I’m starting my late July birthday child (boy) in kindergarten on time.

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Anonymous wrote:We are not in DC. My kid’s birthday is literally on the cutoff date- we are holding him back. He would probably do fine but he is a bit immature so we are holding him back. If his birthday was 2 months before the cutoff I wouldn’t have hesitated in sending.

They are all immature at that age. Give me a break.

This! Its only slightly a problem in public because of the academic expectations. In private its only a problem because everyone is trying to redshirt for advantage. Otherwise it’d be perfectly fine.

BS, my child is at one of the top DC private’s which has a class of 30 or so students in his grade. There are at least 3 June, 2 July, and 1 August birthdays. None are redshirted.
A low level private like mater dei does this practice often I hear, but not at my child’s top school.

What is BS, that their all immature at that age so its not really a problem, or the fact that everyone is red shirting for advantage?

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Anonymous wrote:We are not in DC. My kid’s birthday is literally on the cutoff date- we are holding him back. He would probably do fine but he is a bit immature so we are holding him back. If his birthday was 2 months before the cutoff I wouldn’t have hesitated in sending.

They are all immature at that age. Give me a break.

This! Its only slightly a problem in public because of the academic expectations. In private its only a problem because everyone is trying to redshirt for advantage. Otherwise it’d be perfectly fine.

BS, my child is at one of the top DC private’s which has a class of 30 or so students in his grade. There are at least 3 June, 2 July, and 1 August birthdays. None are redshirted.
A low level private like mater dei does this practice often I hear, but not at my child’s top school.

What is BS, that their all immature at that age so its not really a problem, or the fact that everyone is red shirting for advantage?

The BS comment was to the preceding poster who said it’s done in privates. That’s not true of all.

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We did the same with a late July birthday. Generally happy we did, though we've been behind with reading most of the last two years. I will say be prepared for everyone in class to be 6 months+ older than your kid. I hear it evens out in 2nd or 3rd. If everyone just sent their kids on the normal schedule we wouldn't be in this situation.

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Anonymous wrote:We did the same with a late July birthday. Generally happy we did, though we've been behind with reading most of the last two years. I will say be prepared for everyone in class to be 6 months+ older than your kid. I hear it evens out in 2nd or 3rd. If everyone just sent their kids on the normal schedule we wouldn't be in this situation.

It does even out. Send on time.

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Anonymous wrote:We are not in DC. My kid’s birthday is literally on the cutoff date- we are holding him back. He would probably do fine but he is a bit immature so we are holding him back. If his birthday was 2 months before the cutoff I wouldn’t have hesitated in sending.

They are all immature at that age. Give me a break.

This! Its only slightly a problem in public because of the academic expectations. In private its only a problem because everyone is trying to redshirt for advantage. Otherwise it’d be perfectly fine.

BS, my child is at one of the top DC private’s which has a class of 30 or so students in his grade. There are at least 3 June, 2 July, and 1 August birthdays. None are redshirted.
A low level private like mater dei does this practice often I hear, but not at my child’s top school.

What is BS, that their all immature at that age so its not really a problem, or the fact that everyone is red shirting for advantage?

The BS comment was to the preceding poster who said it’s done in privates. That’s not true of all.

Its ABSOLUTEly true in private.

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Anonymous wrote:We are not in DC. My kid’s birthday is literally on the cutoff date- we are holding him back. He would probably do fine but he is a bit immature so we are holding him back. If his birthday was 2 months before the cutoff I wouldn’t have hesitated in sending.

They are all immature at that age. Give me a break.

This! Its only slightly a problem in public because of the academic expectations. In private its only a problem because everyone is trying to redshirt for advantage. Otherwise it’d be perfectly fine.

BS, my child is at one of the top DC private’s which has a class of 30 or so students in his grade. There are at least 3 June, 2 July, and 1 August birthdays. None are redshirted.
A low level private like mater dei does this practice often I hear, but not at my child’s top school.

What is BS, that their all immature at that age so its not really a problem, or the fact that everyone is red shirting for advantage?

The BS comment was to the preceding poster who said it’s done in privates. That’s not true of all.

Its ABSOLUTEly true in private.

Agreed. Depends where you are. 90% of Baltimore independent school kids with summer birthdays are redshirted. It’s just local differences. Our school told us our kid would be doing a pre-first-grade year. They didn’t ask us. It’s a school with far more applications than seats so they can afford to be choosy!

