Just realized I dated and am married to an alcoholic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What defines an alcoholic on this forum? A beer every night? Or downing an entire bottle of vodka a night? Or a glass of wine a week?

Cause almost every post here has been about how “my spouse is an alcoholic”.

Being an alcoholic is not about how much a person drinks, it's about whether their drinking interferes with their ability to function.

Ok. Keep telling yourself this lie and it is a lie.

Not sure why my comment seemed to strike a chord with you? What about what I said above is a lie? I may be mistaken, and I am certainly no expert on alcoholism, but what I have been told by an addiction counselor who is currently working with my family is that the ability to tolerate alcohol varies from person to person. A small woman might be able to drink much less than a large man, and have the alcohol impair her functioning in a way that it doesn't for the man. My point being that you cannot simply say that having X number of glasses of wine etc a day, a week, a month, makes you an alcoholic.

I think it strikes a chord because it's coming from an alcoholic in denial because he doesn't drink everyday, or he doesn't drink a fifth of vodka at a time, so he can't possibly be an alcoholic and he's tired of his wife nagging him about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What defines an alcoholic on this forum? A beer every night? Or downing an entire bottle of vodka a night? Or a glass of wine a week?

Cause almost every post here has been about how “my spouse is an alcoholic”.

Being an alcoholic is not about how much a person drinks, it's about whether their drinking interferes with their ability to function.

Ok. Keep telling yourself this lie and it is a lie.

Not sure why my comment seemed to strike a chord with you? What about what I said above is a lie? I may be mistaken, and I am certainly no expert on alcoholism, but what I have been told by an addiction counselor who is currently working with my family is that the ability to tolerate alcohol varies from person to person. A small woman might be able to drink much less than a large man, and have the alcohol impair her functioning in a way that it doesn't for the man. My point being that you cannot simply say that having X number of glasses of wine etc a day, a week, a month, makes you an alcoholic.

I think it strikes a chord because it's coming from an alcoholic in denial because he doesn't drink everyday, or he doesn't drink a fifth of vodka at a time, so he can't possibly be an alcoholic and he's tired of his wife nagging him about it.

Touche

[Anonymous]

Find Alanon meetings at attend them to get the support you need. Work the steps there. Talking about in therapy isn’t enough.