at a park and your kid wants to swing but doesn’t know how, that’s your job.
If you’re at a park and your kid wants to play hide and seek, get off your phone and play with your damn kid.

And if you don’t want to, fine - but tell your attention starved kid to leave the other parents/caregivers alone.

Kids are at a park to play with kids, not parents. Redirect to your child and get out of the way for hide-and-seek.

When I take my kids to a park, I’m prepared to engage with them. If they make friends and play with those friends, great. But no, I didn’t bring my child to the park to entertain your kid. Why would I redirect my kid, who just wants to play with her mama? Parents can’t engage their children at parks?

I’m talking about specific situations - which sadly occur often - when a kid will approach me because they see me being attentive with my own kids. The kid might ask me to push them on the swing. Or watch them do a trick. Or want me to play with them. I’d be pretty embarrassed if my kids thought they needed to seek a stranger out for attention or help use the equipment.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if their caregiver isn’t around. I’m a mom fwiw.

[Anonymous]

I do. I often find at certain playgrounds, caregivers aren’t paying attention and kids get into dangerous situations.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I grabbed a toddler at the airport once. She had taken off and her maaaaybe five year brother was chasing her while the mom was four gates back on crutches shouting at her to stop.

Mom reamed me out for touching her kid. I'll never help a child again.

Wow.

Same here. I saw kid in grocery store standing on seat of cart and ready to fall out head-first. Mom was further down aisle with back turned, I called out warning to her to watch the kid and she reamed me out too. When I asked about it here on DCUM I got pilloried and told I should MYOB.

So now I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do. I often find at certain playgrounds, caregivers aren’t paying attention and kids get into dangerous situations.

+1

Lazy parents.

The kids approach the other parents who are engaging their own children. It is actually a pretty dangerous situation that their kid approaches strangers like that. Btu as you can see from DCUM, the parents feelings obviously come first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Go ask your mom/dad/caregiver”

I’m a nanny and this is what I tell other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grabbed a toddler at the airport once. She had taken off and her maaaaybe five year brother was chasing her while the mom was four gates back on crutches shouting at her to stop.

Mom reamed me out for touching her kid. I'll never help a child again.

Wow.

Double wow. What a witch! She should have thanked you!