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Anonymous wrote:We are not in DC. My kid’s birthday is literally on the cutoff date- we are holding him back. He would probably do fine but he is a bit immature so we are holding him back. If his birthday was 2 months before the cutoff I wouldn’t have hesitated in sending.

They are all immature at that age. Give me a break.

This! Its only slightly a problem in public because of the academic expectations. In private its only a problem because everyone is trying to redshirt for advantage. Otherwise it’d be perfectly fine.

BS, my child is at one of the top DC private’s which has a class of 30 or so students in his grade. There are at least 3 June, 2 July, and 1 August birthdays. None are redshirted.
A low level private like mater dei does this practice often I hear, but not at my child’s top school.

What is BS, that their all immature at that age so its not really a problem, or the fact that everyone is red shirting for advantage?

The BS comment was to the preceding poster who said it’s done in privates. That’s not true of all.

Its ABSOLUTEly true in private.

Are you at my child’s private? Miss ABSOLUTELY!

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Anonymous wrote:We are not in DC. My kid’s birthday is literally on the cutoff date- we are holding him back. He would probably do fine but he is a bit immature so we are holding him back. If his birthday was 2 months before the cutoff I wouldn’t have hesitated in sending.

They are all immature at that age. Give me a break.

This! Its only slightly a problem in public because of the academic expectations. In private its only a problem because everyone is trying to redshirt for advantage. Otherwise it’d be perfectly fine.

BS, my child is at one of the top DC private’s which has a class of 30 or so students in his grade. There are at least 3 June, 2 July, and 1 August birthdays. None are redshirted.
A low level private like mater dei does this practice often I hear, but not at my child’s top school.

What is BS, that their all immature at that age so its not really a problem, or the fact that everyone is red shirting for advantage?

The BS comment was to the preceding poster who said it’s done in privates. That’s not true of all.

Its ABSOLUTEly true in private.

Not at ours. I believe 1 child but legitimately held back, not for a late birthday.

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I was so interested to see your thread, OP, because my son is exactly one year ahead of yours - born in late July and started kindergarten last fall. We never considered redshirting.

He’s had his struggles this academic year to be honest, including with discipline. But he’s had a ton of extra help (reading, speech, PT, OT), and has made amazing strides. Academically, he’s average to above average, and his reading and spelling are now phenomenal, because once he got to the point where he was interested in achieving the ability, he put in so much more effort. So now my kid who is “behind” in age is doing just fine keeping up with the “older” kids. I truly do not see the benefit of redshirting.

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I did this 2 years ago with my son and he’s thriving in 2nd grade despite the past 2 years of weird COVID school. His preschool in 4s said he needed extra support and possibly special ed but it turns out he was bored and under-stimulated and once he got to K and was reading he was completely fine. He’s a super strong reader, writer, great speller, has friends and makes them easily in new situations, is kind and friendly, listens (most of the time), etc. of course he’s still a semi-wiggly 7yo boy but I’m so glad he’s being challenged in school and loves it.

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Anonymous wrote:I did this 2 years ago with my son and he’s thriving in 2nd grade despite the past 2 years of weird COVID school. His preschool in 4s said he needed extra support and possibly special ed but it turns out he was bored and under-stimulated and once he got to K and was reading he was completely fine. He’s a super strong reader, writer, great speller, has friends and makes them easily in new situations, is kind and friendly, listens (most of the time), etc. of course he’s still a semi-wiggly 7yo boy but I’m so glad he’s being challenged in school and loves it.

You bought that load of crap from his preschool? All kids need extra support at that age, give me a break. I just cannot believe you fell for that.

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Anonymous wrote:I did this 2 years ago with my son and he’s thriving in 2nd grade despite the past 2 years of weird COVID school. His preschool in 4s said he needed extra support and possibly special ed but it turns out he was bored and under-stimulated and once he got to K and was reading he was completely fine. He’s a super strong reader, writer, great speller, has friends and makes them easily in new situations, is kind and friendly, listens (most of the time), etc. of course he’s still a semi-wiggly 7yo boy but I’m so glad he’s being challenged in school and loves it.

You bought that load of crap from his preschool? All kids need extra support at that age, give me a break. I just cannot believe you fell for that.

Of course I didn’t - that’s why I said we went ahead with putting him in K and didn’t listen to the stupid prek teachers who were saying there was something “wrong” with him. I knew he was just in the wrong environment (his preschool class skewed young and he was ready for more “academic” stuff, but he was happy so we just kept him there for that year and moved for K. He thrived in K and learned a ton and is doing great now in 2nd.

