What is the psychology behind being attracted to your kid’s coach/teacher?

[Anonymous]

There are always going to be younger, hotter, prettier, taller, funnier people than your own partner but obsessing over them is only going to lead to comparisons and negative feelings.

[Anonymous]

This was good reads. Thanks everyone
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[Anonymous]

I'm a man, but I'm attracted to women who are nice to my kid and seem to appreciate her. They're usually decently attractive anyway, but teachers who don't seem to like her as much don't get points.

[Anonymous]

Limerance

[Anonymous]

My wife’s affair was with my son’s coach. He was a scumbag divorced dad/coach that hit on all the moms and she unfortunately for our family has major daddy issues.

Ruined my life and family, keep it a fantasy and there are no issues. The entire team knew before me because I loved and trusted her. Simply embarrassing and shameful to let it happen (unless you are single and your kid doesn’t mind being teased because his mom is the team slut).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this is a thing, especially for women. I myself have more than once felt attracted to my son’s coaches throughout the years. Happily married, but a little fantasizing never hurt anyone.

Just curious what is going on with that? The current coach is a reasonably attractive guy, also single which is outside the norm. However, he’s probably not someone I would give a second thought to if not for being the coach (and he’s a good one, my kid really looks up to him). Why do I think about him so much?

Proximity syndrome.

[Anonymous]

Ewww

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Authority appeals to you.

What authority do teachers have?

[Anonymous]

The basic psychology is your husband sux. Possibly at more than just looks, supporting your mutual child, teaching people anything, being an interesting person.

And you don’t know if the teacher or coach is a big slob.