Is it a status symbol to marry young?

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Anonymous wrote:Today’s generations doesn’t want to do anything for their parents so parents rather invest money for retirement than spend it on ungrateful children.

Speak for your kids.

Go peek in any old home.

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Most of the people that I know who married young are either really religious or they are poor and uneducated (often with kids).

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the people that I know who married young are either really religious or they are poor and uneducated (often with kids).

The richest people I know from college were the first to marry. It's much easier to be a 25 year old SAHM with a husband just finishing law school when you both have trust funds.

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Anonymous wrote:I notice a trend that people are increasingly getting married younger in UC/UMC circles. 25-27 year old brides vs 31-36 year old ones from a few years ago.

It seems young rich people now are more willing to marry and have children earlier.

fertility drops off after 30 so it makes sense to marry before then. The average age is 27 for women so that's not young

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No because it usually ends in divorce. For the most part people know it's foolish.

No where near a status symbol OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend who had a trust fund. I watched with a lot of jealousy how she could afford to have a wedding, buy a house, be a SAHM with 3 kids. These were all things I had to save up lots of money to do.

I got married at 18, my H was in the military, we bought our first house when I was 20, I was a SAHM for ten years, then I went to college and got a degree with no student loans and had a career. I guess most people don't think such a life is possible or desirable. I wouldn't change a thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had a friend who had a trust fund. I watched with a lot of jealousy how she could afford to have a wedding, buy a house, be a SAHM with 3 kids. These were all things I had to save up lots of money to do.

I got married at 18, my H was in the military, we bought our first house when I was 20, I was a SAHM for ten years, then I went to college and got a degree with no student loans and had a career. I guess most people don't think such a life is possible or desirable. I wouldn't change a thing.

There are many ways to do life but yeah I wouldn’t want my daughter to marry before she has a degree and a job so at least 22.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had a friend who had a trust fund. I watched with a lot of jealousy how she could afford to have a wedding, buy a house, be a SAHM with 3 kids. These were all things I had to save up lots of money to do.

I got married at 18, my H was in the military, we bought our first house when I was 20, I was a SAHM for ten years, then I went to college and got a degree with no student loans and had a career. I guess most people don't think such a life is possible or desirable. I wouldn't change a thing.

Glad things worked out for you two.

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Anonymous wrote:No because it usually ends in divorce. For the most part people know it's foolish.

No where near a status symbol OP.

Is amicable divorce really that bad? Is it the desirable people who had options that do it? Seems like the no kids amicable divorcees are better than the last to be married. They get stuck and bully their ILs. -still on 1st marriage, but know jerks that blame their looks even though they are better looking than those who marry before them

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I noticed among the spring break crowds downtown lots of 4- and 5-child families visiting from flyover country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend who had a trust fund. I watched with a lot of jealousy how she could afford to have a wedding, buy a house, be a SAHM with 3 kids. These were all things I had to save up lots of money to do.

I got married at 18, my H was in the military, we bought our first house when I was 20, I was a SAHM for ten years, then I went to college and got a degree with no student loans and had a career. I guess most people don't think such a life is possible or desirable. I wouldn't change a thing.

Glad things worked out for you two.

Early Military marriages are common are insurance reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend who had a trust fund. I watched with a lot of jealousy how she could afford to have a wedding, buy a house, be a SAHM with 3 kids. These were all things I had to save up lots of money to do.

I got married at 18, my H was in the military, we bought our first house when I was 20, I was a SAHM for ten years, then I went to college and got a degree with no student loans and had a career. I guess most people don't think such a life is possible or desirable. I wouldn't change a thing.

Glad things worked out for you two.

Early Military marriages are common are insurance reasons.

Tricareatops and dependapotamuses are common around military bases

[Anonymous]

All my younger UMC relatives married after college but before they were about 25.

It does seem to be a new trend in this crowd--I don't know if it's a "status symbol" but I do think wealthier younger women have realized they shouldn't wait to have kids (like I did) and men who think they are going to make more money are more likely to be able to afford to get married. It's easier if your parents can pay for your lavish wedding and then give you are large chunk of money to pay for your first house. Most middle class people don't have this.

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Younger generations don't want to miss their fertility window. Good for them!

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Every year you wait to have kids you're shaving off one year at the end of your life you'll get to spend with your children and perhaps grandchildren.