Tyrannical gardening-obsessed shaming neighbors

[Anonymous]

I have a neighbor across street. Younger couple maybe 42-45. Two kids maybe 8-10 moved in four years ago.

Front laws don’t have fences. Somehow they bought the house from an 85 year old widower who owned house almost fifty years and in three years turned front lawn into a massive dandelion patch with seeds flying everywhere.

The guy had a typical WFH job. Wife does not work kids in school all day. Dude spray them, dig them out or at lease keep lawn shorter so they don’t shoot up.

No one cares except the two neighbors left and right get weeds everywhere.

One of man child dads off bike riding or something while his weeds are everywhere

[Anonymous]

OMG OP, I feel your pain. I had these neighbors and thankfully they moved away. The wife would come into my yard and point out every single weed. She would complain about our fruit trees. She would then tell me all I needed was a little Roundup. Yeah, no. When we would all (me + my then infant and toddler) go outside in the yard, she would choose that exact time to start assaulting her weeds with Roundup or whatever stinky stuff she was spraying in her yard.

Back then my yard was neither the best nor worst in my neighborhood. Sorry, I don't feel obligated to have my yard looking like a golf course.

[Anonymous]

OP, I believe you.

Either ignore them or just tell them your yard is just fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor across street. Younger couple maybe 42-45. Two kids maybe 8-10 moved in four years ago.

Front laws don’t have fences. Somehow they bought the house from an 85 year old widower who owned house almost fifty years and in three years turned front lawn into a massive dandelion patch with seeds flying everywhere.

The guy had a typical WFH job. Wife does not work kids in school all day. Dude spray them, dig them out or at lease keep lawn shorter so they don’t shoot up.

No one cares except the two neighbors left and right get weeds everywhere.

One of man child dads off bike riding or something while his weeds are everywhere

LOL imagine thinking weeding is the manly hobby here. Get over it, dandelions are good for pollinators and turf lawns are for dinosaurs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG OP, I feel your pain. I had these neighbors and thankfully they moved away. The wife would come into my yard and point out every single weed. She would complain about our fruit trees. She would then tell me all I needed was a little Roundup. Yeah, no. When we would all (me + my then infant and toddler) go outside in the yard, she would choose that exact time to start assaulting her weeds with Roundup or whatever stinky stuff she was spraying in her yard.

Back then my yard was neither the best nor worst in my neighborhood. Sorry, I don't feel obligated to have my yard looking like a golf course.

It’s not about how it looks. It’s about how your lawn effects your neighbors lawn.

I would far rather have OP’s neighbor than the pig-sty neighbor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG OP, I feel your pain. I had these neighbors and thankfully they moved away. The wife would come into my yard and point out every single weed. She would complain about our fruit trees. She would then tell me all I needed was a little Roundup. Yeah, no. When we would all (me + my then infant and toddler) go outside in the yard, she would choose that exact time to start assaulting her weeds with Roundup or whatever stinky stuff she was spraying in her yard.

Back then my yard was neither the best nor worst in my neighborhood. Sorry, I don't feel obligated to have my yard looking like a golf course.

It’s not about how it looks. It’s about how your lawn effects your neighbors lawn.

I would far rather have OP’s neighbor than the pig-sty neighbor.

There's difference between OP's neighbor and a pigsty. OP has a lawn service. Not a foot tall grass lawn filled with junk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I lived next to someone like OP’s neighbor, I would deliberately cultivate dandelions in my yard AND plant bamboo along the fenceline.

The bamboo makes you the fool.

One, I love bamboo. It’s beautiful. But I don’t have any because I’m a good neighbor and my neighbors around me have the decency to not tell me what to do on my own property.

Two, if you repeatedly insist on involving yourself in my yard despite my clearing not showing interest in engaging you, then I’m going to make you regret that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor across street. Younger couple maybe 42-45. Two kids maybe 8-10 moved in four years ago.

Front laws don’t have fences. Somehow they bought the house from an 85 year old widower who owned house almost fifty years and in three years turned front lawn into a massive dandelion patch with seeds flying everywhere.

The guy had a typical WFH job. Wife does not work kids in school all day. Dude spray them, dig them out or at lease keep lawn shorter so they don’t shoot up.

No one cares except the two neighbors left and right get weeds everywhere.

