Younger siblings are successful and hurt feeelings

[Anonymous]

Stop giving them cash? They are adults. You wonder why they are jealous? Your DH fathered a new child and started a new family about a year into his youngest child's life? HMMMMM not hard to figure out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having an asshole for a step mom can do a number on you.

OP here,

Definitely not a bad stepmom. I welcome them in our house, respectful, and taught my kids to play nice all the time. My kids and I don’t fully understand their mental health because dh doesn’t share period. Not all stepmoms are evil.

And thought my kids to play nice? Why did they need to be thought to play nice, you kids?
Sounds like your DH knows you are evil, towards his kids from a previous marriage. Maybe you should let other people tell you, you are nice? I mean if it sounds like a duck, and it acts like a duck....it is a duck!

OP here,

I read some of the comments and now I understand why step families cannot have discussion and resolve problems. The reason my children had to be taught to play nice with their siblings are because step kids were violent and mean towards my kids. I understand that it was mental issue ,they were going through, but no one has to write to slap my kids around, to pinch them, and threaten them in their own home. I was not mean to them, I basically told them, especially the eldest, if you're going to continue with this kind of behavior towards my kids, then you are not welcome to be around them. I explained this to my husband, he knows the issue that his oldest kids have, he refused to share, and I'm not just going to sit there and be directed as a evil stepmother, because the older siblings or being assholes. It was worse when my kids were younger, we managed to pass that, but I did not forget, even thought my kids forgave them and moved on.

I'm not comparing the step kids and my kids. I'm just stating the facts and sometimes the facts hurt and people need to get help for their mental issues, and stop blaming their families, step family second family for everything that's wrong in their lives.

You seem to fail to understand that even 100% bio siblings can be mean and pinch their older and younger siblings? SO, you told your step kids they will be kicked out if they misbehave? Did you tell the same to your own kids when they misbehaved?
Jesus!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having an asshole for a step mom can do a number on you.

OP here,

Definitely not a bad stepmom. I welcome them in our house, respectful, and taught my kids to play nice all the time. My kids and I don’t fully understand their mental health because dh doesn’t share period. Not all stepmoms are evil.

And thought my kids to play nice? Why did they need to be thought to play nice, you kids?
Sounds like your DH knows you are evil, towards his kids from a previous marriage. Maybe you should let other people tell you, you are nice? I mean if it sounds like a duck, and it acts like a duck....it is a duck!

OP here,

I read some of the comments and now I understand why step families cannot have discussion and resolve problems. The reason my children had to be taught to play nice with their siblings are because step kids were violent and mean towards my kids. I understand that it was mental issue ,they were going through, but no one has to write to slap my kids around, to pinch them, and threaten them in their own home. I was not mean to them, I basically told them, especially the eldest, if you're going to continue with this kind of behavior towards my kids, then you are not welcome to be around them. I explained this to my husband, he knows the issue that his oldest kids have, he refused to share, and I'm not just going to sit there and be directed as a evil stepmother, because the older siblings or being assholes. It was worse when my kids were younger, we managed to pass that, but I did not forget, even thought my kids forgave them and moved on.

I'm not comparing the step kids and my kids. I'm just stating the facts and sometimes the facts hurt and people need to get help for their mental issues, and stop blaming their families, step family second family for everything that's wrong in their lives.

You are absolutely comparing the kids. You could have asked about helping your stepkids without mentioning your kids at all, but you framed it as your successful kids being so confused and needing to know what's wrong with their stepsiblings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having an asshole for a step mom can do a number on you.

OP here,

Definitely not a bad stepmom. I welcome them in our house, respectful, and taught my kids to play nice all the time. My kids and I don’t fully understand their mental health because dh doesn’t share period. Not all stepmoms are evil.

So what what exactly are you asking OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are your kids so old but yet not capable of understanding mental illness or that not everyone is capable of doing the same things?

That part.