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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d of course intervene on a safety issue.

I hate it when kids who aren’t mine ask me to swing them, watch them do something, help them on monkey bars, etc., when I can see their own parent/caregiver sitting around scrolling on the phone. I’ll politely pay attention to them for a minute and then explain I need to attend to my own kids. 
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+1 I hate it too. Those kids are so annoying and starved for attention![/quote]

+2. Same and I’m a nanny.  I find it truly loathsome that negligent parents consider themselves “free range” and anti-helicopter parents when it’s strangers who are forced to watch and encourage their children.  [/quote]

No one wants you helicoptering around their children. Keep your eyes on your own paper.[/quote]

LOL. Found the lazy parent![/quote]

NP who agrees with PP. Leave my kid alone. He is capable and independent mainly because I don't "help" aka do everything for him, unless necessary or he asks. He has plenty of hands on 1:1 interaction at home and at his expensive ass private montessori daycare. At the park he runs free and I stand back and let him. Don't do us any "favors", especially when you are judging the whole time. [/quote]

I’m one of the PPs. This isn’t the situation I’m talking about. Hell no I’m not approaching your “capable and independent” child and offering my help!  I want your kid to leave me alone. But your kid sees me engaged with my kid. Sees me making an effort. Playing hide and seek. Going down the slide. Pushing my kid on the swing.  Whatever.

It’s your kid, getting no engagement from you, that seeks ME out because you can’t be bothered.

If you’re at a park and your kid wants to swing but doesn’t know how, that’s your job. 
If you’re at a park and your kid wants to play hide and seek, get off your phone and play with your damn kid.

And if you don’t want to, fine - but tell your attention starved kid to leave the other parents/caregivers alone. [/quote]

NP here.  I totally agree with your post.  I feel for these kids - their neglectful parents are lazy and completely uninterested in their own kids, maybe checking some sort of narcissistic "box" by spawning them- while their kid/s are approaching any complete stranger to engage with them on the playgrounds, parks, and open spaces.  Those kids are craving adult attention, preferably from their own parents - but they know, from a tender age, that will never happen - so, any stranger will do.

Will they ever be worthy of their parents time and attention, or will they have to wait until college, when that same parent is hopelessly waiting for a call back from their kid's professor, over junior (now age 18)'s grades?  Will they ever be good enough? [/quote]

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