If your spouse has ADHD..

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Anonymous wrote:Did it pass on to your children? What are the odds of children of parents with ADHD also having it?

Why would you even go out with someone with ADHD let alone marry him?

People with ADHD are fun people, not pariahs. As children, they can be extra obnoxious but they grow out of that.

Pp check all these people off your list of prospective spouses
https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/famous-people-with-adhd/

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Anonymous wrote:Apparently not terribly uncommon for adult women to discover their ADHD — especially inattentive type — when trying to figure out if something’s going on with their kid. I was researching some issues my son was having, and while reading inattentive ADHD descriptions and symptoms it was like looking into a mirror and reading my life story. Got an evaluation for myself, and it has been life changing. Turns out my kid is fine, which I’m very happy about.

What about getting the diagnosis for yourself has been life changing? Adderall?

No, I’m not medicated — though as I get deeper into peri menopause I am more tempted to try it. I have learned coping mechanisms and daily tools, and I work hard to not put myself into situations where my occasional struggle with working memory would be overly obvious or cause interference with my ability to be efficient, effective, and taken seriously.

I was called “stupid”, weird, and spacey a lot as a kid. I’m not any of those things, but I’ve been seen and treated that way due to ADHD inattentive symptoms so having a diagnosis was hugely validating and very emotional.

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Anonymous wrote:Did it pass on to your children? What are the odds of children of parents with ADHD also having it?

Why would you even go out with someone with ADHD let alone marry him?

BECAUSE IT CAN BE INVISIBLE. There's the hyperactive type and inattentive type. When you're meeting as single people with no obligations, the executive function aspect of it can be completely fine. And then when you add in the responsibilities of owning a house (maintenance, repairs, yardwork), and children (parenting, scheduling, planning ahead) and moving higher up the chain at work, plus possible grandparent wrangling as they get older...

... the person's executive functioning abilities will not be able to keep up, and that's when resentment grows and that person starts gaslighting and projecting because it's really hard to admit they're messing up all the time.

Stop blaming young adults for not seeing all the red flags. Sometimes there aren't any!

We’ll said. This was my situation, did not know DH had adhd until much later. It seemed like he had a carefree attitude when we met and was fun to be around but it wasn’t until we had kids that I realized he was very irresponsible and made irrational decisions due to undiagnosed adhd. It’s been quite a challenge especially since he is in denial