Conflict over whether to keep puppy

[Anonymous]

OP, I was in your boat two years ago and I get it. I called Dh at work crying to get rid of our puppy because I just could not do it - the peeing/pooping in the house, the constant wanting to play, whining while I was trying to work, biting on stuff, not bonding. I felt like I was the only one doing the work and neither the dog not my family were respecting any of it.

She was my first dog (I grew up with cats). I'm two years in and I will tell you, she is the love of my life. It's taken awhile -- the first six months were hell, frankly. And I could live without a dog, but I do adore her now. It will get better, but if you feel it won't, you need to have a serious conversation with DH. The resentment won't go away.

I'm sorry. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I was in your boat two years ago and I get it. I called Dh at work crying to get rid of our puppy because I just could not do it - the peeing/pooping in the house, the constant wanting to play, whining while I was trying to work, biting on stuff, not bonding. I felt like I was the only one doing the work and neither the dog not my family were respecting any of it.

She was my first dog (I grew up with cats). I'm two years in and I will tell you, she is the love of my life. It's taken awhile -- the first six months were hell, frankly. And I could live without a dog, but I do adore her now. It will get better, but if you feel it won't, you need to have a serious conversation with DH. The resentment won't go away.

I'm sorry. Good luck.

Just came here to say that I had a very similar experience and I could have written this post myself. Now that the puppy phase is over my kid and I absolutely love our dog. My spouse went from expressing openly resentment and frustration to tolerating the dog. But sometime resentment is still resurfacing (unexpected vet bills, random accident or barking whennid not a good moment etc). If I could go back in time I would say both partners should be 100% on board with the pet joining the family

[Anonymous]

We had a rescue dog before and my husband grew up with a dog, but my DH could not stand our puppy for the first six months. He absolutely loves him now at not even two years old. Puppies are so tough. It makes it hard to bond.

[Anonymous]

Google puppy blues. It’s a thing. It passes.

[Anonymous]

This is why I adopted an adult dog. I don’t think I have the skills to teach and train a puppy.

[Anonymous]

OP, what was decided?

[Anonymous]

I mean it’s like having a baby. All babies and puppies are cute - until you have to do the day to day work. But it slowly gets better and you realize all the pain was worth it (usually).

[Anonymous]

So different from kittens. Kittens are pure joy machines with murder mittens. Then they grow up into big aloof cats.