Tyrannical gardening-obsessed shaming neighbors

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Certain types of trees constantly drop branches into the yard. They become a bit of a nuisance. I think people would call them “junk trees.”

Which ones, exactly? I know of none, except sick trees.

Silver maples. River birch. Constantly dropping big branches.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your yard really bad, OP? And do your “junk trees” drop on her lawn/garden?

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I knew someone would ask this. I should have put in my original post that we have a lawn service that comes once a week.

I really don’t understand her definition of junk trees. She HATES fruit trees and huckleberries.

I listed my daughters’ ages because I have zero free time.

Your zero free time implies that your acknowledge that your yard is a mess and this is why it bothers neighbor.

And you say it started before you had kids, so it is a bit confusing. I recommend looking up Virginia’s list of invasive plants. You could also hire someone to trim the branches overhanging their yard.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I had a neighbor just like this. There wasn't one thing she wouldn't complain about. Don't take it personally - I really think this is age related. She is in her late 70's and I've watched her slow decline over the last 6 years that we've lived next door to her. I actually feel bad for her because I don't think she means any harm, she likely just feels invisible and marginalized. And these last two years has done nothing to help the situation as she seems quite lonely. We have gone the route of not responding to her emails. And when we see her we're neighborly and wave hello. But that's it.

Let it go OP. She is likely suffering in ways you are not aware of.

+1. Please tell your husband he’s a jerk for laughing in her face.

That sounds like you are gas-lighting her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I lived next to someone like OP’s neighbor, I would deliberately cultivate dandelions in my yard AND plant bamboo along the fenceline.

Be careful. Fairfax county has a new rule to impose fines on bamboo in yards.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If I lived next to someone like OP’s neighbor, I would deliberately cultivate dandelions in my yard AND plant bamboo along the fenceline.

Be careful. Fairfax county has a new rule to impose fines on bamboo in yards.

They are 30 years late on bamboo but better late than never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor across street. Younger couple maybe 42-45. Two kids maybe 8-10 moved in four years ago.

Front laws don’t have fences. Somehow they bought the house from an 85 year old widower who owned house almost fifty years and in three years turned front lawn into a massive dandelion patch with seeds flying everywhere.

The guy had a typical WFH job. Wife does not work kids in school all day. Dude spray them, dig them out or at lease keep lawn shorter so they don’t shoot up.

No one cares except the two neighbors left and right get weeds everywhere.

One of man child dads off bike riding or something while his weeds are everywhere

You sound insane. We don't have a fence, we have native plants we like, such as dandelions, and we are certainly never going to use herbicide. We also know how to garden and grow plants.

What on earth is wrong with you? Drag yourself into the modern era of gardening. None of the things you complain about are wrong in the slightest.

Dandelios are not native despite what you may believe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I had a neighbor just like this. There wasn't one thing she wouldn't complain about. Don't take it personally - I really think this is age related. She is in her late 70's and I've watched her slow decline over the last 6 years that we've lived next door to her. I actually feel bad for her because I don't think she means any harm, she likely just feels invisible and marginalized. And these last two years has done nothing to help the situation as she seems quite lonely. We have gone the route of not responding to her emails. And when we see her we're neighborly and wave hello. But that's it.

Let it go OP. She is likely suffering in ways you are not aware of.

+1. Please tell your husband he’s a jerk for laughing in her face.

That sounds like you are gas-lighting her!

Sounds like you are enabling her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbor across street. Younger couple maybe 42-45. Two kids maybe 8-10 moved in four years ago.

Front laws don’t have fences. Somehow they bought the house from an 85 year old widower who owned house almost fifty years and in three years turned front lawn into a massive dandelion patch with seeds flying everywhere.

The guy had a typical WFH job. Wife does not work kids in school all day. Dude spray them, dig them out or at lease keep lawn shorter so they don’t shoot up.

No one cares except the two neighbors left and right get weeds everywhere.

One of man child dads off bike riding or something while his weeds are everywhere

Dandelion and clover yards are better for the environment.

My backyard is mostly dandelion and clover and I love it. I love how natural and spring-like it is. We also have azaleas around the borders that I rarely trim because I like them looking wild and free. Same with my large, gorgeous Camelia bush that makes far more flowers than any of my neighbors over trimmed, mulched Camelia bushes. Sorry you don’t like my yard but it’s not full of weeds (other than clover and dandelion and violets, which I like) and it’s not violating any HOA, so, F off.

Clover is such a pretty ground cover. Have never understood the desire to get rid of it and replace with grass.

Clover is pretty but not a native (grass is not a native either) and attracts bees so if you are allergic…

[Anonymous]

I think we can agree from OP’s title and post that they are rage-venting here and have no desire to change anything in their yard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we can agree from OP’s title and post that they are rage-venting here and have no desire to change anything in their yard.

And she shouldn't have her if there is nothing wrong with her yard.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think we can agree from OP’s title and post that they are rage-venting here and have no desire to change anything in their yard.

And she shouldn't have her if there is nothing wrong with her yard.

If you think there is nothing wrong with her yard, you are gullible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think we can agree from OP’s title and post that they are rage-venting here and have no desire to change anything in their yard.

And she shouldn't have her if there is nothing wrong with her yard.

If you think there is nothing wrong with her yard, you are gullible.

And even if there is something "wrong" with her yard, so what? It's her property. Keep the huckleberry tree. Keep the dandylions. She has a lawn service so it's not as if she neglects her lawn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think we can agree from OP’s title and post that they are rage-venting here and have no desire to change anything in their yard.

And she shouldn't have her if there is nothing wrong with her yard.

If you think there is nothing wrong with her yard, you are gullible.

And even if there is something "wrong" with her yard, so what? It's her property. Keep the huckleberry tree. Keep the dandylions. She has a lawn service so it's not as if she neglects her lawn.

It’s not about her yard! Are you are that naive?

[Anonymous]

I'd put up a tall privacy fence or a wall of cypress trees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think we can agree from OP’s title and post that they are rage-venting here and have no desire to change anything in their yard.

And she shouldn't have her if there is nothing wrong with her yard.

If you think there is nothing wrong with her yard, you are gullible.

And even if there is something "wrong" with her yard, so what? It's her property. Keep the huckleberry tree. Keep the dandylions. She has a lawn service so it's not as if she neglects her lawn.

I know lots of people with lawn services whose lawns are full of weeds. My neighbor used to scalp his yard every week but it was full of weeds. Te back is another story.