S/O: appropriate amount of time to be on the swings when others are waiting.

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Anonymous wrote:You alls kids actually wait for the swing? My kids have zero patience! They will look from a distance and see if it is clear. If not, they keep playing.

We're talking about toddlers, when the parent has to lift them in and out of the swing.

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

No, it absolutely does not apply to you or your child. Tell the parent “no”. That equipment is not for their kid.

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+100 not only do you not have to cede the swing to a non disabled kid, but if my kid is using that accessible swing they are expected to give it up the very MOMENT a disabled child wants to use it, whether they've been on it 10 minutes or 10 seconds.

This, this and more this.

I'm the parent who started this conversation.

I do think that waiting his turn is an appropriate thing for my kid to do. I don't need your kid to jump off. In fact seeing other kids using the same equipment is something my kid likes. All I ask is that when my kid gets on, that they get a longer turn.

And yes, of course, if there's another kid who needs the swing too, then they take turns, although usually longer turns just because the process of getting kids out of chairs and transferred to the swing is time consuming, and can be uncomfortable for both my kid, and my own back. I'd probably talk to the other kid or their adult and figure out what works for the two individual kids and families.

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

No, it absolutely does not apply to you or your child. Tell the parent “no”. That equipment is not for their kid.

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+100 not only do you not have to cede the swing to a non disabled kid, but if my kid is using that accessible swing they are expected to give it up the very MOMENT a disabled child wants to use it, whether they've been on it 10 minutes or 10 seconds.

Absolutely!

Nope. All kids need to learn manners and sharing. They can wait their turn as well. Scorch me I don’t care.

If you’re from out of the region I think I may have met you once while I was babysitting my niece. I explained to your child that on the whole playground there was only one swing the little boy waiting could use, and she could use all of the other toys. She got off the swing. So if that wasn’t you, at least the rest of us know there is hope for your child to learn empathy from people other than yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, 2 to 5 minutes. My 20 month old would stay on the swing forever so it’s good to set limits.

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Moms at the playground generally understand this. Dads, nannies/babysitters, and grandparents do not. Just my observation.

I think nannys know, too. I would add moms and dads during the weekdays understand this. The weekend parents (and grandparents) do not.

What a disgusting post. There's no such thing as weekend parent.

Sure there are. They are the parents who just go to the parks on the weekends not the weekdays.

Excuse me, arbiter of all parenthood? If I have a job and take my child to the playground at 4pm am I a “weekend parent”? I need to know what hashtag I’m allowed to use on my Instagram story before #blessed

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, 2 to 5 minutes. My 20 month old would stay on the swing forever so it’s good to set limits.

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Moms at the playground generally understand this. Dads, nannies/babysitters, and grandparents do not. Just my observation.

I think nannys know, too. I would add moms and dads during the weekdays understand this. The weekend parents (and grandparents) do not.

What a disgusting post. There's no such thing as weekend parent.

Sure there are. They are the parents who just go to the parks on the weekends not the weekdays.

Excuse me, arbiter of all parenthood? If I have a job and take my child to the playground at 4pm am I a “weekend parent”? I need to know what hashtag I’m allowed to use on my Instagram story before #blessed

No. Weekend parents are divorced parents who only see their children on weekends.

It’s not a slam. It’s a fairly well known and common phrase and has been for decades.

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

No, it absolutely does not apply to you or your child. Tell the parent “no”. That equipment is not for their kid.

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+100 not only do you not have to cede the swing to a non disabled kid, but if my kid is using that accessible swing they are expected to give it up the very MOMENT a disabled child wants to use it, whether they've been on it 10 minutes or 10 seconds.

Absolutely!

Nope. All kids need to learn manners and sharing. They can wait their turn as well. Scorch me I don’t care.

Do you also park in the handicapped spots, because disabled people need to learn to share? SMDH.

Likely does.

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

Wow. No. That other parent might win for most entitled person in the DC area. The proper response to that is to look that person dead in the eye and (loudly) say "You want me...to tell my disabled child he can't play anymore...because your kid wants a turn on the only accessible swing in the playground?"

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

No, it absolutely does not apply to you or your child. Tell the parent “no”. That equipment is not for their kid.

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+100 not only do you not have to cede the swing to a non disabled kid, but if my kid is using that accessible swing they are expected to give it up the very MOMENT a disabled child wants to use it, whether they've been on it 10 minutes or 10 seconds.

Absolutely!

Nope. All kids need to learn manners and sharing. They can wait their turn as well. Scorch me I don’t care.

You do care and you care deeply what people think. You also need attention which is why you posted. You want to be seen as the “maverick” but nothing is farther from the truth.

I also do not believe that even you would leave a child waiting in his wheelchair with nothing else to donor play on she your child sits on the disabled swing.

I'm the PP who brought that up.

Plenty of people let their kids finish up their turn on the swing. That bothers me much less than the parents who ask my kid to get off.

My kid has manners, he gets sharing. Sharing means a child might not get to use your favorite piece of equipment, and has to be happy for a while with the slide or climbing, or something else, or a regular swing, while they wait for something else. It shouldn't mean that every kid has a choice of multiple pieces of equipment, and one child has none to use at all.

And I’m the pp that said your kid can wait. Because they can just like mine and everyone else, it wasn’t meant to be a dig but I knew this self flagellating crowd would see it as such.
And I wouldn’t ask you to leave the swing especially if there were other options.

