What does your husband or wife reserve for just you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the answers on here are funny but like are y’all serious lol

Yep. Undiagnosed mental illness all over. OP’s DH is doomed.

[Anonymous]

He is a man. Ask him to take a walk with you alone once each week. DH and I sometimes have coffee together. Every night we watch Star Trek TNG. We did nothing for Valentine's Day this year but yesterday I saw his favorite flowers in the store and bought them for him. We give each other little treats from time to time -- a book or a special kind of chocolate.

[Anonymous]

Op, I’ve learned that we have to lead by example sometimes. Don’t wait for someone to read your mind if what you want is not their thing. Why don’t you propose some activities you’re interested in and see which ones he likes, do them a few times and they’ll become rituals.

What makes an activity special is your company, not that he reserved it for you only.

[Anonymous]

We sit down and have coffee together every morning, after the kids go to school, by phone if one of us is traveling. Just 30 minutes, sometimes a lot of conversation, sometimes both of us just reading the news in the same room. But the routine helps us feel connected.

[Anonymous]

My wife reserves blame, hate, and resentment for me. So grateful.

[Anonymous]

Cursing at me. Road rage. His best friend sees none of this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of thing are you seeking?

OP here. I just want things to be reserved for the two of us. It could be watching a certain TV show, going out once a month for ice cream just the two of us, an activity, talking about certain private or intimate things, anything. We don’t share anything with us two. Everything we do or discuss is also discussed with family, our oldest child, etc. I just don’t feel special.

He can't read your mind. You pick something that you love and you think he will love too and make it happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of thing are you seeking?

OP here. I just want things to be reserved for the two of us. It could be watching a certain TV show, going out once a month for ice cream just the two of us, an activity, talking about certain private or intimate things, anything. We don’t share anything with us two. Everything we do or discuss is also discussed with family, our oldest child, etc. I just don’t feel special.

Nothing that you mentioned sounds unreasonable, but it sounds like what you really desire is a deeper emotional connection with your spouse. And that's okay.

You can probably have that, but it starts with 1) accepting that your current relationship with him is the result of action and/or inaction by both of you over the years and 2) communication that you want to be closer to him and a request that he work with you to see if something can be worked out.

[Anonymous]

Lashing out his stress and built up anger.

[Anonymous]

She lets me see her naked, pay the expenses, get her a new car every few years and buy her expensive jewelry.

[Anonymous]

Farts.