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Anonymous wrote:In my community it's the opposite, there is literally one boy who is red shirted who has an August birthday- but he is tall for his chronological age (so the tallest, easily, in first grade this year in his class since he is the oldest). He is also relatively bright, and very athletic. He stands out as clearly older, and there is every now and then a "... how old is he?" comment. All of the other August kids I know were sent on time (sept 1 cutoff). I have some sort of hard to shake grudge against the mom of this kid, because her kid is kind of exclusionary and not particularly nice towards my kid, who is a July boy who was sent on time so in his class but almost a year younger. He will say things like , "you can't come into my fort, I don't want to play with you" and invite in the older boys. I feel like he has a sort of "king of the castle" attitude and in my opinion it probably comes at least in part from being the oldest, tallest, and fastest kid in the class- because, no s***, he is supposed to be in the next grade up. I don't really think his attitude is going to do him a lot of favors in the future and I feel like his parents could have avoided it by just sending him on time, where he would have been middle of the pack in second grade.

Wow you’re incredibly judgmental of a child. Sad for you

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That is really sad. I have a hard time imagining what sort of mental state I would have to be in to write that kind of nasty rant about a child. It wouldn’t be a good one, that for sure.

NP I think you are overreacting. I didn’t see a nasty rant at all. Just a parent unhappy about a kid who is being exclusionary to their kid. Perhaps the criticism hit too close to home and that is why you are defensive?

To answer the question - I have an August girl in a wealthy part of Fairfax County and literally everyone I know with July-Sep birthdays is redshirting. Boys and girls! It’s messed up. I’m going to send on time and hope for the best. She would be bored in another year of pre-K. If I had a boy I would more seriously consider redshirting, but luckily my younger boy is an October birthday.

No, I didn’t redshirt. I just think DCUM anti redshirt parents are pretty universally nasty, and that post demonstrates it. It’s over the top and mean about a very young child.

But I guess as a DCUM anti redshirter you are fine with nastiness.

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Anonymous wrote:In my community it's the opposite, there is literally one boy who is red shirted who has an August birthday- but he is tall for his chronological age (so the tallest, easily, in first grade this year in his class since he is the oldest). He is also relatively bright, and very athletic. He stands out as clearly older, and there is every now and then a "... how old is he?" comment. All of the other August kids I know were sent on time (sept 1 cutoff). I have some sort of hard to shake grudge against the mom of this kid, because her kid is kind of exclusionary and not particularly nice towards my kid, who is a July boy who was sent on time so in his class but almost a year younger. He will say things like , "you can't come into my fort, I don't want to play with you" and invite in the older boys. I feel like he has a sort of "king of the castle" attitude and in my opinion it probably comes at least in part from being the oldest, tallest, and fastest kid in the class- because, no s***, he is supposed to be in the next grade up. I don't really think his attitude is going to do him a lot of favors in the future and I feel like his parents could have avoided it by just sending him on time, where he would have been middle of the pack in second grade.

Wow you’re incredibly judgmental of a child. Sad for you

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That is really sad. I have a hard time imagining what sort of mental state I would have to be in to write that kind of nasty rant about a child. It wouldn’t be a good one, that for sure.

NP I think you are overreacting. I didn’t see a nasty rant at all. Just a parent unhappy about a kid who is being exclusionary to their kid. Perhaps the criticism hit too close to home and that is why you are defensive?

To answer the question - I have an August girl in a wealthy part of Fairfax County and literally everyone I know with July-Sep birthdays is redshirting. Boys and girls! It’s messed up. I’m going to send on time and hope for the best. She would be bored in another year of pre-K. If I had a boy I would more seriously consider redshirting, but luckily my younger boy is an October birthday.

No, I didn’t redshirt. I just think DCUM anti redshirt parents are pretty universally nasty, and that post demonstrates it. It’s over the top and mean about a very young child.

But I guess as a DCUM anti redshirter you are fine with nastiness.

You sound pretty nasty.

There are very few good reasons to redshirt and when you say your child is immature, at that age, what does that mean and who are you comparing your kids to? And, if they are so immature, what are you doing to fix it.?

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There is a regional component to the practice. I know places in the Mid-West were parents hold off to send their kids to K until they are 6. I can think of four families off the top of my head living in different parts of the Mid-West that waited because that is the norm there. I know people at private school who said that their school suggested they wait until 6. I also know people who sent their kids born in October to private school to start K at 5 because they didn't want to wait a year to start.

I don't think that there is a hard and fast rule, there are always exceptions. Anecdotes are not data but data points.

Know your kid and where you live and do what works for your kid.