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

No, it absolutely does not apply to you or your child. Tell the parent “no”. That equipment is not for their kid.

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+100 not only do you not have to cede the swing to a non disabled kid, but if my kid is using that accessible swing they are expected to give it up the very MOMENT a disabled child wants to use it, whether they've been on it 10 minutes or 10 seconds.

Absolutely!

Nope. All kids need to learn manners and sharing. They can wait their turn as well. Scorch me I don’t care.

You do care and you care deeply what people think. You also need attention which is why you posted. You want to be seen as the “maverick” but nothing is farther from the truth.

I also do not believe that even you would leave a child waiting in his wheelchair with nothing else to donor play on she your child sits on the disabled swing.

I'm the PP who brought that up.

Plenty of people let their kids finish up their turn on the swing. That bothers me much less than the parents who ask my kid to get off.

My kid has manners, he gets sharing. Sharing means a child might not get to use your favorite piece of equipment, and has to be happy for a while with the slide or climbing, or something else, or a regular swing, while they wait for something else. It shouldn't mean that every kid has a choice of multiple pieces of equipment, and one child has none to use at all.

And I’m the pp that said your kid can wait. Because they can just like mine and everyone else, it wasn’t meant to be a dig but I knew this self flagellating crowd would see it as such.
And I wouldn’t ask you to leave the swing especially if there were other options.

Except they can't wait "just like everyone else".

My other kids knew from toddlerhood that if you got to the park from early childhood you climbed or played tag or shot baskets and kept an eye out for when the swing opened up. That's how kids wait for the swings. Sitting in a wheelchair is nothing like that. Plus, often we are going to the park after he waited through his sibling's soccer or baseball game, at an age when other siblings are able to run off and play by themselves at the park. So trust me, he doesn't need more practice waiting.

I think my kid can wait a few minutes for the kid on to get off. Unless there is another kid also waiting who can't use any of the other swings at the park, but then I think he can swing to his heart's content.

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

No, it absolutely does not apply to you or your child. Tell the parent “no”. That equipment is not for their kid.

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+100 not only do you not have to cede the swing to a non disabled kid, but if my kid is using that accessible swing they are expected to give it up the very MOMENT a disabled child wants to use it, whether they've been on it 10 minutes or 10 seconds.

Absolutely!

Nope. All kids need to learn manners and sharing. They can wait their turn as well. Scorch me I don’t care.

Do you also park in the handicapped spots, because disabled people need to learn to share? SMDH.

Nope but I do use the handicap stall in the bathroom and those grownups have to wait as well. It’s called living in a whole society.

You use the handicapped stall in the restroom when a handicapped individual is waiting for it?!?! Really?

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

Wow. No. That other parent might win for most entitled person in the DC area. The proper response to that is to look that person dead in the eye and (loudly) say "You want me...to tell my disabled child he can't play anymore...because your kid wants a turn on the only accessible swing in the playground?"

I have never actually seen a disabled child use to the disabled swing at the playground.

I would have my child get off within a minute of disabled child coming and would not bother the disabled child.

However, I think the pp saying disabled child doesn’t have to get off is also a bad attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

Wow. No. That other parent might win for most entitled person in the DC area. The proper response to that is to look that person dead in the eye and (loudly) say "You want me...to tell my disabled child he can't play anymore...because your kid wants a turn on the only accessible swing in the playground?"

I have never actually seen a disabled child use to the disabled swing at the playground.

I would have my child get off within a minute of disabled child coming and would not bother the disabled child.

However, I think the pp saying disabled child doesn’t have to get off is also a bad attitude.

Can you explain why you think it's a bad attitude for the disabled kid to get to play for more than a couple minutes at the playground? If you never see kids who need the swings, that means that there are plenty of times when you go to the playground and that swing is available either right away or you can negotiate turn taking.

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

Wow. No. That other parent might win for most entitled person in the DC area. The proper response to that is to look that person dead in the eye and (loudly) say "You want me...to tell my disabled child he can't play anymore...because your kid wants a turn on the only accessible swing in the playground?"

I have never actually seen a disabled child use to the disabled swing at the playground.

I would have my child get off within a minute of disabled child coming and would not bother the disabled child.

However, I think the pp saying disabled child doesn’t have to get off is also a bad attitude.

The disabled child does not have to get off unless another disabled child is waiting. Those swings are not for able-bodied children.

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I'm glad my kids don't care about swings. Timing turns and caring so much about "hogging" sounds tiresome.

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Anonymous wrote:Can I just add the obvious, which is that this doesn’t apply when non disabled kids are waiting for the accessible swing? I have had parents come over to demand a turn for their kid on what is literally the only piece of equipment he can use, and there are other swings, slides, and climbing equipment available.

And before someone asks, the other parent watched me lift my kid out of his wheelchair into the swing, so they didn’t miss the fact there was a disability.

Wow. No. That other parent might win for most entitled person in the DC area. The proper response to that is to look that person dead in the eye and (loudly) say "You want me...to tell my disabled child he can't play anymore...because your kid wants a turn on the only accessible swing in the playground?"

I have never actually seen a disabled child use to the disabled swing at the playground.

I would have my child get off within a minute of disabled child coming and would not bother the disabled child.

However, I think the pp saying disabled child doesn’t have to get off is also a bad attitude.

DCUM really is Reddit for Karens.