Will it be awkward if I don't offer dinner (seeing friend on college tour)

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I doubt she wants to have dinner with you. It’s fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback so far.

DD will be ready to go to college when it is time. She's currently a sophomore. She has known the family friend since she was a little girl, but she's never spent much time with her (she's BFFs with the much younger sister).

They are not going to meet up for coffee. We are going to roll into town around 4:30, check into the hotel, and then meet up with friend around 5pm. My hope is that the friend might show DD the student center, give her take on college life, and let her see her dorm if that's allowed (strict Covid rules at the school still). No more than an hour. We'll have an official tour the next day, so there is no pressure to show the library, etc. If she only has 20 minutes, that's fine, too.

The college town is cute and has some nice independent coffee shops (avocado toast-type places, so $$), a crepe place, etc. I could ask her mom what she likes and buy a gift card before we leave the next day. [/quo

Gift card would be awesome and don't worry about dinner...my college freshman would be happy to show a student around for a bit but not be tied to going out to dinner with them.

This exactly for my college kid. Time is a more precious commodity than food. He's kind and polite so he would feel obliged to go have the dinner, but it would be an imposition because he's really busy with classes/work/social life. He would REALLY appreciate a gift card though that he could give himself a treat when he wanted it (or take his girlfriend for a treat).

This is OP. Thank you - this solidified my decision. Btw, dinner would have also been with me. Friend is closer with me than DD.

Anyway, Friend has a boyfriend, and I like the idea that she could take her BF for a treat with a gift card to a place she likes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your daughter is so anxious about being given a tour of a college by a family friend, how's she ever going to handle college on her own?

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It would be nice if you took her to dinner. But how about instead, you show up with some snacks in a nice bag or basket - popcorn, Cheese-Its, candy, coconut water, etc.?

I wouldn't do that, unless you're sure of no dietary restrictions/allergies/etc...

Please. The kid's a senior in college - they can manage their own food, and share whatever they can't eat with friends.

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The kid (young adult!) is in college. OP doesn’t have to worry if she has a sesame allergy. Kid can eat what she wants and give away the rest.

A basket of snacks is a nice idea. Or even the gift card to a local restaurant.

[Anonymous]

Let's be serious, college seniors want booze. Bring her a bottle of wine.

[Anonymous]

If the college tour with the friend is too stressful just take them out to dinner or pick up sandwiches and find a nice place to eat on campus. Your daughter is BFFs with the kid’s sister, right? This is a family friend. How is walking around campus with a family friend more nerve-wracking than the official tour you have the next day?