One of man child dads off bike riding or something while his weeds are everywhere

Dandelion and clover yards are better for the environment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG OP, I feel your pain. I had these neighbors and thankfully they moved away. The wife would come into my yard and point out every single weed. She would complain about our fruit trees. She would then tell me all I needed was a little Roundup. Yeah, no. When we would all (me + my then infant and toddler) go outside in the yard, she would choose that exact time to start assaulting her weeds with Roundup or whatever stinky stuff she was spraying in her yard.

Back then my yard was neither the best nor worst in my neighborhood. Sorry, I don't feel obligated to have my yard looking like a golf course.

It’s not about how it looks. It’s about how your lawn effects your neighbors lawn.

I would far rather have OP’s neighbor than the pig-sty neighbor.

Yeah! It’s not about how it looks, it’s about how it makes MY lawn look! Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I lived next to someone like OP’s neighbor, I would deliberately cultivate dandelions in my yard AND plant bamboo along the fenceline.

The bamboo makes you the fool.

One, I love bamboo. It’s beautiful. But I don’t have any because I’m a good neighbor and my neighbors around me have the decency to not tell me what to do on my own property.

Two, if you repeatedly insist on involving yourself in my yard despite my clearing not showing interest in engaging you, then I’m going to make you regret that.

Jesus, you’re a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor across street. Younger couple maybe 42-45. Two kids maybe 8-10 moved in four years ago.

Front laws don’t have fences. Somehow they bought the house from an 85 year old widower who owned house almost fifty years and in three years turned front lawn into a massive dandelion patch with seeds flying everywhere.

The guy had a typical WFH job. Wife does not work kids in school all day. Dude spray them, dig them out or at lease keep lawn shorter so they don’t shoot up.

No one cares except the two neighbors left and right get weeds everywhere.

One of man child dads off bike riding or something while his weeds are everywhere

Dandelion and clover yards are better for the environment.

My backyard is mostly dandelion and clover and I love it. I love how natural and spring-like it is. We also have azaleas around the borders that I rarely trim because I like them looking wild and free. Same with my large, gorgeous Camelia bush that makes far more flowers than any of my neighbors over trimmed, mulched Camelia bushes. Sorry you don’t like my yard but it’s not full of weeds (other than clover and dandelion and violets, which I like) and it’s not violating any HOA, so, F off.

[Anonymous]

^^ oh man of course I meant F off to anyone who complains about my yard , not F off to the PP!! Sorry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I lived next to someone like OP’s neighbor, I would deliberately cultivate dandelions in my yard AND plant bamboo along the fenceline.

The bamboo makes you the fool.

One, I love bamboo. It’s beautiful. But I don’t have any because I’m a good neighbor and my neighbors around me have the decency to not tell me what to do on my own property.

Two, if you repeatedly insist on involving yourself in my yard despite my clearing not showing interest in engaging you, then I’m going to make you regret that.

Jesus, you’re a jerk.

Maybe stop spraying roundup all over the place which kills the plants in my own yard and we will talk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I had a neighbor just like this. There wasn't one thing she wouldn't complain about. Don't take it personally - I really think this is age related. She is in her late 70's and I've watched her slow decline over the last 6 years that we've lived next door to her. I actually feel bad for her because I don't think she means any harm, she likely just feels invisible and marginalized. And these last two years has done nothing to help the situation as she seems quite lonely. We have gone the route of not responding to her emails. And when we see her we're neighborly and wave hello. But that's it.

Let it go OP. She is likely suffering in ways you are not aware of.

The quickest way to become more invisible and marginalized is to be a constant pain the ass to your neighbors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I had a neighbor just like this. There wasn't one thing she wouldn't complain about. Don't take it personally - I really think this is age related. She is in her late 70's and I've watched her slow decline over the last 6 years that we've lived next door to her. I actually feel bad for her because I don't think she means any harm, she likely just feels invisible and marginalized. And these last two years has done nothing to help the situation as she seems quite lonely. We have gone the route of not responding to her emails. And when we see her we're neighborly and wave hello. But that's it.

Let it go OP. She is likely suffering in ways you are not aware of.

+1. Please tell your husband he’s a jerk for laughing in her face.

That's absurd. If someone repeatedly harangues you about things that are none of their business, what other response would you find appropriate?