What is the psychology behind being attracted to your kid’s coach/teacher?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s normal but make sure you keep it together when you’re in person. Sometimes I think women fall into a trap where they think it’s okay to ogle or gossip about a hot coach but it really isn’t. I’ve been guilty, but I’m working on it.

You realize the dads do the same thing with hot nannies at pickup? Why can't women enjoy things a little?

[Anonymous]

Similar to the crushes women get on their male gynecologists when pregnant....it's seeing the nurturing and care I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gross!

Why? I think it’s okay for humans to have feelings and attractions even after marriage. Nobody is acting on anything, so what is the problem? You sound very uptight.

[Anonymous]

Totally normal, and if you are adventurous (and reasonably hot) you should consider exploring. Flirt with him a bit and see if he reciprocates. He will probably be flattered and receptive.

[Anonymous]

Urggh....why must everything have to have a label? You are attracted to a human. Just don't be an idiot and act on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s normal but make sure you keep it together when you’re in person. Sometimes I think women fall into a trap where they think it’s okay to ogle or gossip about a hot coach but it really isn’t. I’ve been guilty, but I’m working on it.

It may be common but no it is NOT normal.

I don't think that word means what you think it means.


If something is common, it is therefore normal. Women and men are attracted to each other, whether they are in a committed relationship or not. That is NORMAL. It is nature and biology and the entire reason we as a species still exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ew. No thanks.

The psychology is a person having unhealthy boundaries and projecting feelings on inappropriate people.

This. To be attracted or have a crush on every single care giver and teacher suggests poor or inappropriate emotional development.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ew. No thanks.

The psychology is a person having unhealthy boundaries and projecting feelings on inappropriate people.

This. To be attracted or have a crush on every single care giver and teacher suggests poor or inappropriate emotional development.

Who said every? Nobody ever said this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s normal but make sure you keep it together when you’re in person. Sometimes I think women fall into a trap where they think it’s okay to ogle or gossip about a hot coach but it really isn’t. I’ve been guilty, but I’m working on it.

It may be common but no it is NOT normal.

I don't think that word means what you think it means.


If something is common, it is therefore normal. Women and men are attracted to each other, whether they are in a committed relationship or not. That is NORMAL. It is nature and biology and the entire reason we as a species still exist.

Sorry no. Being consistently attracted to your child’s teacher or coach is not normal. It is it is not a healthy emotional development.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s normal but make sure you keep it together when you’re in person. Sometimes I think women fall into a trap where they think it’s okay to ogle or gossip about a hot coach but it really isn’t. I’ve been guilty, but I’m working on it.

It may be common but no it is NOT normal.

I don't think that word means what you think it means.


If something is common, it is therefore normal. Women and men are attracted to each other, whether they are in a committed relationship or not. That is NORMAL. It is nature and biology and the entire reason we as a species still exist.

Sorry no. Being consistently attracted to your child’s teacher or coach is not normal. It is it is not a healthy emotional development.

There is a range of normal sexual urges and behavior. This falls within it. OP said "more than once... throughout the years". Normal. Are you a straight woman? Do you have any idea how often your man fantasizes about the women in your lives? Normal, honey. Maybe if you engage your imagination and allow yourself to let your mind wander, you'll be less judgmental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Similar to the crushes women get on their male gynecologists when pregnant....it's seeing the nurturing and care I think.

+1

When my brother would be out with our infant son, toddler, it was crazy how many women would hit on him. We used to jokingly call my kids 'bait' for him.

My husband was Coach for both of my kids through elementary school and he had a literal fan club of mothers around him at every practice and game. It was rather ridiculous.

I do think it kicks up some nurture instinct in women. They see a 'kind man', good with children and strong in other ways and it sends biology in to over-drive. Now if that woman is in a bad marriage or has a husband that isn't that involved with their own children, then it is even more ratcheted up.

For some tiger moms, the flattering of Coach/teacher thing is a way to get their kids 'ahead' and not related to their attraction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Similar to the crushes women get on their male gynecologists when pregnant....it's seeing the nurturing and care I think.

+1

When my brother would be out with our infant son, toddler, it was crazy how many women would hit on him. We used to jokingly call my kids 'bait' for him.

My husband was Coach for both of my kids through elementary school and he had a literal fan club of mothers around him at every practice and game. It was rather ridiculous.

I do think it kicks up some nurture instinct in women. They see a 'kind man', good with children and strong in other ways and it sends biology in to over-drive. Now if that woman is in a bad marriage or has a husband that isn't that involved with their own children, then it is even more ratcheted up.

For some tiger moms, the flattering of Coach/teacher thing is a way to get their kids 'ahead' and not related to their attraction.

I should add both my husband and brother are very attractive. Brother happens to be a teacher too.

Sometimes it has nothing to do with their profession or that they interact with their kid. It's just that the teacher is hot. Men fun into the same thing with their kids' teacher. The element of 'scolding a bad boy' may be there too. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are seen as a care taker, care taker of your kid. Nuturing.

In these women's fantasies, perhaps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally normal, and if you are adventurous (and reasonably hot) you should consider exploring. Flirt with him a bit and see if he reciprocates. He will probably be flattered and receptive.

Just make sure they're not your kid's teacher or in any position to grant special treatment. Otherwise, game on. Teachers aren't eunuchs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same for men. We fantasize about early education teachers. I think it's something primal about seeing someone sweet with little kids

Speak for yourself. For me it is the tight body of a 20 something girl. Firm perky t*ts absolutely kill me.